My 17 month old daughter fell from the chair - head FIRST

@babyfuzz (1079)
Philippines
October 9, 2008 10:47am CST
The people in the house ran towards the baby. They were alarmed of my shrill shout. This is the second time she fell head first. The first time was from her crib. but she fell on wooden floor and we are on the 3rd floor so the flooring is hollow. What worries me is the flooring where she fell, it's marble tiles. She had a lump on her head, but she's fine after crying for a minute. I hope nothing bad happens. The doctor said it's too early, we won't be able to detect if there was any internal damage. My gush... I feel like a very bad mommy. I didn't even rushed into her when she fell. I was so guilty leaving her to the maid. I was in the bathroom preparing her bath things. I don't want to blame the maid since first of all, it's not her responsibility. Maybe she thinks that I'm just asking for favor, and that I don't pay her for looking after my daughter. Besides, accidents happen. But from now on, as much as possible, I'll carry her anywhere I go. Hubby's a bit ticked. He thought I was busy doing nothing. Oh my...
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@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
9 Oct 08
Don't feel so bad, babies do things like this, whether we're right there or not. My kids have taken so many spills I've lost count. The first time one of my kids fell, my oldest son was about 5 months old. I was at school and my mom was watching him. She called me at school to tell me he'd fallen off the bed while she was changing his diaper. He was perfectly fine, no harm done. My second son, when he was a toddler he would purposely head dive off the arm of the sofa and land flat on his head. He'd get up and laugh about it and go do it again. About a year ago my toddler who was a year old at the time fell while walking and hit his head on the metal leg of a chair. He had a nasty bump, and I was worried for awhile, but he turned out fine. Last week my 5 year old got a nasty bump on his head from tripping and hitting his head on a bike pedel. Kids fall and get bruises, bumps, scrapes and cuts all the time. It's part of being a child.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Yeah, I guess so, that's where they'll learn. Learn from experience, learn from the fall, in the literal sense of it. hehe! I think it's okay too, since she's exploring, learning about cause and effect. What bothers me is the long term effect physically. You have very active kids there. I'm sure they're handful but adorable kids. Thanks for sharing your experience. Accidents happen, i know, even if I'm practically in watching her, she still gets hurt. I want to be there for her every second of her life. But I realized that's not possible.
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
9 Oct 08
Hi babyfuzz Yes you are correct accidents happen your not a bad mother you had someone looking after her and its not thier falut either kids will get hurt. Now I have always been told that as long as the bump is out not in then they are fine that means no internal damage. I wouldnt worry too much just try to explian to her she has to be still when she is on things or she will get hurt. As for the flooring I would get carpet or just put a thick rug down
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Hi! yeah, I know accidents happen. But we can control it. I mean, I could've ran to her when she was calling me. I thought she was just playing on the floor. She was shouting, "mommy, mommy!" before she fell. Maybe she wants to be picked up. But I didn't go to her, that's why when she stepped forward, she fell. ouch... And yes, I think we badly need to child-proof the house. Her granny said she'll buy her a helmet. "An ounce of protection is a pound of cure" (did i get it right?) Thanks, heaven11!
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
9 Oct 08
Oh I can rember the times I wished I could put mine in a bubble. right befor my daughters 2nd birthday my son and her were playing on the swingset and they got off and started fighting over a chair well he slung it around and hit her with it and cause her to get 4 stitches right above her eye that I would have to say was the worst but they have fallen so many time
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Ouch! yeah, I don't want her to get stitched or go to the hospital for that matter. She seemed ok so far. But I will still observe. anyway, they say, the head or skull is really tough. I do hope so. The skin is what really breaks and that's the part that needs stitching. My neighbor fell and also got stitched because of me. I hope your kids are fine now. I mean, the physical scar will heal. Emotions last long.
