dealing with a jealous partner

@eiram25 (1077)
Philippines
October 11, 2008 11:05am CST
i have a jealous partner and i don't know how to deal with him.talking to him about it didn't help.i don't even know the reason why he should be jealous when i'm loyal to him.why do you think so? and how do you deal with this kind of attitude?
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
11 Oct 08
maybe he's not just being too jealous but he's being too possessive as well. try to talk him more into his attitude. sometimes jealousy can really affect the relationship so much. better to have one on one serious talk before everything falls apart.
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@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
i'll try to talk to him about it.thanks for the tip! happy mylotting!
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
15 Oct 08
you're welcome:)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I know exactly what you going through. Now before i go any further just make sure you realize that as long as you are being loyal and faithful you have nothing to worry about. Honestly with things like this a partner starts to show jealousy because they feel what they have with you is very good is don't want to lose you. so here's what you do: tell your partner how you are feeling. Communication is very important when it comes to things like this. When a person in a relationship starts to show jealousy it could also be from insecurities due to what may have happened in past relationships. Its a persons way of saying hey! please reassure me that things are okay. I know its hard and they may not want to talk about it at first but get them to open up to you and you will probably find out the reason behind the jealousy is something you might never even have thought of. But you'll never know unless you talk. Good luck 2 you.
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@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
insecurities due to something about his past relationship? haven't thought of this but i think this could be the reason.thanks for sharing by the way. happy mylotting!
• United States
21 Oct 08
thanks for chooosing my commment as the best response. :) appreciate much. have u talked 2 ur partner yet?
@relundad (2311)
• United States
12 Oct 08
I honestly don't think that I could be in a relationship with a person that exhibits jealousy without reason. If you are faithful and have given this person no reason to exhibit this type of behavior, you will forever be defending your EVERY move! Typically people like this get progressively worse the longer the relationship goes on. And the way that the demonstrate these feelings can eventually get worse turning sometimes to violence and abuse. I would advise you to take heed to the signs now, and if you are not willing to live like this then maybe this is not the relationship for you. He wont change as its who he is. Imagine everytime you are delayed from work, school or meeting and he assumes that it was something more than a delay. Imagine every male that is in the same room with you, is something more. Imagine spending too much time with the kids and not enough with him. Jealousy is about that persons lack of trust and insecurities, its not about you or what you do.
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@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
thanks for the advice.kinda scary what you are suggesting but i'll definitely try to weigh things carefully.happy mylotting!
• United States
11 Oct 08
I can in a way totally understand where you are coming from because I kind of went through the same thing.But after talking to him about it he changed. I think because he didn't want to lose me. If talking to him doesn't help and if you show him affection all the time and that you love him then I don't know what to say. You have to have communication and if he can't talk to you about how you feel, then, I don't know he sounds possessive, and you may need to think twice about being with him. How long have you been with him. Maybe see why he is being so jealous, has he been hurt before from past relationships and just can't trust any woman or what.
@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
i've been with him for almost 2 years now.i don't know if that's his way of showing his affection or he's just possessive.but anywayz,i'll try to talk to him about it.thanks for the tip. happy mylotting!
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I've dated jealous guys before and I really never found a good answer for that. I am a very loyal person too and did not feel that I deserved all the suspicions etc. At first, I was sympathetic and understanding and tried to be reassuring. After a while, it just got to be too much. It seemed to get worse as time went on. I just don't deal with it at all anymore. I am a quiet person and I don't give cause for anyone to be suspicious or worry. If a guy is overly jealous then I just eventually end the relationship. It is a real turn off for me.
@xayuk69 (268)
• Malta
13 Oct 08
A jealous partner many times is an insecure partner. I think your partner loves you so much that he is afraid to lose you ,especially in the world like it is today everybody splitting up. I can say this from experience as i am very jealous for my husband, most times i cannot stand anyone to talk to him.with my jealousy i make my partner very angry because he says that although he is loyal i do not trust him.All I have to say is that your partner needs a lot of love right now and reassurance that he is the only one for you ,I think you have to make him f eel loved all the time and repeating to him that he is the only one in your life and that there is no one else and that you do not need anyone else because it is him you want because you love him endlessly. He needs this reassurance ever so often because many times tha tis what i need but my partner cannot understand it!