Friend request

@cyntrow (8527)
United States
October 14, 2008 1:58pm CST
I just got an odd friend request. I'm not sure how to reply. This person is 18 and lives thousands of miles away from me, in England. She has signed on a couple of days ago and has only 3 posts and no friends. I just can't figure out why this person would want to request an old lady like me. Any suggestions. I'm not a rock star. I can't see why I would have a stalker. LOL
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22 responses
• United States
14 Oct 08
Its possible that she read something you posted and didn't have anything to add but liked what she saw. It's also possible that she answered in the same discussion as you. Maybe she did it by accident- it can happen. I have had requests that are still in the pending section because I don't know what to do with them yet. Can it hurt you to accept a friend that doesn't stay active? I'm only asking because some of the other responses seemed to think that. Thanks and have a nice day.
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Yes, it can hurt. When I first started on mylot, I accepted every person who requested me. Then I found that my discussions and replies were being stolen. I had a discussion published on another site from one of my "friends". These days, if someone requests me, I wonder why. And if we have nothing in common and I cannot figure why or how they requested me, I grow suspicious.
• United States
15 Oct 08
Ok- but can't someone copy and paste your information from here without being friends? That can happen too, I would think. How does it hurt you- (this is a question) if you have a friend that doesn't stay active? Have a nice day
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
15 Oct 08
IT hurts me because someone has stolen my thoughts. It's cheating, it's theft and it's wrong. And some "friends" collect "friends" so they don't have to think for themselves.
@kenzie45230 (3563)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Why does everyone here question people asking for friend requests? At other sites, even if there is no reward or anything, we rejoice at having another friend...who will keep track of our writings and comment on them. Weird. When I arrived here I was surprised to discover that people take such a strange attitude about friend requests here. Some won't approve them unless someone has made 100, 200 even 500 posts. Some won't approve them unless the person has been a part of the "community" for at least a month. Everyone seems to have rules. I have to wonder...do people set these kinds of rules about making friends in the real world? "Sorry. You've only lived in my neighborhood for 3 weeks. I cannot be your friend until you've lived here for 3 years." Weird.
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
14 Oct 08
OK, then tell me,, becuase I am curious. Why would someone half my age from oceans away request me for a friend. How would they find me? Why would they request me? If they have replied to my discussion, it might be different. Then I might feel that something I said resonated. How would you feel if someone wrote a letter and sent it to your house, "Hi, I'm cyndi. Will you be my friend? Write back." And the letter was postmarked from Isreal. Would you not feel apprehension? WOuld you wonder why and how?? It's a valid question.
@mmiller26 (1932)
• Canada
14 Oct 08
You talk good sense. You're passionate about your beliefs and intelligent in your discussions. I've asked for friends before simply because I read something they posted that struck a chord with me on some level. It could be as simple as that.
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
14 Oct 08
OR, more likely, it's someone who has been told that they will earn more money if they have more friends so they request everyone on the front page. I'm not into being collected as though I were a seashell.
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@annjilena (5621)
• United States
14 Oct 08
you could take a chance but my friends has to be active in discussion sometimes i do take a chance if they are serious about making money here but it,s up to you maybe they will do well like i said i give new ones a chance if they work hard.
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I don't do this for money, so if this person posts 100 posts per day, it would be a turnoff. I just don't know how she found me or why she requested me.
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• United States
14 Oct 08
Some people just want to add as many friend as they can because they think it will make them more money. I am sure the person is harmless and you mention that she was new and maybe she just adding friends without really looking at profiles. If you think that this person wouldn't make a good friend for you then I would declined the friendship. I hope that helps and happy mylotting to you.
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I'm keeping her in pending status for a bit. I'm just curious to know why she requested me and how she found me. We apparently have nothing in common.
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@loved1 (5338)
• United States
14 Oct 08
What is it going to hurt? I have friends of all ages, but especially treasure the ones who are older and wiser than myself. Maybe she requested you as a friend because she likes the discussions you have started, or likes the way you responded to others. Give her a chance-you can never have too many friends around here!
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
14 Oct 08
She's still pending and I'll keep her in that status for a bit. I'm just trying to figure out why she's requesting and how she found me.
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@kalianju (138)
• Nepal
15 Oct 08
i think you just take it easily don't take seriously ok
• Canada
15 Oct 08
I totally understand where you are coming. I just signed but am guilty of that myself. I think having friends regardless where you are makes you feel home, "it's a physiological thing. I am guilty of it myself, well not here but somewhere else. I do not have any friends here but would accept any. lol!
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Thats not all that unusual. I'm a grandmother of two and I get friend requests almost daily from teens all over the world. Usually I deny them. Occasionally if they seem mature enough to have good answers in their discussions I'll approve, but rarely. I'm surprised with your number of posts you haven't dealt with this before?
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• United States
19 Oct 08
Old Lady? You making it sound like you are in your 80's! and just because she is 18 doesn't mean she even likes rock and roll.My guess is that she has read your posts or your responses or both and likes you.What I do is check out the posts a new " friend" has written. If I can respond , I add them.Age has Nothing to do with it.
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
19 Oct 08
Nowadays, I feel like I am 80. But I do likewise. As you have already seen, this discussion is an experiment. Thanks for replying though.
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• United States
20 Oct 08
Go out and do something fun. You shouldn't feel like you are 80 even when you are 80.
@urbandekay (18314)
19 Oct 08
So you're an anglophobe? Only joking just read your latest discussion heheheheheh all the best urban
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
19 Oct 08
LOL, urban. Thanks for bringing a smile to my face.
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
Maybe this person just recently signed up and she read a post of yours that she liked. I don't think that because she wanted to add you and she's just new with a few post and lives so far means she's a stalker. Maybe she was just impressed by a post you did and decided you will be her first friend. Sometimes too we get random referral and it automatically asks us to be their friends or us they. I get those kind of friend request. I accept anyone who wants me to be their friend. I love having friends from all over the world. It makes me known in places I have never been.
• India
15 Oct 08
I think that girl add you as a senior user of my lot when she was posting i think she saw your id so she add you. Because to ask doubt from you and want to take your help so i think she add you for that purpose. I also add many girls and boy in my list i don't know who are they. and i cannot chat with them upto know.
@sajanjiv (11)
• India
15 Oct 08
there is no harm adding someone...she is not gonna come out of the pc and harm u...relax!!
@ersmommy1 (12605)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I don't see the harm. Friends come in all varieties. Who knows? She may benefit from your experience. Aside, if it doesn't work out you always have the option to delete.
• Canada
15 Oct 08
lol she is just probably trying to build up her friend lists so she can start making an income and she sees that you have responded to alot of discussions...or she liked a discussion you started...there could be tons of reasons. Maybe she needs a grandmotherly figure in her life....good luck
@subha12 (18463)
• India
15 Oct 08
it is nothing rare to me. i get many friend's request that i do not understand why. some even have 0 post. i still accept all. i do not know from where they have found me.
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
just because someone asked you to be their friend on mylot does not mean that they are a stalker. relax mama and just add her or not, its not a big deal as your making it out to be. besides maybe she read one of your discussion or responses and she became interested in you
15 Oct 08
U know this is why its a friend request. you are born with family, u do no thave choices there but friends are different, they are your choice. my friends include a little girl , teenagers and some of over 50 guys and some posh people too. its your choice, but I would say go ahead accept the request every one has some story to tell, hear them out. luv Rups
@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
odd!!how would she know your acount ??maybe she read one of your posts and later on browse your account!!and as you say she is just new in mylot so she really needs a friend, and the distance doesnt matter, its more cool that you two live afar you could talk about each other's place...