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
9 Oct 08
accidents do happen especially if your baby is already 17 mos old. my baby fell too. just as long as the doctor dont see anything bad yet...she'll be fine. just try to be more careful this time.hitting her head is really serious.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Yes, I know... too bad for her. I do hope that there's nothing bad that will eventually pop up besides the lump on her forehead. she looks happy though. ^^v
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
9 Oct 08
all i know is if she's still the same and she's still acting normal like she's used to then she's fine. nothing to worry about. but if she threw up blood or something and she suddenly became quiet then it's serious
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
yeah, that sounds really serious. she's perky as usual. I don't think she got scared. She's now jumping up and down the chair again.. very active kid.. hehe! Scares me to my nerves. I hope she'll be fine. thanks again, shar! ^^v
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
9 Oct 08
How's your baby doing now, babyfuzz? When I was a baby, an older cousin accidentally dropped me by the stairs. Luckily, my dad was there to catch me a few steps later. And I think I turned out okay. I've read a lot of the other posters that say don't be too overprotective and I agree. It's similar to the thinking that children living in houses that are too clean tend to get sick more often because their bodies don't know how to react to the virus, dirt and dust that children who get to play around are exposed to.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
She looks fine. Thank you!... Yes, they say that we need to catch dirt sometimes so we'll get used to them. That's how immunization works right? They inject us with the virus/bacteria so that our bodies will get immune to the virus. I also fell down a lot of times. I think I'm okay too, regardless of my height. haha! ^^v
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I'm glad to hear that your baby is looking perfectly fine now. Take care and I think you're being a good mom.
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Thanks, saintanne. She's perky as usual. ^^v
@animeniak (425)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I'm sorry your 17 month old daughter fell from the chair... that never happened to the newborn baby we have at home (i'm her uncle btw) I was kinda shocked myself to read the part that your baby's head fell first on the marble floor (or wooden floor?) and hopefully there will be no brain damage to that (I don't know how big they are at 17th month)... nah I don't think you're a very bad mommy (but it would've been nice if you actually rushed to your baby if you were alerted) well hopefully things will get better for you and have a nice day :) happy posting too :)
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
yes, thanks animeniak.. I bet you like anim├ęs.. hehe! me too.. anyway, yeah, I purposely didn't rush into her so that she will not think that I'm panicking. but deep inside, I'm debating myself, why did I leave her or entrusted her to someone else. I know it's not the maid's fault. I'm the mother, she's my responsibility. yes, it's the 2nd time the first time on the wooden floor, and now it's on the marble... Her granny always say that "be careful, baby!" but I feel deep inside she thinks that I'm irresponsible or something... ^^v
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
9 Oct 08
You are not a bad mom. Accidents can happen even when you're standing right there. Just watch for signs of a concussion- disorientation, confusion. If anything out of the ordinary happens in the next day or so, bring her to the doctor. Chances are good she is fine. Children fall all the time. My son, a few months ago, fell and hit his head on a rock. He had a bump the size of a baseball on his head within minutes. He was fine other than a headache and a nasty bruise that lasted a week or more. I understand that you feel bad- I felt horrible when my son fell- but try not to become too over-protective. That may cause her to become scared, and you don't want that. She is a toddler and this is probably not the last time she will get hurt. Just be there to comfort her and try to make her environment as safe as you can.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Yes, I believe so, too. Thank you for the message. I do hope nothing really bad will soon come out. She looks fine so far. I'm just worried coz she's just a baby and her head might not be that hard/strong yet. When I was a kid I fell and bumped my head and butt a lot of times too. I thought it was funny and crazy, you know, kids! But nothing really bad happened to me. But an accident occurred in our house. My playmate fell in while we were playing in the front yard. It was my fault since I coerced him into playing there. He had his forehead stitched. He was crying, "mommy, i'm gonna die!" We were like 9 year olds then. It stuck in my mind. I don't want that to happen to my kid. huhu...
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@VE3IYB (209)
• Canada
10 Oct 08
Been there, done that except I was 5 months old! My Grand Ma was sickly since she was about 18 years old. She had a hospital bed in her room. So my parents were down to visit my Fathers Parents and they put me on the bed. To prevent me from rolling they put all the pillows in the house around the bed so that I could not fall out. Apparently I didn't get the memo about NOT rolling and rolled over top of the "pillow wall" BAM I went onto a hardwood floor. My sleeping eating and general behavior changed. My mother had me up to the Dr. who dismissed that anything was wrong. The next day she went back to the same Dr. who again said that nothing was wrong. After the third day and a second opinion Dr. an X-Ray was done. I had broken my collar bone in the fall which explained the above. At 5 months old I was too young for a 60's technology cast so they let it heal on it's own.
