can you tell your best friend anything?
By jhl930
@jhl930 (3601)
United States
October 6, 2008 7:41pm CST
i always thought that people could always tell their best friends anything but then i heard awhile back that most people don't tell their best friends everything because they are afraid of how the other will react and they don't want them to look down on them for what they might have done, and i thought that this was really weird honestly, so i was just wondering about all of you, can you tell your best friend everything or do you hold things back? i would like to take this time to thank you for taking the time out of your day to come by and read and review my discussion and hopefully answer, i hope that you all had a great weekend and that you have a great and safe week, thanks again for taking the time!
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18 responses
@katkat (2378)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
I have a couple of close friends that I can talk to and say what in my mind, I know I can trust them and we try to understand each other not to be judgmental. But, I believe there should be a “boundary”. I don’t share my deepest thought not of fear to be not understood but it is something that I should keep to myself. I don’t say that I don’t trust my friends, as I say they are trust worthy. I still want to have my privacy.
@eveofsummer (94)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
i have many friends,but i have only one best friend whom i share everything,even my darkest secrets and deepest thoughts.i am not scared that she might take me differently because of what she'll find out about me because i'm confident that she will always accept me as i am.in the same way,i know everything about her and love her as she is.
one of my apprehensions,aside from the fact that i don't feel comfortable confiding everthing with other friends,is that they might use whatever knowledge they have about me against me.it's amazing how other people can twist the facts to their advantage.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
7 Oct 08
my philosophy is that not one person knows everything about me. in high school, i had 3 best friends and i would tell them things separately. pretty much whoever was available to listen. but i feel a personal can't always tell someone everything about themselves and they need to keep some things to themselves. now this is on a situation basis since it really does depend on the topic. i think as long as your 'trust' your friend and they do the same, then it doesn matter what you do or don't tell them.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
7 Oct 08
yeah I can. I know her well I know I can trust her with my life if I have to.
she is a bit sensitive so I can trust her with anything but in regards to her feelings I will have to choose the right words that's all I need to do
this is how we become best friends actually, she knows I wouldn't lie to her about anything and that I am capable of giving as much as taking
I really miss her, she is in my homeland she can't afford to get here I wish I had the money to bring her and sponsor her to live here
she has her own small business, it's local, so unless I can hook her up with business opportunities here she can't just abandon it and leave
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Almost, I can tell her everything but there are things that I still don't share with my bestfriend. Some things that me and my hubby only knows and I know she is doing the same thing with me too; I find it "good" because we know how to respect each other's boundaries as best friends. I am so lucky to have a friend like her in my life because I am not force to tell everything especially when I don't have too... She is not here with me right now and I hope to see her the next time she visit here in our place. I miss her a lot! Cheers!
@glords (2614)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I could tell my best friend anything, but knowing my friend I choose not to tell him everything. Why should I tell him things that will upset him for no reason. For example if he asks "isn't my chicken cordon blue delicious" My answer "It's fantastic." (At least his mother thinks so) So it might be a small alterations from the truth. Who does it hurt in the end? I guess maybe its wrong, but its all in the name of love.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I can and do tell my best friend everything. I tell her all the good and bad. She is always there to support me threw my difficult decisions and many times to lead me in the right directions if I have made some dumb mistakes in my life. I don't see how anyone would be afraid to tell their best friend anything. If they are truely your best friend they will understand and help you with whatever you need.
@Humbug25 (12540)
•
7 Oct 08
Hi ya jhl930
Yes I can tell my best friend anything as nothing would shock her, she has already been there and done it way before me. 
@ashvini_urs (415)
• India
7 Oct 08
to be frank even i don't tell everything to my best friends
this is because there is a saying that when you tell your problems to some people
few are ignorant
few just don't listen
few are careless
few are happy that you have a problem
so i haven't found a friend to whom i can share everything
but i tell everything to my mom and my dearest one viju
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
7 Oct 08
There are things in my life that i dont share with my bestfriend. Not merely because i am afraid she will be dissapointed and upset but i dont want to share every secrets with her since she might share it with her mom or anybody she thought she can trust. And it might end up into a disaster which might end up our friendship. I dont wanna complicates things when i know that nothing good will come out if im going to share it with her. There are things i do share with her but there are also things i also keep to myself.
@pinkpassion5 (351)
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7 Oct 08
You bet. My best friend of eight years knows me inside out. I share everything with this friend. I do not worry about being judged at all. This friend listens and offers support when they can. Often times is just there to listen and let me rant. When I have an issue to deal with or just need someone to listen, this is the friend I turn to. It's an amazing feeling to have someone in your life like that. Everyone should be so lucky.
@platinum601 (276)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Well i thought i had a best friend before. I used to tell him all the cool stuff that nobody knew about and he also told me. But we also had you know the "Guy Talks" like some of the stuff we used to talk about was supposed to be strictly for guys. Well he told his SISTER this, which i dont care as long as i dont find out, BUT i did find out because his sister told MY SISTER!!! I was so pissed off. Im thinking to myself, what an idiot! I have not yet mentioned this to him yet because im saving it for when i really get pissed at him. I kept this discovery to my self for 4months now and i am ready to blow it up in his face when i find the perfect opportunity.
Oh Yea, im so slick...
lol.
@bharathysanthakumar (18)
• India
7 Oct 08
If he/she is your best friend and trusty, then their is nothing problem in sharing and telling with them. but at the same time, if they aren't, then it becomes a big issue between you two people. So be careful not in deciding whether to tell or not, but in deciding whether he/she is a best friend or not.....
@abrooks414 (2)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I don't think anyone tells their best friend everything. I know I don't. I tell them the majortiy, because there are things that you can't even tell your best friend. If I do, I will leave out some details. I give this person just enough information to help me out with some advice if I need it. Because I agree with you, I don't want them looking down on me. I always want them to see me in a positive light.
@nheil472 (157)
• Philippines
7 Oct 08
of course not even if he/she is your bestfriend. there's a saying that "don't trust anybody except yourself" and i do believe, im not saying you just keep it in yourself but make it to the point that what you say is something good which cannot hurt others you know...give yourself a little privacy also..it is nice to have friends and you can share yes.. but be careful always especially your words..maybe your friend is your enemy. happy posting!
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
7 Oct 08
Hello jhl. I think that everyone still has some of the deep secrets that he is not willing to let his best friend know about for his own safety. And I think that it is better to have something special kept in the mind if you don't want to let it out unless you wish to. What do you say, buddy?
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, I can. I can tell anyone anything, though. You know how some people tell the truth when they're drunk? I'm always like that. But I don't really tell other people's secrets. The only thing I won't discuss is my bowel movements- which, my mother does. Everyone knows about her constipation and gas. And everyone also is alerted when she went to the bathroom.
@AmyBethYes (96)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Me and my best friend tell eachother everything. No matter how embarrassing or how much we're afraid other people might judge us, we can tell eachother. We have a really great relationship. I just recently moved 350 miles away from her but we still talk several times a week where we just unload all of our secrets and doubts to eachother.
