my ex boyfriend's brother

@eneria (118)
Philippines
October 12, 2008 10:39pm CST
what if you were close to your ex-boyfriend's brother, not because he is your ex's brother but because the brother thing he shows to you. he and his wife treated you as a younger sister. but then, you already had a boyfriend now, and your boyfriend asked you to not communicate any of your ex boyfriend's friends especially his brother. what would you do? you love your boyfriend but then you don't want to end your friendship with your so-called brother.. what would you do? please give me advice. thanks. :)
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Well it is just but a natural reaction of your BF to feel a little intimidated by that since you friendly relations with your ex BF brother might have some complication being a link from your past love. I guess you have to make a compromise with this and I think if your friend knows of this he would concede in favor of your BF that is if he is concerned about you as a friend not her brother's ex love. I ask you now which do you think values you more in your life. Your current BF or your ex BF's brother as a friend.
@eneria (118)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
that's what i think.. but i really i don't know.. i love my boyfriend, and i think i should gve up my ex-boyfriend's brother.. and maybe we could have some hangout but i think it would be with my boyfriend... is it right decision?? thanks for the comment cheers!
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
I guess you have to gain your BF's trust first before attempting your plans of hanging out with your ExBF's brother. I am pretty sure if your ExBF brother friend will understand you if you chose your current BF over him that is if he truly is a friend he will give you space. In your case, you really need to earn the trust from him since of course he may fell a bit insecured how you and your friend are closely connected before.
@eneria (118)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
thanks for the advice.. i really need it.. cheers! :P
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
it is atypical situation and your bf thinks that you may develop some kind of relation with your new found thing!! the fear is large in his mind!! either you should tell him clearly and clear yourself about the new relation or it is definitely going to create a rift , i can see that. be careful you wish to keep both of them happpier!!
@eneria (118)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
i already explain to my bf that my ex boyfriend's brother treated me as a younger sister.. i think he understands me but he is afraid of about what the intention of my ex boyfriend's brother.. is it right if il just let go of my ex boyfriend's brother? until now, every time we meet, my boyfriend keep on texting or calling me how was i..and sometime my boyfriend wants to join us, but that's fine with me. but it akward..