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Aww. how are you now? I'm sorry to hear that. 5 months old was too young. You're such an active kid. when mine was 4 or 5 months, she's like just lying around, doesn't want to go anywhere. Granny said she's kinda lazy. when we went to doctor, she said we had to reduce her weight. That's the reason she's not actively playing. She can't carry her own body. anyway, baby's only 30 inches and weighs 20 pounds. Looks normal for now. I can't wait to go to the pediatrician. Thanks for the info, VE3IYB. ^^v
@VE3IYB (209)
• Canada
11 Oct 08
I am fine, really (eye twitching nervously) hehe Our son also broke his collar bone when he was 5 years old. We were at a friends place and their dogs left a tennis ball lying on the floor. My son didn't see it, slipped on it and his shoulder landed into the leg of a table. Now this would be a non issue except that the table was old skool with real wood. He broke his collar bone hitting the table leg.
10 Oct 08
I wouldn't worry too much, my friends brother fell lots of times and hurt his head. He is a happy and healthy teenager and is very intelligent. My mother dropped me as a baby in the bath once and froze in a panic state, her friend had to get me out. 25 years later and she still feels guilty. It is normal to feel bad but kids have scrapes and bangs all the time. Besides taking normal precautions there isn't much else you can do!
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Hey, that's a funny one. I'm glad you turned out to be fine, creative, and genius. Lol! Maybe I will not forget this particular incident too. It keeps on repeating inside my head, blaming me... sigh... ^^v
@gemini_rose (16194)
10 Oct 08
You know, some babies have a lot of bumps to the head, all my boys were always falling on their heads as babies and my sister in laws little boy is always banging his head too. It does not matter how much you watch them, accidents happen and you must not feel bad. Also, if a lump appears on the head then it means that the damage is out and not in, my doctor told me this many times, a lump is the bleeding under the skin that causes the bruise and my doctor told me that they worry more when there is no lump after a bad fall. You have taken her for a check up so she should be fine. The only thing about carrying your baby everywhere is that she will want you to do it all the time!
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Thanks for the medical insight, gemini_rose. Yes, that's what I'm afraid of. I don't want her clinging around me all the time because it might lose her confidence. She was in the stage before "separation anxiety". She wants me to be always at her sight. She didn't want to go to other people besides me and from the familiar people to her. She screamed "mommy" every 5 minutes that I'm away. But she passed that stage already, well I hope so. I can leave her to the maids and to her daddy. She tags along with her Granny and other aunts even without me. When she returns, she hugs me tight and says Mommy all the time as if we're apart for a long time. ^^v
@cmela22 (13)
• United States
10 Oct 08
That must be very distressing! Something similar happend to my child and I still haven't forgiven myself, and of course my ex husband won't let me forget it ( like I ever would). This thing is your baby is young and hyperactive like most babys and constantly trying to get into things and grab things. It is a good idea to never leave your child unattended. I know I never will do that again. Honestly, I turned my back for what seemed like a second and she fell off the bed! Even when they are strapped into their high seat or anything like that, they may still find a way to topple over. I know that you as well as me will keep a very close eye on our babys. But don't beat yourself up about it to much just wait and see. Prayerfully there was no damage to her!
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Why wouldn't your ex husband let you forget it? That sounds bad. I mean, as if he's blaming you and making you feel bad about it, as if you're not sorry well enough? well, we shouldn't forget our mistakes to serve as a lesson to us. But I hope that will not bring you down and feel sorry for yourself. Like one here said, we can't be in 2 places at one time. I'm sure we don't want our kids to get hurt and all we wanna do is to protect them. my kiddo is fine so far. Thanks, cmela! i hope you won't be too hard on yourself too. ^^v
@momathome (476)
• Canada
10 Oct 08
I have a very clutsy baby. He is constantly hurting himself and always has bruises. He has no fear. So i'm sure your daughter is the same. She will be fine, babies get hurt all the time. That is part of the learning process. Only thing is my son don't learn he keeps doing it over again. Babies were made to withstand some bumps and bruises. It's there job!! Dont' worry so much and enjoy your little one!!
