18 year old takes his own life.......

@Wyldrose (1216)
United States
October 6, 2008 9:55am CST
What a horrible tragedy. An 18 year old boy took his own life over the weekend. Shot himself in the head. His mother came home from work and found him in his bedroom. From what I understand, he has had a history of depression and was on antidepressants. He came to the hospital one night while I was working and had taken some pills..Some friends who knew the family better than I did said that he thought killing himself was a big joke. He did it for a reaction. Well he got one alright..... For the life of me, I can not understand why an 18 year old, who has so much potential, would kill himself. What motivates these kids to do something so horrible? He had plans to go into the Navy and according to his mom, things looked promising. She went to work, everything was fine, then went home and found her son in his bedroom. I cannot even begin to imagine what went through her mind. I shudder everytime I think about it. Do any of you know anyone who this has happened to? Why would a child want to commit suicide? I just don't understand it..........
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
6 Oct 08
This is just horrible! I feel so bad for the mother. I can't understand in the first place why someone would take their own life, but for a child to do it where they know their mother will find them is just beyond comprehension. This poor mother is going to live with that in her mind forever! I don't know why some teens feel that their life is so bad that they want to end it. I only wish that they would give their parents some indication so they could get the help needed to grow into a healthy adult.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
6 Oct 08
Hi ya Wyldrose I don't know anyone personally but there was a story here in England recently where a young chap, I think was also 18, was up on some building somewhere and had stood there for 3 hours threatening to jump. Obviously a crowd had gathered below and started to take pictures and, wait for it this is sick, egged him on to jump. He eventually did but I seriously don't believe he would have done if the crowd hadn't kept on telling him to. Normally when people are going to jump they just go and do it, those he linger are crying out for help. The negotiators said that they had persuaded him to come back over to safety but because of the crowd he changed his mind. I can't believe people can be so sick but some people just are!
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@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Oh wow..that's awful. The poor boy must of felt alot of pressure with the crowd yelling at him to jump. Too bad he listened to them and not the negotiators. That is really a shame..and a waste of such a young life.
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
8 Oct 08
wow.... those who told him to jump should really get their minds checked!!! what kind of sickos tell someone to jump, and kill himself? the man was crying out for help... and if they had any love for human beings they will ask him NOT to jump!!!! it is just disgusting. and what if people who had been in the crowd had been the family member, it will tear their hearts to hear their neighbours, to call their family member to kill himself. it is just so sad and disgusting!!!
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@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
8 Oct 08
i kinda understand why he did it, not approve though, but understand why... i almost want to commit scucide last year. could not cope with the stree, and could not let out me feelings. was cutting myself almost everyday, and just made my parents' lives a living hell.. and i was 17!!! i was crossing the road, and wanted to just stop... even when the van was coming towards me... just stop, close my eyes, and wait for the impact. then i remembered my family, my sister, my brothers, and the fact that i will go to hell... and forced myself to contunie walking. i went to get help that day, my school councillor, and i think i am a bit better off now... now that i think back, i am really glad that i did not do it... life is so much better now... so, yeah, i think i understand...
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@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I am so glad you went and got help. I'm glad you are better now. Thanks for sharing your story.
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Depression is a very serious thing and every person that makes an attempt to take their own life should be taken seriously. I feel so bad for this young man's mother. What she saw will never leave her mind. I am sure she is also dealing with feelings of guilt wondering if there was more she could have done. Life is so overwhelming even for adults. To some ending it all seems to be the only solution. This is a sad way but at the moment it is all they know.
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@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I agree with you. His mother will have to live with that memory for the rest of her life. I can't imagine going through what she did. It's a shame her son did what he did the way he did it.
@sharra1 (6342)
• Australia
7 Oct 08
I feel very sad for the mother to come home and find him like that. To me it sounds like depression or he could have got himself caught up in something and could see no way out. It is sad that he did not tell his mother as she might have been able to help him find a solution.
@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I can't even begin to imagine how his mother felt to find her son. I think he had had a bout with depression that's why he was on antidepressants. His mother had tried helping him. I do know this for a fact.
• Jamaica
7 Oct 08
Lots of young people are taking their lives today because of peer pressure. Sometimes they see their schoolmates exceeding in materials things that their parents can't afford to give them, so they feel they are not living up to the lifestyle of modern days. This is really a pressure on young people. They are always comparing themselves to others, but parents need to be on the alert and somehow find counseling for these young ones before it is too late although it is already late for some.
@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I agree...thanks for sharing.
@rickiely (257)
• Australia
7 Oct 08
Hi Wyldrose, i truly think that we wouldn't know how it feels unless we are put in the person shoes. For us to know the emotions and feelings running through the person head, we would need to be in the same situation.
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@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Good point. Thanks for sharing.
@1hopefulman (32406)
• Canada
6 Oct 08
So very sad!
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@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, it sure is....
• United States
6 Oct 08
This stinks! I knew 2 young men that did hang themselves.. from the same tree one year apart. I said that I can't believe that they never cut the tree down the first time that this happened.. I am so sorry for this young mans mother.. what a awful thing to do to her. He more then likely knew that she would be the one to come home and find him.. He did this to her on purpose. She did not deserve this. I would be out of my mind if it were me,, I have got so upset over my pets,, I do not know what I would do if something happened to a child of mine..
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@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
6 Oct 08
That's awful!!! I agree, it was an awful thing to do to his mother, and very selfish. He didn't leave a note or anything. I can't, and don't want to, imagine how I would react in a situation like this. I get upset when my kids and grandkids get sick...this would be devastating.
@thanujad (405)
• Sri Lanka
6 Oct 08
I'm sorry to hear your story. I think after the incident of taking pills, he should have been treated. Maybe a psychologist or a councellar. 18 is not a good age to get depressed. They hardly know to handle it but the parents and people who are around should talk to him and guide him to do the correct thing without hurting his feelings. At that age they don't know to think far. They'll just do what they think is right.
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@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
6 Oct 08
Thanks..and I agree with you. He should of had more adult guidance..Maybe he did,though, who really knows?
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
6 Oct 08
As a mother I don't know what I would do in that situation. This is a tragity. I can't imagine what would be so horrible at that young age that would cause such a young person to do this. I know a few years ago we had a child in middle school kill himself. He also had a history of depression. His parents were distrot by this and had to move. From what I understand he was being bullied in school. Please if you have a child or know of a child who is depressed or being bullied get them some help becouse this is the result.
@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
6 Oct 08
That's awful. I've heard bullying in school is running rampant. Fortunatly my kids didn't have to go through any of that. I feel for the family of this young child you are talking about. What a shame.