Parenthood

October 8, 2008 7:29am CST
I'm gonna be a FATHER!!!!! I'm a bit freaked out, happy, scared sh*tless, feel like laughing and crying, telling everyone in the world and passing out. I can't believe it! I'm only 19, my girlfriend is a year younger and we werent stupid, we made sure we were protected and this came as one HELL of a shock lol. Her mum is taking it far better than mine though (?) which is a bit strange. How old were you (or do you think you'll be) when you found out you were going to be a parent and how did you feel? Oh, and any tips would be welcome too lol
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16 responses
@mansha (6301)
• India
9 Oct 08
Your mom's reaction is quite natural as a mother in law is expected to. Some girl finally hooked her preciuos little boy and she can not swallow that, lolz. Read up Dr. Spocks book on child carte its best that there is. Join Babycentre.com to learn how old is your baby and what he needs, its a good site. Most imprtant take care of the mother of the child and be there for every appointment of hers with the doctor. Take care of her which I sure you will because yo do sound like a concerned partner. I am happy for you, nothing like the feeling of having a kid and then holding him in your arms. Caution: Be ready for would be motrher's mood swings and tantrums, its simply her hormones playing havo with her. Just bear it with a smile. Even if you do not want to get married just be there for her every step of the way.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
oh congratulations!hehehe you'll be a father soon and you'll have a beautiful blessing in your girlfriends tummy..i dont have a baby yet.. i want to have kids..someday!!hehehe i'm just 22.. i wnat to have kids maybe when i'll be 25.. take care of the baby and show your girlfriend love and be very supportive to her.. be a very good father to your child and be mature to face the consequences of yout actions. goodluck to fatherhood myfriend!
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
9 Oct 08
first of all, i want to say congratulations to you... 19 is such a young age to become a parent... but if you and your gf think that you are ready, then go ahead... just make sure that you read a lot of parenting books to get ideas of how to take care of the baby... and you have to start to earn money to feed the baby too... child is a blessing from God... so enjoy it... take care and have a nice day...
• United States
9 Oct 08
I got pregnant when I was 20 and my mom's response was "Ashley, what have you done?". I did not marry the father of my child because I don't think getting married b/c you are having a kid is really a smart thing to do. If we wanted to be married, we would of been already, before I got pregnant. It wasn't a planned pregnancy but life does go on.
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Congratz! You're too young though. Hehe. Lately Ive been thinking and wanting to have a baby of my own. But I just turned nineteen last Sunday, and I am pretty sure that the world has lots to offer and awaits me. I am just envious of those people around me who are getting pregnant and they seem joyful about it! Good luck to you and your child!
@yajjelo1 (16)
9 Oct 08
hey bro.mixed emotions at first but then it'll be ok. as long as love is there it wud'nt matter. do love ur wife and ur upcoming angel. well,congrats to u.it's the best gift from heaven:)
9 Oct 08
Congratulations!!! good for you coz you are happy to know that you are a father. but you have a long way to go, so hang on there and enjoy every minute of it...goodluck
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
oh you're too young to be a father.but at any rate,it really doesn't matter as long as you're responsible enough to know your obligation to your going to be child.and mind you,it's a wonderful feeling having a child,you just could'nt explain it.It's so amazing ang wonderful, especially when you already see your baby smilling and staring at you as if you are the only person in the world to look at to..cheer up,not every couple was given a priviledge to have thier own baby..congratulations to both of you..so many great things ahead of you and your baby...
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
9 Oct 08
just wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS to you :) im sure you're freaked out but you'll get the hang of it. relax and enjoy it :)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Wow! Congratulations metalmaz! You were shocked but I'm glad you're happy to become one as well. I'm already 27 and I'm about to become a mother in December. I am so happy with this pregnancy since my OB has told me in the past that I would have difficulty in bearing a child. I wanted so much to become a Mom and I see my son as a precious gift from God. I'm sure your baby is God's gift too, all babies are . Hmmm, tips.... This is actually my first time, but well I wanna share something to your girlfriend. My pregnancy is somewhat scary because I was morally condemned and abandoned by my loveones because of this. She may feel depressions as well because she's still so young and that this came as a shock. Tell her not to be overcame by too much sadness, as this may affect the baby. It's important she'll keep a positive disposition from now on. We wouldn't want to harm the baby do we? Congratulations again! Be the best Dad there is!
@tikei18 (359)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
I'm currently 8-month pregnant. Just like my boyfriend, he'll be turning 19 on Nov. 30 and i'll be turning 18 on Oct. 18. But in our situation we were not careful to have a baby. we really want to have a baby. That is why soon we'll be parents. :D And i also have no idea how to be a parent. But how we feel. We are both happy!
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
9 Oct 08
Awesome but that was way too young for me. I didn't have my first till i was 28 and thank god because i wasn't ready for it either because i partied way too much to be a dad. Anyway congrats it's not that bad but your party days are over unless you got a babysitter close. Plus all the money that you got extra just turned into no extra because you have to buy all sorts of stuff for the kiddo, even when you get a bunch of freebies. Trust me i got alot of freebies and i'm still broke. GOod luck it is pretty damn fun!!
• United States
9 Oct 08
I am a father of 8 year old twins. I was 25 when they were born and my wife was 22... she already had a son at the time who will soon be 11. Even though I was 25, I wasn't ready. I don't think you are ever ready to have your first child. But i wouldn't change it for the world. My son has autism, and my daughter is just unbelievable. i wouldn't want them any other way. Don't be scared... I am sure there are plenty of people that will be willing to help you out if need be. Just make sure you stay on track, find a good career and take good care of that baby (congrats by the way). Your life will soon be changing dramatically. You will find that your priorities will change, and your family is always first, at all costs. The good news is, you're still young enough to where you can travel, party, or whatever after your child is older. I wish you the best, and am somewhat envious. Take good care of your girl and your soon to be beautiful baby.
@sray81 (50)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Conragts!!!! I was 21yrs old me and my husband had been married a while and the doctors said if i did get pregnant i would never carry full term (i proved him wrong). so me and my hubby took a job traveling and loved it but i wasn't feeling quit right so i got a test and took it to my suprise in a hotel room in crossville tn on fathers day. i was more shocked and scared then happy and had to stop traveling and working until i had my beautiful little girl. tip: be supportive and be there for your girlfriend throughout the whole pregnancy and delivery tip: make sure no matter what happens between you and your girlfriend that you always make time for your child. tip: she will get moody and seem unreasonable but just go with the flow and even if you did nothing wrong apologize (remember her hormones are out of wack) GOOD LUCK AND MUCH SUCCESS TO YOU BOTH!!
• United States
8 Oct 08
hey congratz! remember to take everything in stride.
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
i got pregnant when i was 19 too, but my husband is older than me with a stable and decent job. well, you may be excited this time because the trying times is yet to come. so what's your plan? are you two going to get married or you'll just raise the kid together? in my opinion, getting married because you got her pregnant is not a solution. i have seen lots of people during my time that opted for this solution ended up with a miserable and dwindled life. because, you're still young and you wouldn't realize the feed backs of your actions just yet. so try to think things over while you still can and try to save some money. go get a job so you can feed your child and provide his needs. otherwise, you'll be depending on what both mother's will provide for the three of you.