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
haha! yeah, I was once like that before. My parents always tell me that I'm the monkey. They would see me up the grills of the windows, they have no idea how I got there. Luckily, I turned out to be fine except for some scars. hehe! I think your son gets the idea that's why he's doing it again. I mean, they want to try things out over and over again, testing what will happen next, if it'll be the same again if they do that. They're learning cause and effect. And the funny thing is, if you tell them, "hey! don't do that!" "stop that!" that's the time they're gonna do it more, as if teasing you. lol ^^v
@tikei18 (359)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Yah! accidents do happen anywhere, anytime without warnings. Sometimes though you're very careful accidents happen. And i'm sure it does not happen only to your baby but there's also a lot of moms dont expect that their baby would fall head first. There's a mom when she get of the tricyle(3-wheeled car) she forgot that she has a baby on her lap. So when she step out, the baby fell. That was scary! Soon I will be a mom and it will be my first baby. So i'm a bit nervous how i will carry mine. :D Have a nice day!
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
10 Oct 08
it happens many times. no its not your fault. you were doing something that she needed. it happens with most. better do checkups with doctors after few days. i also fell down in childhood and there were blood oozing out of mouth twice.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
ouch.. yeah. i also fell a lot of times, until i was elementary. I was also active and perky kid. I also have a big scar on my leg, because of my cousin, but my mother didn't want to have it stitched. It looks like an eye. ^^v
@mayrah (1128)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Don't feel like you're a bad mommy, That's an accident as you said, you did not intend that to happen. All you can do now is to prevent that from happening again, Keep your baby in safety place always, You know when your baby started to crawl you you must not leave her unattended, as accident may happen abruptly. And also observe any sign of changes as she grow and as soon as she reach the right age asked the doctor again for examination to make sure she is really safe.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Yes, thank you, mayrah! I'm very much aware now that I can't leave her unlike when she's just months old. she's a very perky kid and god knows what will happen next. Now I want my eyes to be on her, like right now, she's in the crib/playpen watching her favorite DVD. Keeps her occupied hehe! ^^v I will bring her to the doctor next week for her monthly check up. ^^v
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi baby fuzz you are too lenient on the maid, she is a woman and thus if she is near your baby and she sees the child getting up she should have dashed to the child and stopped her. You could not be in two places at once.but look most accidents can be prevented. How on earth could she fall out of a high chair? You must see that this chair is safe so she can not get up and fall. most high chairs have somesortof prevention so a baby cannot fall from it at all. If she was on any other kind of chair, they are unsafe for a child that young. someone has to watch her. put her on the floor or in a playpen but never alone on a chair.yes themaid should watch when she is around your baby. and you should make sure your baby is safe.
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
She fell not from a high chair. And the maid is like just a meter away from her. She's that kind of person that cannot be trusted I know, that's why she's not the nanny. She's the cook in this house so I don't want to bother her to look after my baby. At times, she insists because she gets away without washing the dishes. It's like we're changing roles. You see, this is not our house. We are free loaders of some sort that's why I can't nag her or tell her to do this or do that. So looking after my kid is like a favor. it's a hard lesson. this maid is with this family for like years and i know how she works. I don't trust her, I told the granny(the owner) of this house about how she is. But we can't do anything about it. I just have to put my foot down. Thanks, hatley! ^^v
@jccjr5 (62)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I know exactly how you feel. My daughter has never been know as "grace" that is for sure. More than once people have joked with me that she needs a helmet. She has been running full speed tripped and fell into the corner of a cabinet more than one time, instantaneous bump. We have a large, lifted truck and when she was 4 she went through one door and was climbed across the seats to her booster seat and fell head first into the driveway. Just recently, she is 6, she was running around and tripped over her brother and slammed her head on the concrete. I have never seen such a large goose egg ever!! That one actually freaked me out! I guess my point is, it is very hard to prevent these type of things. Kids are very quick and before you know it they are down. You can't feel guilty, we as parents just need to make things as safe as possible around the house. The first two years seem to be the worst because they are just learning to walk and really get a feel for their legs and what they can do with them. I also have two boys and am holding my breath on a daily basis,they do things that I find myself saying "really, come on!"
