How Easy is it ....................

@celticeagle (119857)
Boise, Idaho
October 13, 2008 11:13am CST
How easy do you girls think it is today to find a good man? Are their alot of them out there. Or are they rare? Is there alot more hype about it than the real deal or is what they are saying about a good man is hard to find- is that true now days?
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• Singapore
15 Oct 08
dear Celtic Eagle: Depends on what you consider a good man .......... Have been waiting for that sweet kind hearted woman to come into my life .... no success so far :)...... i think it takes 2 hands to clap ....... not just one
• United States
17 Oct 08
You're right. It does take a give and take on both sides. And while I try to look at both sides of the coin (thanks for the nod), each side has to take responsibility for their part.
• Singapore
22 Oct 08
dear everyone : i have a question for everybody that i have always wanted to know the answer to, but never ever dared to ask publicly ( totally ) because i was afraid it would bring embarassment not to mention harassment ...... the question : is an older woman/younger man relationship a bad thing ? or is the general public ( all over the world ) not ready for this type of thing ? i've always wanted to have a relationship like that because i feel secure and safe. an older woman is generally more sensible and you feel comfortable talking to a mature mind. am i a sicko ? is it wrong ? is it forever wrong to really desire an older woman in your life ? what is really wrong about it ? is it people's jealousy ? envy ? whenever i wanna talk about older/younger relationships i either get cold hard stares or sneered at.
@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Oct 08
No dear. Not a sicko. We all have our wants. And, yes. It does depend.
• United States
13 Oct 08
Good men have always been hard to find, as have good women. Are they rare, in my personal experience, they are a bit of an outlier in the entire breed. But, it all depends on definition of a good man. If women are looking for some ideal, a sensitive man who is still masculine enough to get in a bar fight and win, they might be setting themselves up for a fall. I think our expectations actually make this debate difficult to parse through. Men and women are people. How hard is it to find good friends? Very hard. Acquanitances are easy, a dime a dozen, but a good friend. Someone who sticks by you and up for you, those are the ones you search for. Why would finding your mate be any easier? There are a lot of factors involved in finding a partner, more than in finding a friend. So, it would seem harder. But when you find that person, it's worth every ounce of effort you put into it.
@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Oct 08
Good point! Great to hear from you. Acquaintances are nice but.....!
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• United States
14 Oct 08
To be fair, acquaintances are the ones who become the good friends in the end. But you have to get through a lot of chaff before you get to the wheat.
• Singapore
15 Oct 08
Celtic Eagle : i totally agree with DoriLentrich ....... she looks at both sides of the coin .... it's not always the men's fault ....... women need to share the burden too.
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@austere (2816)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
i think so.. good think i found mine earlier!hehehe well, my boyfriend and i are together for almost 3 years and i could really tell he is sincere and he loves and even my friends likes him for me.. they keep saying that they hope to find a guy like him. i am really proud of my boyfriend and i love hims so much too. i havent caught him cheating or anything.. so i would say he is a good guy, he spends time, a lot of his time with me.. and most especially, he is not gay..hehehe i am just happy to be in this relationship.. i honestly prayed for him.. and he came my way!
@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Oct 08
You sound like a very lucky lady. Glad to hear so many positive responses.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
hehehe.. guess, i am just thankful and happy and proud that despite the reality that good guys are running out.. i am still able to find mine.. and i pray that this is going to be forever!
• United States
13 Oct 08
I think there are still alot of good men out there. You just have to know what you want and know how to have a good relationship. If you sleep with a guy on the first date and say no strings attached dont yell when he doesnt call. There are a lot of crappy women out there too that guys have to watch out for. Also some people say they want a good man but what they want is a bad boy they can turn into a good man. If your dating a bad boy dont be shocked when he acts like a bad boy. If you want a good man...date a good man. My man can be a bad boy but he is a damn good man.
@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Oct 08
So true! Very important to remember we can't change the guy. Not healthy in a relationship. Good input. Thanks
• India
13 Oct 08
Hey girls i am there :-) I may be married, so what? Is that a disqualification? More the merrier. :-)
@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Oct 08
So what are you saying? Not selling you! Answer the question silly!
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I would suppose so. it really always was. sometimes ya have to live with them for awhile to see how they are ya really cant take any ones word for it. ANd have friends observe how he treats you and how sad or happy ya seeem to be. When I found 2nd hubby my friends told me how much he loved me adn I asked them how and they told me when he cameinto a room his eyes looked only for me then they lit up . See I didnt really see that until years later .