marriage or live-in ?
• United States
14 Oct 08
I am actually married right now. But supposedly I am still single and my partner would propose that he wants to live with me but no marriage will take place. I guess I will have second thoughts. Because I believe living in together is just a trial and error set up. I know that the only difference between the two is that in marriage you have vows and promises to make that is witness by a lot of people and God. But if there are still marriages that goes no where after so many years how much more if just living in. While the two has no guarantee that it will last long, it still depends on how you maintain the relationship. But at least when you are inside a marriage relationship you will have confidence of everything you do. There will be no insecurities between partners. Your children will not be illegitimate. And mostly, it is blessed by God.
13 Oct 08
I think it depends how long and how well you have known your partner. Married relationships tend to last significantly longer than unmarried ones. This is aprtly due to the differences in the legal status and the difficulty of ending a marriage compared with the simplciity of ending an unmarried relationship. If neither of you have much money then divorce/separation is not financially much of an issue. If there is a huge disparity in financial terms then you should consider a separation or prenuptial agreement. Otherwise it is all about trust, love, beliefs, intuition and time. If you are not sure don't do it!
• Quezon City, Philippines
14 Oct 08
Well I am living married, so far I wouldn't say it's easy and smooth going but I feel I am happy in it despite the difficulties in it. I say it's a challenging thing how a couple would and maintain their partnership. On the other hand, Live-in Partnership is more geared towards comfort and uncommitted relationship. I would say this is much more of an advantage to the man than of the woman. If problems do happen they just would separate and mostly that suffer from these relationship are the women abandoned. Since they carry a lot of the emotional investment that is why it's always the women who suffer the most. I think marriage is a security bond for women than for men. That is why many men sometimes prefer the Live-in relationship because of that.