People Staring

@donna22 (1120)
October 9, 2008 2:59am CST
Does anyone else hate it when you start to cry and people just stare at you? I understand that they may feel uncomfortable and do not know what to say but them doing this makes ther person cryin feel umcomfortable and all they have to say is "are you ok?" or something along those lines. I think when they just look it makes me feel like they are questioning whether or not I should be crying and thinking I am silly for doing it.
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• India
9 Oct 08
I still remeber d day when I failed to get placed in a company after my interview I started crying standing in front of that company. I knew that's bad and everyone kept watching me. But was just not able to control. All of them who noticed came towards me and asked me not to cry. Felt so disgusting :D Quickly wiped off my tears and came home running :) I still repent. Behaved so childishly that day..
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@Munchkin547 (2779)
10 Oct 08
Crying in public is one of my worst fears, i hate the feeling of vulnerability and people staring at me. I can remember one night - probably the worst night of my life, i was staying near to one of my friends when something awful happened, i'd had too much to drink to drive so i walked over to her flat, crying my eyes out, i must have walked past about 10 people who just stared at me, not one of them bothered to ask if i was alright or if they could help! I think one of the reasons that i hate crying is that it makes me feel as though i am vulnerable and not in control, and that';s not the image i want to give out to other people. xxx
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• United States
10 Oct 08
I absolutely agree. I hate crying in front of anyone... especially because my face gets very red and splotchy looking and people stare. It always makes me feel like they think I am ridiculous for crying. I never really understood how people could be so "uncomfortable" when someone around them is crying... Everyone cries, and usually they just want somebody to comfort them or be left alone.
10 Oct 08
It hurts more when the first person you expect to care just stares at you and make you feel he doesn't care at all. Sometimes it is better to hide your true feelings because it makes you appear like a loser whenever you cry in front of somebody who doesn't care at all and it doesn't help as well if someone will ask you why you are crying. They won't be able to help you with your situation. Only you can help yourself. Tears are just there to clean your eyes but it doesn't wash away the pain.
• South Africa
9 Oct 08
We have a saying where I come from, there is nothing more dangerous than a wounded animal! They're afraid if they come near you'll have a go at them! But, I'd probably ask if you're ok depending on the situation ! People often mistake good people for everyday lunatics that wanna kidnap you and do stuff to you simply because you show concern for someone you don't know!
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@kedves (728)
9 Oct 08
there is nothing wrong with you crying and it is just a natural release of tension and sorrow. i think most people look on not because they think bad of you but simply because they do not know how to help you. most people are sympathetic and most people will wish to help but sometimes we feel inadequate to help and it is hard to put your arms around a stranger to offer comfort.
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@postergal (214)
• Egypt
22 Nov 08
I hate it when they stare and I stare back at them and see no love in their eyes. Suddenly their eyes turn into walls for me, I feel like some door was locked in my face and I even start crying more.
@omar0913 (943)
• Legaspi, Philippines
10 Oct 08
I never asked a crying person that question, are you ok?. I can see trough their facial expression if they were hurt or laughing with tears. So basicaly I will ask a crying person like, what or who made you cry, and after that I'll offer my help and if they don't want it so let be. You know if you see a person was hurt and started to cry, asking them are you ok? is stupidity, why ask a person if she's ok infact you already know he or she was hurt. A wounded person will never be okey, if you don't reach out your hand to them.