Well, 2 of my over 200 friends replied to my discussion..

@dragon54u (31609)
United States
October 9, 2008 5:30am CST
It wasn't a really limited kind of topic, I thought it was one that most people could identify with, about how you spend your time on the job, the time your employer is buying from you. So I don't think it's because people aren't interested. I bust my butt replying to discussions from all my friends. I have my notify turned on with everyone, and check every day. I spend my mornings before I go to work replying to my friends's discussions and a big part of my evening, too. Now, I know I won't get rich posting replies. Or receiving replies, for that matter. But it would be nice if, out of 200+ friends, more than 2 replied to a discussion that I made, as I have strived to reply to theirs. I'm about ready to erase nearly all of my "friends" and just go solo. Have you ever felt this way? Do you have all you "notify" turned on or do you just catch these discussions as you can when you have the time? Right now I have over 100 discussions to respond to--if I don't erase all my friends.
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@Thoroughrob (11756)
• United States
9 Oct 08
I did see the discussion. I did not reply, because I do not work. I stay home to take care of things with my disabled son. So in return, I had nothing to contribute to your discussion. I only answer ones that I feel I have something to contribute. I am not trying to ignore anyones posts. You do answer alot of mine, and I thank you for that.
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@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
See, that's a good reason for not responding and I surely can't fault anyone for that. I was really hoping for a good discussion and getting some peoples' viewpoints on the subject. On the other hand, maybe they are like me so they don't reply. I read discussions I can't contribute to, either, so I know where you're coming from.
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
9 Oct 08
I don't quite get to the point of feeling the way you do about discussions from a friends answering angle dragon but I do sometimes wonder where the heck I went wrong with some of my topics! lol. It is always so hit and miss on mylot when it comes to posting discussions and there have been so many times when I really thought I had something good and ended up very wrong! Yet there are other times when I out in nowhere near as much effort and thought on a topic and end up with 50+ responses. Go figure? I don't have notify on for any of my friends by the way because the constant emails drive me crazy! But I do have a core group of friends that always make the effort with me and I do the same in return. I am actually thankful it's not all 240+ of them that do this otherwise I would never keep up!
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@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
9 Oct 08
I've had that happen, too. Something I think would be a bomb becomes a hot topic and something I figured would get a lot of responses didn't. Well, I feel this way because friends are supposed to support each other here. We aren't really friends but supportive acquaintances. If we would all respond to our friends' discussions, everyone here could probably earn $30 or more per month. I'm kind of hurt, because a few of my friends always get a response from me but they rarely contribute to my discussions. Oh well. I make the pennies anyway, it'd just be nice if I got some help.
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@webeishere (36355)
• United States
9 Oct 08
If all my friends answered every single discussion I started I could probably make a few hundred dollars a month with 450 plus friends. Wooo hooo! But that is not my expectations. Whoever answers is fine and those that don't answer is fine as well. I just keep at it one way or another as I love this site. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Oh, I like this site a lot, too! I'd just like some more interaction. I feel as if I'm talking to myself all day sometimes, posting on here. I enjoy give and take.
@schulzie (4066)
• United States
9 Oct 08
That happens to me alot too. I put up discussions and if I am lucky I get a few responses, usually around 6 - 8 responses. Anyways, I usually go and give + marks on my friends discussions even if I don't respond to them. That way they get some credit for them. I did not respond to this particular discussion you mentioned as I am a stay at home mom and this did not pertain to me at all. I did however give you a + mark where your avatar showed up. Hang in there. I will go look at some of your other discussions right now. [b]Have a great day and happy myLotting!!! [/b]
@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I enjoy your discussions, too! Thanks for the +, I usually do that when I feel I can't make a contribution. I'm finding my time constricted since I got a job (and I'm very grateful for that job!) and I just got ticked off, especially since I lost so much of my retirement funds lately. I'm glad you're a stay at home mom. Boy, you have a rough job! I did that for 18 years and it was the most wonderful thing, I loved it but it was hard work. I wouldn't have missed it for the world.
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• United States
9 Oct 08
ack , I am sorry , I am soo sorry. I have not really been on the last couple days . SOOO much work lately . Please forgive me dragon , you know i try to comment on what i can when i can . I think you a very cool person here and I am happy you are a friend to me here
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@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I know you're good about replying to your friends. I've been really busy, too! I'll be catching up a lot of the weekend, I have discussions piled up in my mailbox taking up 8 pages!
@airl1527 (355)
• China
9 Oct 08
Hehe, i can understand you. i experienced the same as you. Don't be sad. if your friends don't come to you, you can come to them.
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@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I noticed in my mail that you've started some discussions the past couple of days. I'll get to yours, I promise! I have a mailbox full of notifications and just got a full time job, hooray! It sometimes takes me awhile, but I respond to my friends 95% of the time. Thanks for your reply!
@webeishere (36355)
• United States
9 Oct 08
I've about 450 friends. Now should I expect to get 200 replies to my discussions? Not at all. I have had discussions with one or two responses only as well. I did not start over with friends. I just moved on figuring they were not interested ion those topics I wropte about. I do not answer all my friends discussions either all the time. It is those that draw my attention that I respond to. Some I have nothing I coulod say on the subject so I do not respond. We all seem to answer whatever attracts our attention first and foremost here. I sure hope AI am not one of thjose you delete. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• United States
9 Oct 08
Well said, Grandpa Bob! We all have our reasons for not replying to every discussion. Back in July I was replying to 100 or more friend discussions daily. Then, I got bad hand pains. Thought it was arthritis. Then, I figured that I should slow it down, since as you mentioned, we're not getting rich off this.
