Being caned by parents?

Malaysia
October 14, 2008 8:30am CST
Hi all, i just recall during my young age, i have been cane by parent many times. But i do feel glad as they did that in order to educate me. Frankly, still can remember that really painful. So do you have such experience? Or what the method your parent use to educate you? would like to learn now as i have my little princess to be educate by me now. Thanks for sharing in advance.
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
15 Oct 08
I am sure a little caning every now and then is good for the kid. Remember the phase "Spare the rod, spoil the child" ? I personally feel that there is a difference between a child that has been caned before as a punishment and one that is never caned before. Some kids now a days are so cunning! If they know that they will get away with just a repremand, they will never learn that it is wrong to do it. One stroke of the cane and the message is clear as day. But to use the cane too often is also a no no. Usually, the cane should be used for the more serious situation where all other soft approach fails. When kids turn defiant, they can really test your patience.
• Malaysia
15 Oct 08
Hi AhGong, you are absolutely correct. One stoke of the cane explain the message of parent. It help to save lots of energy to explain in details. But the impact is as you said, Spare the rod, spoil the child. Really appreciate your adivce. Hopefully i can through away the cane and have correct method for my little princess.
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
16 Oct 08
I am sure you will know what to do when the time comes to discipline your little princess. It sorts of comes naturally. I have observed many of my friends who got married and have kids. Their usual playful nature takes on a very, well, mature turn when it comes to their kids. One would never picture them to be a good parent when he is single. But when you see him with his kids, well, it paints a totally different picture. You will never in your life imagine him to be that playful when he was younger. So, I guess it come with the territory, on knowing what to do when you have kids.
@APPCHEM (113)
• Pakistan
14 Oct 08
i am totally against beating children as there are always some other way to punish them...a spank on the back doesn't matter but beating them harshly spoils them. there are ways to punish your kids like stop giving their allowance or from going out with friends, ground them in their rooms for some hour or may be talk to them. by beating you are just hurting them physically & you are not making them realize that they shouldn't be crossing the limits. & be careful in many countries the parents are put behind the bar for beating kids.
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• Malaysia
15 Oct 08
Hi Appchem, thanks for your advice and the suggestion for the situation. As i am new to parenting, thus its really a big challenge for me. You are right, i heard before the parents are put behind the bar because of beating activities towards their kids.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
14 Oct 08
Hi there adriantys78 My dad used to spank me and my brothers across our bottoms when we were smaller and we were terrified of my father absolutely petrified. In the UK now there is a law that states you cannot use such methods to punish your children like you are not allowed to beat them, which is fair enough. I put my children in time out where I don't even need to lay a hand on them unless they won't move to go and sit on the stairs where they have time out, then I will pick them up and put them there!
• Malaysia
15 Oct 08
Hi Humbug25, haha, but glad that you are still love your parent very much. UK really having good practice to protect children/kids. I am learning not to use cane to educate my little princess, but i really feel difficult. So it really a challenge for me. Thanks for sharing on the info.
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• Canada
15 Oct 08
I agree with Pieces, There is no reason to beat a child. My kids hate it when I raise my voice. They know they have done something and they are going to get yelled at and that is enough to keep them in line. I will take things from them and ground them before I will beat them.