Do you and your partner have a lot in common????

Canada
October 7, 2008 9:13am CST
My husband and I have been married for 9 years. And I would say that we have some things in common but not alot. We have good conversations, and we learn from each other. I think that by not having alot of stuff in common we connect more, and open each of us up to one anothers interests. Opposites attract right? For example we both like the same movies, same music, same beleifs. But he likes chocolate, I like vanilla, He is messy, I am clean. He is kinda shy, I am more outgoing. The list goes on and on. It must be working be cause its been 9 years though...lol.
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27 responses
• United States
8 Oct 08
Wao, married for 9 years, so sweet. I have been married with my husband for half a year, and we share a lot in common. We r from the same place, our families live very close. We have the same hobby, we enjoy watching movies, reading good books, drinking tea, a lot....
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@glords (2615)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Me and My Hubby - Dancing together
I don't think my husband and I have a lot in common, but since we love each other we try to be interested in each other. I go golfing with him and he goes to the theater with me. I think the more you work on it, the more you start to enjoy the same things. I'm sure after nine years you have more in common than you think.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
7 Oct 08
You and your hubby sound like me and mine. We have a few things in common but not a lot and thats what makes our marriage interesting too. We have been married 7 years and still going strong.
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• United States
7 Oct 08
This describe my boyfriend and I almost to the T. You learn so much from a person that is not like you. To many people marry people that are exactly like themselves and get sick and tired of each other. There needs to be a balance! Sometimes we need to suck it up and do things we might not totally enjoy to do but we do it to show we love them! I am an outgoing person and my boyfriend is more of a grounded person. With that, he teaches me so slow down in life and enjoy the ride. Good Luck you are on the right track!!!
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Oct 08
My husband and I were married for 34 years. we had a lot of things in common, and some not in common , I was an introvert and he personified the word extrovert, he loved everyone, he made friends so easily .wow. while i was more aloof and more reserved, I was shy and he was one, we balanced each other out and go along really great.We were best friends and lovers too. I have been a widow now since 1991.
• United States
7 Oct 08
me and my husband have a few things on common.before he joined the military him and I both related to each other on just about everything but since joining it i can't. he'll come home and talk about his day at work and be using all these military lingo and stuff and i'm like baby speak regular so i can understand you.
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• United States
7 Oct 08
My boyfriend and I are pretty much opposites too. I think it brings balance to our lives and I love to look at the world through his eyes.
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@Avi_Gan (191)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
I am so happy for you. I'm always happy to see other women living there happy ever after because I'm living in one. My husband and I are very different from each other. We're two years married and 5 years total of being together and so far and I'm very happy with him. If it's even possible, I'm happier each day. Before, I've dated my best guy friend. We were so alike in so many ways that pretty soon I got so bored. It wasn't at all exciting to begin with and after awhile, we just became two boring people. Going back to my husband, we are different in our outlooks in life, in our beliefs, in our likes and dislikes. He's very conservative and old fashioned in his ways. He's steady, dependable, he excels in a lot of sports and has a lot of medals to go with it. I'm more of a liberal minded person, spontaneous in my actions, I don't like being pinned down, I enjoy reading and playing instruments, I suck at sports. When we met, he doesn't eat anything but meat and I was a vegetarian! We are two very different people but we have learned to complement each other. I'm the first to admit that our relationship wouldn't have worked if he gave up on me. In the beginning, he was very patient with me and my emotional baggage. I don't have any patience at all, I had a lot of angst... but he said I taught him how to be more assertive. I'm always jumping into things and saying yes to everything when he's always has reservations to try new things and we've learned to meet in the middle. So, I think we became the best of ourselves by being together. In all aspects of our lives especially if it's a financial decision, we have benefited from being polar opposites because together, we can think about the all aspects of things. The best thing about us is that we can discuss our differing views without getting mad at each other, I think that's the key. And also, we trust each other's instincts, so whenever we have to make a decision, we make them by reaching a compromise or else we don't make a decision.
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
9 Oct 08
same like you, there are similiarities and differences between me and my partner. certain things we share the same taste. other things we are as different as day and night. this doesn't affect out relationship at all. we give each other the space to do what we like. we also do things together when we both like it. we've been together for the past ten years and we are still going on strong. so i guess the trick is in accepting the differences. cheers ;p
@balasri (26554)
• India
9 Oct 08
I must be lucky to have a partner who shares my taste in every sphere like books,food,movies,music,dress sense and conversation.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
9 Oct 08
It sounds as if you compliment one another. I wish you many more years of married bliss.
@gtdonna (1740)
8 Oct 08
Opposites do attract, myself and partner do have some things in common as well as our differences. I am the quiet one and he is outspoken, I am clean and he is messy, he likes chocolate and I like any other flavor that is not chocolate . We do have same taste in stuff liek movies, music and sports, but differe since I am a book worm and he don't liek reading...I like cooking but he don't like being in the kitchen much
• United States
8 Oct 08
I'm not so sure. What we do have in common that matters is a devotion to our children and love for one another. Neither would do anything to harm the marriage, like cheating or anything like that. We are different in many ways, too, but as we are friends that seems like enough to have in common.
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
8 Oct 08
its funny how things just get to change when you are married to somebody as time goes on you justr find that you tend to do some things in common ,i do have a lot of things in common with my wife but not all things we still have our differences but not sommuch that we cant mange or handle
@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
8 Oct 08
My husband and I have some things in common as well but we came from different backgrounds. We sometimes disagree but we work it out. We have enough in common and enough that is opposite. So we get a long really well. We've been married for 4 years and I do agree about the opposites do attract.
• China
8 Oct 08
My wife and I have have a few in common,she like costume but i like sport,she like dress herself different every day but i am not......All these are not important i think,because we love each other,we have deeply feeling.
@rizna19 (10)
• Sri Lanka
8 Oct 08
My hubby and I are total opposites! he is very quite and reserved whereas I am a bit of a chatterbox!Infact half the time i dominate any converstaion!also i am very temperamental,at the beginning he was too but lately he has taken to being the peacemaker!so whatever fights take place he ends up sorting it out tactfully!however we get along fine.he doesnt crowd in on my space and neither do I his!also he is great with the kids!
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
8 Oct 08
oh yes... we do have lots in common... but we also do have lots of differences... that's why we argue quite a lot as well everytime... but that make our lives more colourful and it just shows that every individual is unique... nobody is exactly the same and we can't force other people to be the same like us... that's why i learn to accept my hubby's differences to reduce the argument in the house... take care and have a nice day...
8 Oct 08
we've been married for 15 years. Funny but its true-we only both have the same interest in music.. then we differ in everythng.. eating habits, opinions, prioritise and liesure time. he's a homebody-loves to be in front of tv's, me loves adventures, always on the go.. but we are still in tack with each other no matter how different we are. BORING? definitely NO!! we always have a topic to discuss of how different we are yet we are the same... see, it doesn't matter how common or how different you are as long as you connect- its all that matters!
@barigwak (97)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Im messy and his orderly.Im kinda of a lesbian while his somewhat like gay or shall i say very "PRESERVED".We love to eat pizza. We like the color green. We have the same birthday,though born in different year.