Stealing

@mojcica (1512)
Slovenia
October 8, 2008 10:33am CST
I was in a goccery shop, shopping for some milk. There were four sales clerks just standing near by, chatting to eachother. I saw an eldery lady taking something from the shelf, putting it secretly into her bag. The shop clerks didnt notice anything because, as said, they were chatting instead of doing their job. I didnt say anything. For two reasons. First I didnt want to expose my self and get involved and the second one was, that clerks should be doing their job and should have seen it anyway if they werent too busy chatting. So I thought if they dont give a damn I dont have to either. What do you think about this? Should I said something, get involved even if it wasnt my business or not?
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
8 Oct 08
Seeing as it was an elderly lady then I probably wouldn't have said anything either mojcica. But if it was a child I more than likely would have said something to them and made them put it back. I would then have told them that if they did it again I would tell the store. I guess it would be easier to address a child in this instance than an old woman! Even if I did decide though to do something in the older lady's case I would still confront her directly and not involve the staff.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
It might be easier if it was a child, but this even didnt cross my mind then. What botherd me most was those women there just bla bla bla when they should be watching whats happening in their store. Am i suppose to do their job? I think not.
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• United States
8 Oct 08
I probably would of tipped off the service desk & mentioned that if there wasn't a hen house of gossip @ the end of the aisle maybe they would of spotted her themselves. I have stopped lil kids before from doing it or mention it to their parent. When my friends kids were small they took a bunch of cards from a gift shop in the mall and when they took them out of their coats I made their mom & them march back to the store give over the cards & say sorry. I don't regret doing it, they had to learn it wasn't right & my friends answer of "they are just kids" didn't cut it w/ me. And I don't know how many other things she's not instilled in them as they are in their mid teens now and out of control.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
It is sad that you had to do it, when it should have been their parents teaching them its not right. I remeber when i was a child a bunch of my friends stole some chewing gums, i didnt want to but did not say anything. I know some say that is the same as stealling but I dont know. It might be, but if I then said something i'd loose my friends...we were only around 6y old, a child cant decide on whats right and what isnt. I knew stealling was wrong so I didnt do it, but didt feel 'strong' enough to tell on them or stop them from doing it. thx for your post.
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• United States
8 Oct 08
I know she was a young mom & got married young too but still. KWIM? They had like 15 cards between them both and I think the oldest was mabye 4ish? it's not like it was just one but a bunch they took out of their jacket. I always wondered where they'd seen the idea to put it in their jackets being so small? eitherway that gal has bigger fish to fry w/ those girls as she's now a grandma @ 34!
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
Grandma at 34??????' WOW, im not even a mother and im 34 LOL I should really hurry up hehehe It is possible that she was teaching them to steal?! You never know...might be that.
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@salonga (27955)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Well if I were in your place... I will call the attention of the sales clerks regarding the shoplifting incident. Any crime or wrong-doing that is within my capacity to be stopped, I'd always do the needful. Yes, indeed the two sales clerk were chatting, instead of doing their job but that is not a reason to sort of tolerate the shoplifter. If shoplifters will not get apprehended they'd be doing their thing on and on and on and chances are one of you friends or relative might be their victim next time around. I think if only all people will learn how to care and to be concerned about the things happening around and do the needful then this world would be a better place to live in. Imagine a shoplifter was able to run away with stealing just because those two sales clerks were not caring about their job... (they will not be missing the shoplifter if only they do care about doing their duties) and also because a person did not care about reporting a shoplifter just because the salesclerks themselves anyway do not give a damn about their job. Oh no! What would this world become if all people will lack concern!
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
10 Oct 08
Mhm, i see what you mean and do agree with this. I really do, but unforunally the world is as it is..not perfect and neither are we. Im glad you live by these rules and if many were it might have been different, even better. Have a lovely day and thanks for your insights I appreciate it.
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@salonga (27955)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
I admire your being open minded my dear! Surely, that will be to your advantage! I wish you all the best here at myLot!