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
lol! That's tough! I have nephews who grew up with us. They're not really that hard to manage. that's why I thought mine (daughter) would be easy. But then, this one is more active than the boys I took care of. My gosh... like you said, a loose egg. She's like jumping from one chair to another. She was cautious at times, or when in an uncomfortable place for her. But in that particular chair, she just do whatever! They are fast, right... even you're already in front of them, they'll just slip out of your notice. whew... Yes, they say the age 2 is the most hard one, the terrible two's? is that right? I can't imagine having 2 or more kids.. good luck to you! ^^v
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
9 Oct 08
My daughter fell off a photographers table at the same age. She was not smiling for the photographer so I moved away from the table to try to get her to laugh. She went forward (in my mind it was slow motion) I grabbed her just in time to catch her at the waist. She flipped right over and SMACKED her head on the floor.She screamed and screamed. I felt so horrible! I had nightmares about it for weeks. The doctor checked her out and had us watch her carefully in case of concussion. She was fine. But I beat myself up for that for sooooo long. I couldn't tell my mom at all. We are really close but I just couldn't tell her because I felt soooo guilty. My daughter is 10 now and I recently told my mom that story. There is no guilt like mommy guilt! You didn't want her to get hurt. You didn't let her go anywhere dangerous. You were not being irresponsible. She simply had an accident. Fortunately your baby should be fine.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
wow, that's really a long time before you told your mom.. I might've done the same, but being talkative and all, it might just spill out of my mouth, hehe! I just don't want to see my mom's look after I tell this to her. I was like, should I call her... or what? She might come rushing in here in no time.. haha! It's glad to hear that your kiddo is fine after what happened. I hope my baby won't suffer any complications. She's a very active, adventurous kid just like any baby. I want her to explore the world. Thank you for the kind words, rocketj. I'm trying to be the mother I wanted to be. ^^v
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Accident happen sometimes and you didnt intentionally wanna leave your baby. I bet the baby is fine. I have my brother taken care of by a housemaid when he was still a baby and he fell on the floor twice but he is fine. So for sure your baby is just fine. I did fell too when i was a baby. My mom told me that at one time i fell on a cement floor! but here i am still healthy lol. Just be careful next time so it wont happen again.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Ok, that's good news. I fell lots of times too. I'm very naughty and active, I can't keep still. My mom used to tease me that I'm a wriggler. hehe! I sure hope my baby is fine. I don't want her to have complications. Thanks for the concern. ^^v
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@unuzzz (1274)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 08
hi babyfuzz i'm very sorry for the accident, but it's not your fault even you felt guilty, you shouldn't let yourself down too much i believe you're a good mother, and will give the best for your baby just because of this accident, you cannot judge yourself like that your sacrifice for your daughter must be more than that so cheer up babyfuzz :D i believe your baby will be alright babies and children have guardian angel right next to them you know :D my sister and i experience it :D all the best for you babyfuzz ..
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Thank you so much, unuzzz! I felt really good to know that babies have guardian angels by their side. When she fell down from the bed before, she was like 5 or 6 months I think, I didn't even know it, till I heard something down the bed. It was her lying on the pillow. Imagine! She looked at me and smiled. So there's no panic. ^^v
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@unuzzz (1274)
• Indonesia
12 Oct 08
hi again babyfuzz ya don't worry, babies and children have guardian angels next to them this is based on my sister's and my childhood experiences i was fell down the stairs when i was a child my mother who saw it was running towards me and cried a lot but mom said that i was fine not even a scratch ah by showing your guilty feeling, you show us that you're a good mother you show how big is your sense of responsibility, and we can see that you'll do anything to not let such bad thing happen again to your child well to me, it's more than enough that you're a good mother cheer up babyfuzz, XD God bless . . ^^
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
Okies, thanks again, unuzzz.. Yeah, that's all I wanted to be.. a good mom. I'm an idealistic person, maybe that's why it's hard for me to accept the fact that accidents happen. I definitely watch out next time. ^^v
10 Oct 08
Aww,its true accidents do happen, its more common for babies to fall over, dont worry yourself, she will be okay.
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Thanks, adamleerollinson! are you new here in myLot? Welcome! Baby looks fine now. Her lump is gone. Perky as usual. She just slept after playing, running around, playing peekaboo! haha! ^^v Me still in jitters.