Is your partner sure of your love?
By pinkytabor
@pinkytabor (818)
Philippines
October 9, 2008 6:57am CST
I have come up with this because I've been feeling a bit unloved lately. I kept on thinking about how much i love him, how much i've given up just for him, and then a thought hit me. How about him? Does he feel the same way? Perhaps the reason why i do not feel loved because i fail to look at things from his point of view. Most of the time, we love someone the way we want, the way we are used to, but not the way we should - the way they want to be loved. This is why even though how deep, strong, intense is the love we feel for the other and how hard we try to show this love, it doesn't seem to be enough for the recepient. He/she is still unconvinced, unsure and still could not really feel your love.
What's your say on this?
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2 responses
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Hello my friend, as I was reading your post, I am thinking of my hubby and if I have showed him how much I love him. well I thin he never doubted it, the fact that I am here with him, giving on every wimps he have, it does not bother him really, actually he is not that concern about love, he is more concern on fidelity and sometimes he get so jealous and possessive which in my case is the way I can feel I am loved. I know for some over jealous and possessiveness is no good, not to me. I guess he really is secured on my feelings for him, after all I am the one who pursue him
For you my friend, maybe while you were thinking about it, feeling unloved, he too feels the same. Or maybe he loves you dearly, it just that he don't know how to show it. During our first few years of being together, I always doubt if my hubby truly loves me because he is not showing it, but then I have learned to accept that he have his ways of showing it, I just have to appreciate it more.
For you my friend, maybe while you were thinking about it, feeling unloved, he too feels the same. Or maybe he loves you dearly, it just that he don't know how to show it. During our first few years of being together, I always doubt if my hubby truly loves me because he is not showing it, but then I have learned to accept that he have his ways of showing it, I just have to appreciate it more. @pinkytabor (818)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Thanks pehpot. Well, we both are sure of each other's love...have learned this only after a heart to heart talk. AT least now, i will not just say "i guess" but "i am sure." I learned that he feels so much love from me everytime i cook for him and iron his clothes. I thought though that by my being sweet, and affectionate, he will really know that i love him. Same with him, he helps me with the boys, takes out the grabage, vacuums the floor but it's not just enough for me. I wanted his time and he thought he is giving me enough love. Well, thank God for we were able to communicate and address this problem. So now we begin the show love the way the other wants and needs and not the way we want. All the best in your marriage! (can you now PM me? I already sent you one, hope you received it.) Regards.
@bhushanbodkhe (819)
• India
10 Oct 08
u knw one thing man has this nature frm the beginning of the world....he is never satisfied with wahatever he gets...he demands more.....same in the case of love....if ur lover is not getting enough love then he will always think tht something lacks in his life.....One should try to understand the needs of the partner and do things which makes him feel loving.........try to be close to him as much as u can....try to knw his desires...n try to fulfill them...may be he has some probs.......spend lot of time with him....i m sure he will love u more than anyone else..........
