Military

Canada
October 5, 2008 3:59am CST
So my husband is off to Basic Training for the Canadian Army. When he left all I could do was cry. I've been up since 8am yesterday morning. I did have a 2 hour nap before he left though. But it seems like all I want to do is cry. I don't want to go anywhere, I don't want to see anyone. It doesn't help that my son is saying dada. The only thing I can say to him is that dada will be home soon. I just want to know if this will get easier. Share your stories of someone you love has gone away from home. I just want to know that it'll be ok.
2 responses
@lkoenig07 (289)
• United States
12 Oct 08
I'm sorry!! I know its hard. My husband is in the Marine Corps & he's been gone the past 2 summers for training. Each summer he was gone for 6 weeks. I had to tell him I was pregnant over the phone because he couldn't be here! As a military wife, there are sacrifices you have to make, and that's just one of them. I'm sure there will be times when your husband will be gone on special occasions (birthday, anniversary, holidays, etc.) and it will kill you, but you need to accept it & support him. Sometimes it helps me to think that he's going through exactly what you are, except worse, because he is sleep deprived, being pushed to his limits emotionally and physically, and misses you & your son just as much as you miss him. I know what its like to wait for the mail to come every day in hopes that you'll get a letter (even if its short) or to sleep with the phone & keep your phone with you all day, just to get a quick hello. Being a military wife is definitely tough!! Just remember to keep yourself busy & not to let it get you down. You need to be a good support system for your hubby (and your son when he gets older), because as I said, your hubby is just as sad & needs to know you're supporting him & not moping around at home. When my husband left for training last year, I cried the entire day he left. Then I realized its not going to change anything, and it'll just make me more depressed. So I stopped thinking about it (as much as I could), wrote him every chance I got, kept myself busy, and the time went by a lot quicker. Good luck & I hope the time goes fast for you.
• Canada
12 Oct 08
well he's going to miss our 2 year wedding anniversary and our sons 1st birthday. Some days it's ok. I miss him but not so much that I cry all day. Then there's other days, where I do something we always do together, or watch something and I'm right back to missing him. He does call every chance he gets though, he also text messages me. So it's not so bad. I'm getting used to being alone. My son keeps me busy. We go for our walks. We play. I'm trying to keep it as normal for him as I can. I know he's coming home for 3 weeks at christmas. I know I'll see him again but sometimes it still hurts. It sometimes feels like we broke up when I know we didn't. Somedays are better than others. I know we have sacrifices to make and I knew that from the get go but it's still hard. I just keep going day by day. I just long for the day he'll be home and I can hold him in my arms. Thank you for your words or encouragement. It means a lot to have someone talk to me who's going through what I am.
@patzel88 (3311)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
if we marry a military man we have to accept that he will really lift us alone and more sacrifices to be maid for our family.
• Canada
5 Oct 08
he wasn't in the military when I married him. I knew he wanted to and I knew it was going to happen. But when he got the call to leave like 3 weeks ago it hurt. I just thought I'd have more time with him is all. But like you said...sacrifices must be made for the family.