What would you do if your child suffers abuse from a relative?

@ronaldinu (12445)
Malta
October 2, 2008 2:55pm CST
It is a well known fact that children do suffer an abuse from a family member or a family friend rather than a stranger. What would reaction be if your child suffers abuse from a relative? Will you keep it a secret? Would you report him to the police and other authorities?
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@dodo19 (32873)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
4 Dec 08
I would do anything in my power to ensure that my child or children were not abused by that relative or friend. I would report it to the police, I would not allow the relative or friend come anywhere near my child or children, ... there are so many things that could be done and that I would do. Within reason that is. I want to protect my children and I certainly would not be able to if I'm in prison.
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
3 Oct 08
This has happened in my family and the child was taken to the hospital to see to what extenf the abuse was. And the police was called on the abuser. It will not be tollerated to any extent, any abuse to a child. By any person what so ever! A child has enough to deal with just growing up. Having someone they trust to abuse them, is more than they should have to deal with. It should be reported and they need all the help that is available to them. Both of the people envolved is getting physical and mental help. They are healing. They rest of the family is as well.
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@vmksvmks (413)
• Canada
3 Oct 08
I would never keep in quiet however i would confront whoever and try to get to the bottom of things When i was an active school principal i had several occasions where abuse allegations were voiced but things turned out to be untrue When the opposite was true then steps were take to stop it and if police were needed so be it Good Luck Just make sure it is TRUE ?????
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@littleowl (7157)
2 Oct 08
Well being abused as a child by my step-father I would report the matter to the police and deal with it from there I could never have one of mine abused by another member of the family...littleowl
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@kcbabez14 (967)
• United States
2 Oct 08
I'd be in prison.. I'm sorry but my children and any child should be the most important.. If something was going on.. I'd murder them and then maybe report it but i deffently would not keep it a seceret.. No one should be touching my child.
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@getnbuy (1315)
• United States
3 Oct 08
In the past I have seen abuse in my relation's families and kept my mouth shut. I think now I would say something to the abuser, if he was a reasonable person. I have turned in neighbors for abuse, though and i would do the same for a family member now, too. Children are too valuable to be mistreated. Well meaning adults may just stand by, but that does not help the child, who is already helpless himself. The worst situation to be in is the situation of a mother-in-law seeing her grandchildren being abused. MILs opinions are not respected. If I couldn't do anything else I would report it.
@getnbuy (1315)
• United States
3 Oct 08
Another thought...Often paretns punish their children when the child had no idea that what he was doing was wrong. Parents need to make sure the child knows he cannot do a certain thing before dealing out punishment. The rule should be made and the result of an innfraction of that rule known to the child. Then if he will- fully disobeys he suffers the consequences. Which, by the way, should in no way be abusive!
• Canada
25 Nov 09
I don't care who the relative is, if they were abusing my child, I would call the proper authorities, and make sure that they pay the consequences for their evil and abusive actions. I would also make sure that they were no longer be allowed near my child, or anyone else's.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
4 Dec 08
Nobody comes before my kids. If I found out anyone laid a hand on any of my children they'd be in jail. If it was severe abuse or molestation or something I think I'd probably end up killing the person. Even if it were my own husband.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
9 Oct 08
I would report him. How is that fair to a child to not saying anything? That child is messed up for the rest of their life. They thought they were doing something wrong or they could trust this person and its ok for this person to do what they did to them. My husband would want to kill them. I have a list of people that I don't trust for some reason or another. Called me over protective if you will but I rather be safe then sorry.
@iyah10 (4116)
• Kuwait
8 Oct 08
Abuse is a very hard word that can be applied of for a person and if it will happen from one of my family member in any cause I would choose to report the abusive party and save the life and take the person who has been abusive and I will not keep it a secret for it determine the life of the person......
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
6 Oct 08
An innocent little child - A picture I chose for this category. It is a photo of a little child.
This is a pretty serious post you bring up. It is a horrible thing for any child to endure from anyone whether it be family or strangers. I would say that any kind of abuse should be reported. It is still abuse no matter who inflicts it. It would be hard for me to deal with the fact if my son were to be mistreated or abused. I would have to tell the authorities about it. I couldn't keep it a secret for the sake of the safety of my child.
• Ireland
3 Oct 08
If I ever found out that one of my children suffered abuse from anybody, not just a family member or relative, I think I would cheerfully strangle them with my own bare hands. If that wasn't possible, then I would of course report them to the police and to the relevant authorities.
@bjbailey (114)
• United States
3 Oct 08
We are going through this right now. My daughter did some stuff to my sons 3 year old daughter. My granddaughter. I am getting ready to go to her pre-trial today. I would report it know matter what. People have to understand what they do to a child when they are young carries over into adulthood and so on. Then they start a cycle of abuse. It is heart wrenching that this happened because know matter what she is still my daughter. But I have to stand by my son and the baby and let the law take care of the adult. It is a sad thing to go through and I want people to understand that kids may be resiliant but they are people and they have feelings. I hope everyone treats their children like they are the most valuable thing they have ever had. Take care.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
3 Oct 08
My job is to protect my child. Of course if it were a family member that were the abuser, it would make things a bit more emotional but it wouldn't change my reaction. I would report it immediatley. I would NOT keep it a secret!! That would be disrespecting my own child as well as leaving the door open for further abuse not only on my child but other children in the family that I love and possibly grandchildren in the future.
@salonga (28016)
• Philippines
3 Oct 08
I have not really encountered such kind of abuse because my love has always been well loved by my relatives and people around. I don't really know how I would react in such case but perhaps my instant reaction is to confront the person who abused my child and I would perhaps do to him first what he did to my child. Sounds like putting law into my hands, isn't it? But maybe I will not be contented if I could not put my hand on the abuser.
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
3 Oct 08
I know it is a well known fact that child abuse is more common to happy from a relative or a friend then a complete stranger and that is really messed up if you ask me,and I do not know why anyone would want to hurt an innocent child who has never done anything wrong,If when me and my fiance have children if I ever find out that one of our relatives is abusing them I would kick their butt and make sure that they are too afraid to ever touch our children again.
3 Oct 08
Hi ronaldinu, Yes, I would find out the facts from the child then I would report him to the authorities, I won't care who he is the child comes first and I would disown the family member for life. Tamara
• United States
3 Oct 08
Relative or not ...I would call the authorities. You can not put a price on a child innocence. I would validate that child by being that child voice. I would cry bloody murder and wouldnt care who heard it..
• United States
3 Oct 08
I would report it in a heart-beat. It doesn't matter to me who does it, it's sick. Oh, I mean sexually or physically abusing a child. It's sad for me to say, but I was abused at a young age by my uncle and told to "just hush" and this later lead to emotional problems. I wouldn't want any child to have to suffer with that all of their life as I have.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
3 Oct 08
i most certainly would report him to the police. why would anybody keep something like that a secret. if it was my child i imagine i would havr comfronted from the start. i have no sense when it comes to somone doing something to my children & they are grown now.