di i have the right to tell?

@becnh83 (806)
Philippines
October 7, 2008 8:34pm CST
this is all about my younger sister..she got pregnant and the worst is that my father who work abraod does'nt know about her situation today all he know is that my younger sister is still studying and my mom does'nt have the guts to tell to my father about it coz she's afraid that my father will get mad and because of he's away from us my mom afraid that my father may got sick after he will know...so my mom decided not to tell so i plan that i will be the one to tell the whole story to my father...what do u think, do i have the right to tell my father about this?
6 responses
• Argentina
15 Dec 08
Since I don't know if you went through this or not, I'll respond. I don't think you should be the one to tell, but I also don't think your father should be left out of it. Unless your sister is thinking about terminating the pregnancy. Mind you, I'm not suggesting she should get an abortion, I'm quite against it, but I also don't judge people. My point is this, he will find out eventually and your whole family will have to deal with this situation. What do you plan to do? Hide the kid in the basement? What you should do is group your whole family together, make a front to support your sister and let her be the one to tell him. Remember, the whole family will be involved in the situation, but at the end of the day it is her child and her responsibility. What your sister needs right now is support, she needs to know the people she loves will back her up. She's probably extremely scared and the last thing she needs is having someone she loves going behind her back. Rich
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@allen0187 (33145)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
hi. didn't noticed that the discussion was 2 months old. anyway, how'd it go? i'm assuming you'd already told your dad. it is the right thing to do. better to tell it to him now than wait for awhile. a child is always a blessing regardless of the circumstances. there maybe extreme circumstances but still a child is a blessing that should be nurtured. i do hope everything went well. cheers!
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@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
8 Oct 08
No, you shouldn't be the one to tell your father. It is up to your Mother and Sister to decide if it is right to tell your father. It is likely that they don't want to tell him because of the stress he is already feeling from working away from the family. Knowing about your sister would add to the stress and really make him sick. Think about it, if something like that happened to you would you want your sister to tell on you? Let the telling be up to the people directly involved in the situation. In this instance you are an outsider since you aren't the one who got pregnant and you aren't the one who caused the pregnancy. You could very well alienate your Mother and Sister if you are the one to go and tell your father about the pregnancy. In short, DON"T DO IT, YOU WILL CAUSE TOO MANY PROBLEMS IF YOU DO!!!!"
@becnh83 (806)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
hi loverbear sorry for the late reply, thanks.. i follow what u have said i let my mom tells to my father about the situation
• United States
15 Dec 08
I personaly think that keeping situations like this a secret will only inturn hurt the people involved more Especailly your father. He will probably be hurt more by the fact that this was hidden from him, than the fact that she is pregnant. I hope things turn out the best Im sure its gotten out since this was posted Good LUCK!
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
There's no other way but to be honest to your dad and tell the real score. Tell it to him gently in a way that you're giving him hints that your younger sister is indeed pregnant. This will lessen the shock value of the problem. Give hints like tell your dad "ummm.. dad... (name of younger sister)" then pause for awhile.. then say "she's umm..." . I'm pretty sure your dad is smart enough to get the real picture. Of course he'll get mad but that's the truth and we can't anything. Telling the truth will set your family free. Move on because there's always a future ahead of you. There's no better way than to be open to family members. Be transparent.
@ledeenz (25)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
tell your mom first of your plans,since this is her big role as a mom. if she is afraid still_so tell your father. its your father's right..and definitely you have the right to tell_as a sister and a family. God bless!