@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I would never delete you! Actually, I wouldn't delete anyone, I like everyone on my friends list but would really like some more interaction with them.
@1hopefulman (25925)
• Canada
9 Oct 08
I don't have my notifier on for anybody. I just look around and post as the subject catches my attention. Once in a while I'll focus on somebody and see what they are up to, someone picked at random. Sometimes I'll even look at posts with no reply and comment on a topic there. I'm not overly concerned about anything, I just enjoy here and have fun!
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@1hopefulman (25925)
• Canada
9 Oct 08
See what I mean, eh you want to be friends?
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@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Cool, we're now officially friends! I do enjoy it here. Lots of fun people an interesting subjects.
• United States
9 Oct 08
I have the same problem both here and on other sites, too. On one site, I have people who I almost always comment on their posts, but they NEVER comment on ANY of mine. I think they only keep me on their lists so that they can promote their stuff. I don't expect everyone to reply to ALL of my discussions or posts, but c'mon NONE of them? If they don't like my material, then why do they have me on their friends list? I only have a handful of people on my list with the notification on. These are people who I have found that I enjoyed their discussions and can answer most of them. If I have extra time, I come to Mylot and answer even more of my friends discussions if I can.
@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
You and I get to interact on a frequent basis here and I do enjoy "talking" with you! It feels like rejection when you don't get friends replying, doesn't it? I guess they're either busy or can't identify with the subject but at least I know now that someone else has the same problem. Aside from you and a very small core of my friends, mostly it's strangers that reply to mine!
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
9 Oct 08
Well Dragon, we all have those days where we start a discussion that is of great interest, but nobody replies. It's happened to all of us. I do not have the notified feature turned on. Even if I did, I could never get around to responding to all of my friends discussions. This would only serve to fill my email box and make me feel guilty for not getting to them all. I work outside the home 40 hours a week. I sneak on mylot throughout the day. I try to answer as many discussions as I can without getting caught. When I come home, I will come here and go to the "friends started" tab. I will usually only reply to those discussions on the 1st page. Occasionally, I will go the "no responses" or "recent" discussions as well. So you see my friend, we all of our different methods, time constraints etc.. Although we would love to get to all of our friends discussions, sometimes it just doesn't work out that way. I applaud your efforts, I don't know how you and so many others can keep up when the rest of us can't I must go now and get ready for work.
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@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I, too, am now working 40 hours a week--hooray!! My mailbox is full of discussions, I plan to get to them on the weekend. I really don't expect all my friends to respond, but most of the responses I get in my discussions are from strangers that I don't know! Weird. But I do enjoy meeting them. Hope you had a great day at work!
@cripfemme (7718)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Maybe they don't have anything to day about the subject or are just too busy to reply right now; that happens to me at times. Don't give up on Mylot folks yet!
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@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I won't, thank you. I'm very crabby this week and shouldn't have let it spill over into here. I have a more than a hundred discussions sitting in my mailbox right now that I haven't replied to because I got a new job--which I'm thrilled to have but I'm having some trouble adjusting to a new schedule. Thanks for your reply!
• China
10 Oct 08
Hi, I am a recruit here,I can read the discussons from my friends everyday. As my English is poor and I have to work in the day,so,I can't reply everyone.But I always do my best to reply.I love mylot,love all the friends,so I hope you can keep it.Thanks for your discussion!
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@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I'm sorry you found me so grumpy, I'm not usually this way. You have very good English! I work in the day, too, I think I try to do too much replying to all my friends. I like your cat picture, too. Hope you continue to enjoy myLot, it's a great place and I really shouldn't complain!
@Hatley (164757)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi dragon I am so sad for you i felt that way several times but you just never know what will trigger peoples interests, and some of what I felt were not my best discussions drew a lot of responses. Maybe it is sometimes better to make a simple discussion that appeals to all, rather than a more serious one as you will get more responses that way I guess. keep your chin up you will get more responses in time.
@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
You're right, of course. I just get in a snit sometimes. It's been a hard week for me and I'm tired. I just got a wonderful job that I like and am adjusting to a new schedule. I'm crabby! Thank you for your kind words!
@kenzie45230 (3561)
• United States
9 Oct 08
I don't get upset about such things. Either my friends have time to respond or they don't. Either they're interested in a discussion I start or they aren't. It's not a big deal to me. Personally, I don't have any notifications from any site about activities. I learned about a year ago that sometimes sites like this have problems. One of my other haunts had a gliche and when it was fixed, I had over 6,000 emails. I immediately turned off all notifications and won't ever use that function on any site again. Period. So when I come here, I check to see what discussions my friends have started. If something interests me, I'll comment. Surely real friends don't want others to comment on something that doesn't interest them, right?
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@dragon54u (31609)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Yes, you're right, I don't expect people to comment on things they're not interested in. That wouldn't be very much fun for either of us. Wow, 6,000 emails?! I hope that doesn't happen here, I'd be in real trouble!