aaaaargh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

October 11, 2008 3:09pm CST
I dont normally do this but I have just buried my face into the pillow and screamed in frustration!!!!!I am soooo wound up at the minute, why is it when I plan to have some time to myself(the kids in bed the husband is out for the night) at least one of my kids has to make my life difficult, all i ask is that they got to bed let me have a bit of me time....but oh no, for the last hour all iv had is attitude and crying and shouting! Why is it they think that repeating mum mum mum mum mum mum over and over will make me back down!!!!! So now I am shut in my bedroom after screaming into my pillow slowly calming down as i write this post, its not for discussion purposes really, just for me to focus on something other than feeling really angry!!!!!......and its actually working.....I love all my boys to death but they do sometimes test my patience, i think im having a wobbly day!!! Anyway iv calmed down, from one bedroom i hear laughing (eldest and youngest watching a dvd) and from the other bedroom....middle son.....nothing.....i think hes worn himself out!!!!! So now I will open my bottle of wine and enjoy the rest of the evening!!! aaaah kids!!! hugs Jessica
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17 responses
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
11 Oct 08
i'm so sorry that you feel this way. sometimes being a mom is really a tough job. kids tend to test our patience. im glad you feel calm now. hope everything is ok.
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11 Oct 08
Im fine now, was just a blip!!! Im now in a lovely quiet house and enjoying the peace immensely!!! thank you for responding!! hugs Jessica
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
12 Oct 08
that's good. i'm glad you're feling better now. take care :)
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@mands61123 (2098)
11 Oct 08
hey babes who is it matt? scream into your pillow, write on here, it's better to let off steam than get all pissed off about it. I'm currently having a very similar can't be bothered with anyone or anything day. So i've decided to cheer myself up and watch vin diesel in XxX just watch the action and don't have to thing about anything at all. I'll go text you now make sure your ok as i haven't any credit to ring kisses mands
11 Oct 08
hey hun, how did you guess!!!!! Im just having a crappy day and was looking forward to the nice evening i thought i was goin to get!!! I would love Vin Diesel to keep me company, that would definitely keep me calm!!! or not but in a good way!!!! hugs Jec
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11 Oct 08
ooooh just realised replying to you response then was my hundredth post!!!!!!!
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Oct 08
A 10 as well, I wouldn't have expected anything less. Congratulations on making the 100 and your first star. Ellie :D
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12 Oct 08
Hi jessica, Oh! you poor thing, I understand you as I often witness my friend going through the smae things when he kids were young, she never had a minute to herself, even when she try to have a girl neight in, her kids will play up, I'm they used to that on purpose. I have the same trouble now, no kids just my husband won't give me any peace, just as I sit down to do Mylotting he will scream for his food, he won't do it himself because he can't cook won't cook his motto is I go out to work so I don't cook, sometmes I hate him, he is worse then six kind put together, I would be happy when he goes away for a couple of days cycling with his friend, that will be heaven. Love and Hugs. Tamara
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12 Oct 08
I am much better today, he has woken up in a better mood and is behaving very well, my husband isnt too bad, he helps around the house and cooks aswell, I thinkI would be lost if they all went away for a couple of days, my husband worked away for a weekend last year and it was awful, the house felt so empty when the kids had gone to bed!! Enjoy your break when your husband goes cycling!!! hugs Jessica
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@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
12 Oct 08
Ah, the perils of parenthood! It's a long time since I've had a similar evening, as my four are grown up and only the last one is living at home - but I remember wanting a bit of peace and quiet and shutting my bedroom door on occasion until they'd all calmed down! Now there are different worries, as my 21yo son often forgets to tell me when he'll be home - or even whether he's coming home - so I lie awake waiting for him, and wondering why he hasn't bothered answering my text message! Sometimes I think things were easier when he was little ...
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12 Oct 08
Yea, my mum says it gets worse as they get older as there are more things to worry about!!! hugs Jessica
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@leahsfrog (120)
• United States
12 Oct 08
Oh hun I definately feel you on this one. I am a mother to 6 precious lil monsters that I just love to pieces. From eleven years to 5 months old and only one little girl thrown in there, sometimes I just feel outnumbered and out hormoned. Glad that venting here helped you out.
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12 Oct 08
Oh it did, just talking to people on here helped too! im pretty outnumbered here too but how do you juggle 6 children!!!! hugs Jessica
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@sid556 (31003)
• United States
12 Oct 08
Oh do I ever understand this one. I raised 4 kids ....ages were very far apart so when the oldest was on her own, I had not only 3 girls still at home but a grandchild as well that I babysat. I was single and "me time" was nearly impossible. I had one child that was extremely difficult. I recall one day in particular that I REALLY REALLY needed a break and was very grateful that the difficult child was being co-operative & peaceful. Silly little me got my hopes up on a much needed break. Expectations are bad and I should have known. That particular night, the most peaceful kid...the one that never ever caused waves, decided to act out. Of course it got to me more simply because it was so very out of character for her. I asked her if her sister got tired and paid her to torture me. she said "yes!". Not a good answer and she quickly knew it because I really believed her. We later had a good laugh over it. It is tough, mom. I know. I hope you got the peace & quiet you deserve!