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
10 Oct 08
Thank you! Yes this is something I am, open minded and always trying to accept other people's belives even though I migth not agree with them always :) No need to, i think it s agood thing we are different, right :)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I would of said something to the clerks. Slealing is stealing...it doesnt matter who is doing it. If you don't say something then you are just as guilty.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
Do you really think you are just as much to blame? No matter what is the situation? I dont know I might reacted differently if they werent preoccupied with chatting and wouldnt see it..maybe, im not sure. thx for posting.
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• United States
8 Oct 08
I'd feel guilty for not saying anything + annoyed that the conversation was more important than a customers concerns.
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I'd probably just give the old lady a look so she would know that i am aware of what she did. stealing is bad no matter how bad she need it or something.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
It wasnt the matter of need, it was some liquid chocolate or something like that, I guess she stole it because she had the opportunity and probably has done it many times before and after. I did look at her, but she acted as if she didnt see me.
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
8 Oct 08
oh wow. oh well... people can be really bad at times :) if they can get away when done one time...they'd do it again
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
9 Oct 08
It is sad that people steal. In this case, there is no excuse for this lady's actions, but she probably is on a fixed income, and wanted something special, since you said it was a liquid chocolate. I would imagine, the way the economy is now there will be many more incidents like this. Who knows, maybe the clerks did know what she was doing, and tried to play it off like they did not see. I know what you mean about the chatting clerks, sometimes you can go in and take the whole store and they wouldn't know what is happening because they are too busy socializing. I do not think I would have gotten involved, since it is not my job to watch the merchandise, and the clerks should have been doing THEIR jobs.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
10 Oct 08
yes, who knows what the reasons were..she shouldnt have done it, the clerks shouldnt have chatted that much, I should have said something...should, should, should lol So basicly all three of us did something wrong, probably just prooving noone is perfect hehe. Thanks for posting and have a great day :)
@pkraj111 (2459)
• India
9 Oct 08
I would have done the same as you. With elderly people there are only two kinds of theives. For need or because of some mental disroder. Whatever their reason might be, I wouldnot embrass her or myself.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
9 Oct 08
Is kleptomania a mental disorder? Hm, it is in a way isnt it..that might also be the reason for what she did. thank you!
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
9 Oct 08
I wouldn't have said anything if I had seen it I mean times are tough and I'm sure she is on a fixed limited income and she probably isn't very proud of the fact that she has to steal food to eat because she can't afford the prices anymore. And it would be like turning my granny in for stealing I would feel bad.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
9 Oct 08
ouch, you're right it might aswell be my granny too. Sounds a bit weird, you would expect such thing from someone younger not a granny :)
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• Philippines
9 Oct 08
I started a discussion about this about a year ago. I caught a shoplifter and she actually saw that I saw her, but then I never reported the act as well. I was actually shocked and I didn't know what to do that she quickly walked away with the "loot". I admit I was a little guilty for not being vigilant and for letting her get away with it. But I was thinking maybe I still wouldn't report her even if I had the chance. I took pity on her actually, she wore shabby clothes and I can tell she was in great need, thus the shoplifting. I know I'm trying to justify a bad act, but well, what happened happened and sigh... I still cna't get myself involved in such nasty situation.
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
9 Oct 08
I know what you mean feeling a bit quilty, but I too cant get my self involved, it might be just shock or fear I dont know, i just dont like to put my self in the middle of these things :/ thank you for your post!
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• United States
8 Oct 08
Considering it was an elderly woman I probably wouldn't have. I know that sometimes they just don't get enough money to live on and maybe her taking something was the only way she'd be able to get some food. I know stealing is wrong, but sometimes people just need to find any way to live.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
9 Oct 08
I agree sometimes it is the matter of surviaval. Still not ok to steal, but at least more understandable. Thx.
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• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Oh!! this is tough!!! If I am the one who saw the incident, I would never say a word. Maybe the elderly lady also need something and she has no money to buy. We all know the crisis today. But then, I would not be at peace also thinking that she is already old? and she steal something? Maybe if I have a chance I will talk to the old lady and tell her that I saw her. She might have problems at home where I could be of help. What she did is not good too. Maybe some other government institution could help her if she needed one. Not for her to go around the store and steal? I must do something to help the woman if she really need help or it is her business to steal? she should be dealt with too. And those ladies would also be dealt with.. because of their negligence of duty.
