Am I over-protective?

United States
October 8, 2008 10:55am CST
My son, age 14 just started to ride his bike to school. It's not far, by bicycle it's less than 10 minutes. There are no MAJOR streets to cross, but the traffic around the school is crazy. I ahve him call/text me when he gets to school every morning...am I being to over protective? I don't think so. Anybody have any stories of parents being really over protective of their kids?
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@grammasnook (1877)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Not at all. Now if you said you refused him to ride his bike I would have responded differently. My daughter is 20 years old and when she drives home I ask her to call me. It isnt that I dont trust her driving I dont trust other peoples. It puts my mind at ease, and she understands completely
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• United States
8 Oct 08
That's exactly right, grammasnook. It's not that you don't trust your own children or grandchidren...but that you don't trust the rest of the world. You just never know...
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I think that's good, i call home everyday when i get to work to let my boyfriend know i made it. There is a lot of crazy people out there.
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@ItsMeJen (17)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I don't think that you are over protective... it just gives you peace of mind. I am 52 and still have to call my Dad every night or he has to call me when HE gets home. It just lets everyone know that we don't have anything to worry about. If he does it and don't say....OH MOM... you'll know when he has kids...he'll act just like you!
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I don't think you are being overprotective. You just want to make sure you child is safe. I have a 14 yr old too. If he goes somewhere after school, I ask him to call me to let me know where he is. This way I know he is safe and I know where he is.
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• United States
8 Oct 08
I agree that he is learning a common courtesy (that isn't necessarily common). Every family has courtesy things to do. With my family, when we're leaving, we honk the horn as everyone waves from the door; when traveling I call when I get to where I'm going to others will know I got there ok; when going out I let someone know where I went... I expect similar things from my kids. They need to be in when the street lights come on, they need to check in with me, they need to let me know where they are going to be playing... etc...
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
8 Oct 08
no, not at all. you just care too much to your boy. a text from him would make you feel comfortable and peaceful knowing that he is safe.
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• United States
8 Oct 08
I would have him do the same thing. You are just having a piece of mind and the safety of your child. Good job that you are doing.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
8 Oct 08
That's not overprotective. Your son is learning common courtesy. If he goes out with friends, he calls you and tells you where he's going. If he needs a ride home, he calls you. If he were sick at school, he calls you. Since you are ultimately responsible for him yet, he is simply checking in with you so that you can do your job as parent. Now if you were crying everytime he called or if you were following him halfway down the block waving and shouting goodbye, then you might be over doing it. I think you are just being wise.