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12 Oct 08
Im convinced they sometimes do it on purpose, its like you say though, when you expect things to happen and they dont it makes it all the worse!!! I did finally get some peace, and at the minute all is quiet because the sun is shining here for a change so they are playing outside!!! The unexpected peace and quiet is fantastic!!!!! hugs jessica
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@smiley83 (1535)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 08
just try to don't think of the situation as something negative... well, kids are naughty every where you go...there is nothing to do about that...it is the nature of kids...in fact, even teens and adults as well have their way of naughtiness though! Smiley,
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12 Oct 08
Hi Smiley, Yes kids will be kids, they arent really naughty just sometimes abit of a pain when they are tired!!! hugs Jessica
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I feel for you. But you absolutely did the right thing in taking it out on your pillow and venting here! Now I can rEALLY see what you are up against! Good luck and keep using the pillow to vent your frustrations
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12 Oct 08
It really helped!!!! hugs Jessica
@littleowl (7157)
11 Oct 08
Hi jessica am so glad mine sre not at that age now! they are now adults so the tantrums have stopped but my son lives with and boy can he have an attitude so I just stay out of his way and let him get on with it..suppose that is one gratification you can look forward to til then enjoy their younger years..it doesn't last long...even though it does test your patience!! littleowl
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12 Oct 08
Hi Littleowl, They aren't children long, he woke up this morning in a much nicer mood so we are all happy!!!! hugs Jessica
• United States
12 Oct 08
Well...life, ya know! as a mother....--- I admired your resistance not to yell on your kids instead on the pillow. Good job. I can't relate though, never been a mother but I can understand. Take care.
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13 Oct 08
Thanks for taking the time to respond!! Hugs Jessica
• India
12 Oct 08
Who said bringing up children was a joke? It is the most tiring job in the world. One child is sufficient to drive you mad at times and handling three at a time??? hats off to you. But it is also fun. Imagine if they were not there and the house was totally silent for day after day and month after month. Wouldn't it drive you crazy?
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13 Oct 08
Yes that would definitely drive me crazy, not sure what id do with an empty house!!!! A couple of hours child free though would be fantastic!!! Hugs Jessica
@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Oct 08
Because they have this 6th sense that tells them what your plans are so they wait,and then when you think you are going to chill out for a bit, they kick off. Its like if I am talking to my hubby and we just start the conversation and one of the four kids come in with something desperately important that they have to say or they all start screaming and shouting. Or I am about to watch something on tv they all start talking, turn the volume up and it just turns the kids up instead! Well I hope that you managed to have a good evening in the end!
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13 Oct 08
I did end up having a nice evening after he'd worn himself out!!!! Kids always want your attention!!!! Hugs Jessica
• Lubbock, Texas
12 Oct 08
Congrats on screaming into the pillow instead of at the boys! Children sense when we anticipate something. They don't realize it, but your anticipation of a nice quiet evening sent some kind of message silently into their little brains, and they began to anticipate something too. They wanted to stay up! Somewhere in the back of their minds they knew you were looking forward to something and they wanted their share of it too. Keep that pillow handy. You'll need it again from time to time, but they will grow up and you will rarely remember the nights they wouldn't go to sleep and give you a moments peace and quiet!
13 Oct 08
Oh i am quite sure it will be used many more times!!! Thanks for responding!!! Hugs Jessica
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@quinnkl (1668)
• United States
12 Oct 08
Ah, yes, I know the feeling well. When this happens to me I have to remind myself that it is their job (or seem like it!) to test our patience. They have to push to see how far they can get! Glad you got rid of the anger and can take a deep breath and move on!!! Hope the rest of your evening went well.
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12 Oct 08
yes, a scream into the pillow, deep breath, count to ten and hopfully peace should be restored!!!!! The rest of my evening was great, i enjoyed the peace and quiet!! hugs Jessica
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@Munchkin547 (2778)
12 Oct 08
Oh no, it sounds like you didn't have much fun last night jessica!! I think maybe if kids know you are looking forward to something and they are in bed then they feel as though they are missing out on something! I hope they did eventuall let you relax and do your own thing and you had a good night once you calmed down! xxx
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12 Oct 08
it wasnt great but once he went to sleep it was ok, had some peace and quiet at least!! hugs Jessica
@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Oct 08
hi jessicaboardman my sympathies go to you. I only had one son and a little girl, and we lost her at age eight. my son was way too smart for his years but usually was no trouble at bedtime and my little brain d amaged lisa was an angel for sure, I could not have more children, sadly.But I know when you have several and they are all boys, you do have your hands full. by the way my best friend when I worked years ago in a Rapid 'City south dakota hospital was Dorothy, we called her dottie,and married a Junior Boardman. if she is still alive she would be about my age, 81 or82, just curious if you had ever heard of a Junior or Lester Boardman who lived IN South Dakota, Rapid city, I have lost all contact with her and have tried to find her to no avail.
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12 Oct 08
Hi hatley, Sorry to hear of you losing your child that must be so hard!!! I cant imagine what you went through!!! As for the Boardman's, I married into the family but I think they are are all from the UK....Yorkshire I think, dont know of any of them from USA hugs Jessica
@missybear (11395)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I never had kid , but i can imagen what you going through. I would stick my head in a pillow and cover it up with more pillows. I hope the rest of your night goes smooth.
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