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
I dont think that in that situation I would even consider helping her, not at a time...mainly becouse of the surprise and shock. Though this lady wasnt in need, judging from what she stole, unless she was making a cake for her grandson and was in desperate need of cake decor lol. Im sure he'd be happy to know granny stole it for him :) Im joking, because Im sure she was stealing for there was opportunity and she jump to it. I do know all of them, the lady and the workers should be held responible, but I dont think it is my duty as a customer to deal with this and point fingers. thank you for the thoughts.
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@thanujad (405)
• Sri Lanka
8 Oct 08
Yes. I think you did the correct thing by not getting involved in that. workers should have known or even if there were hidden cameras, the people who are monitering them should have seen. If not that is their fault. You are not the one to be blamed. Be happy.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
Yes, exactly, that what I was thinking at the time. Actually still do...unfortunaly I am not some kind of good samaritan to be saving the world. Would be if it was really of high importance. thx for your post.
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@virinchi (82)
• India
8 Oct 08
I don't think what u have done is correct because today it happened with them tomarrow it may happen with you....So u shouldn't entertain such type of actions even it is done by elder people...We should feel it as our responsibility to prevent atleast those actions which occur in front of our eyes
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
I didnt take into concideration her age, but much more lack of interest of those who were responsible for the shop. And they didnt seem to mind what was happening in the store. Therefor I didnt feel obligated to interfere. I agree it might not have been the right decission, but honestly in the same situation I'd do the same again.
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@rainmark (4306)
8 Oct 08
If that happened to me, im not going to shout or sceam towards the thief. I just keep quite and pretend that i never see her to steal on the grocery, i also don't want to get involved directly. What if someone get revenge on me on the street of one of her companion. I maybe go to the counter and secretly tell that that woman steal something. So in that idea, i am get into trouble. Happy posting.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
Ones safety is also in question, I agree. Afterall is this worth getting yourself into trouble? I mean we should always pick our battles carefully. I decided this one wasnt mine to fight and I didnt. Thx.
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@Valenas (1510)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I would not have said anything either, but for somewhat different reasons. The biggest reason that I can think of is that the person that is caught might react much more drastically than what it would be worth to report him or her for stealing. There are some people who, when they get caught, reason that they were busted for something that they should not have been doing in the first place. This mindset occurs much less often, but it would be nice if people could just accept that they did something wrong and are being punished for it. Some people believe that it was unfair that they were caught. "I was caught because the world is out to get me," "I was caught because I am a minority." Basically, a person may use any sort of reason to pass the fault to. Another viewpoint is that, "If I get caught, everyone else should be caught." Sometimes this is limited to other people stealing. Sometimes it is spread into some unhealthy obsession of pointing out every wrong step that the world around them takes. The more people they "bring to justice," the more people that might be walking around pointing out faults, producing something similar to a bitter infection.
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
You never know how someone would react. it could very well be, that this lady was in such situation before and wouldnt matter to her anyway. Some just have the need to steal, maybe she was one of them. Or maybe she would make a relly big mess out of it. I wonder if it's worth the bother? Yes if it is your job, but if you are just an observer...who knows.
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• Malaysia
8 Oct 08
Hi Mojcica, i believe no one like to steal, it should have certain reason. For me, i really feel guilty if i were to steal. If the eldery lady is doing that, i wonder she really don't have money, i might go near by and offer to buy for her instead let her get caught. But of course, the action woud not solve for long turn, she have to learn not to steal, but at least this round she would get caught.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Oct 08
True, some might do it because of the need to survive, this one stole something really insignificant (some liqud chocolate to decorate cakes you know) so im positive it was just cos she could get away with it. I have hepled many with money as you said it is not a long turn solution but it helpd for that moment at least.
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• India
9 Oct 08
As a humanity,we must catch them
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