Long lost friend
October 11, 2008 12:47pm CST
have you ever given up all your friends for your partner? I had a best friend for years-we did everything together for years and then bang-she was never to be heard from or seen again until just recently when her partner left after 4 years. I have been with the same partner for 17 years and i always had time for my friend-we talked on the phone,went for coffee,had girls night out and she came to my home often-then she met a man and after they started dating for about a week i never heard from her.I left messages upon messages that were never answered.I finally gave up and it hurt-i kept thinking why would she do such a thing? Why couldn't she have her man and leave some room for me? I made the time for her-I was always her shoulder to cry on and my ear was always there to listen.Well like i said her partner left her and i get a call-wanting to go for lunch and catch up-i must say i was shocked and i really didn't know what to say-I told her i would get back to her that i was busy at the time-she has made several more calls to me that i have not answered yet-i was really hurt by her actions.What do you think? should i give my friend another chance? I am just scared it will happen again.
• United States
11 Oct 08
something very similar happenend to me recently except that the "best friend" in question was my partner at the time. we broke up but she still wanted to be best friends with me. however her new partner wasn't very comfortable with us wanting to remain best friends. so my friend decided she could no longer be friends with me so as not to jeopardize her new relationship. everything was on her terms and my feelings be damned. so i decided i could no longer be her friend period. it was hurting me to be her "part-time" friend whenever it was convenient for her. i miss her and our friendship terribly but i know in the long run i will be better off.