are you eager to be in a relationship? are you ready for it?

Philippines
October 15, 2008 2:17am CST
No, Im not. I like my freedom and I don't think I'm ready right now. There are still many things that needs fixing. Dreams that need to be fulfilled. And if we are not ready for it, they tend to bounce and live us heartbroken.
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8 responses
@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I used to feel like you until I found my soulmate!!! Then I learned that I did NOT lose any of my freedom!!! My dreams were MORE than fulfilled & he didn't leave me heartbroken. It is the MOST WONDERFUL thing in the world!!! Had I continued to say I'm not ready for this then I would have MISSED soooo much!!!
• United States
15 Oct 08
I really don't see how being in a relationship is a loss of freedom. Unless you mean freedom to date, see, whatever with anyone you want. Other than that, being in a relationship doesn't stop you from following or fulfilling your dreams.
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
Somehow your right. But if it is not the right time sometimes you end up finding the wrong person. It can be a very possesive partner. I know how nice it is to be in a relationship, the feeling of security and the elation of being in love. But things that really matters should come first, in my opinion. After all, your investment in a relationship is not money that can be earned, it is YOURSELF which is a very expensive commodity.
• United States
16 Oct 08
Being with a jerk just to "feel being in a relationship" is a stupid and immature thing to do. Relationships are supposed to be equal partnerships. Women should have more self-respect than to be with a controlling @ss just to feel "secure", that's honestly a load of crap. A real relationship won't hold you back or tie you down from anything, but help you grow and flourish as an individual as well as a couple.
@AmbiePam (50458)
• United States
15 Oct 08
There are times I absolutely crave the companionship from someone who cares about me as much I would care about him. And other times I just know I'm better off right now dealing with my life on my own. I want to be in a relationship for the right reasons. I have no desire to go through a bunch of frogs. I'm waiting for the Prince.
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
I feel the same way too.Sometimes it's tiring to keep on kissing frogs until you find the prince. Not to mention, it sometimes hurt. But I came to a point when I just stopped looking and get on with my life. Someone told me that if you focus on the things that are important and just keep on loving yourself your light will shine and you will be noticed, and who knows it might be the right one. I'm a single mom, and my childrens future right now is my priority. I also enjoy my life very much. Sometimes when you stop trying and stop being to attached with your wants that is really not in your control that when things fall into place. I guess my favorite quote right now is, "Let it go."
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@AmbiePam (50458)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I believe you're right. If we go on with our lives it is bound to happen when we least expect it.
@srikool (936)
• India
17 Oct 08
am already in a realtionship am very happy n enjoyin tat .. keep enjoyin mylot
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
hehehe. That's nice. Its good that you're enjoying it. I also want to be in a relationship but not just now. :)
@Thorn679 (111)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I really dont like being single but i have had so many bad experiences with all my ex's that im just hope for the right girl to come to me. I know it may not happen but hey we can always dream right?
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
You're right thorn, If this is your moment of waiting for the right one? Hey, hussle while you wait, read one of my response, with light shining? So you'd know what I'm talking about. thanks for your response.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
Well, as of now I'm in a relationship for almost 4 years... I am proud to say that I'm happy with my boyfriend.. Even though we are suffering right now in a long distance relationship.. Of course, I really miss him so much and I really want to be with very very soon.. But for now, we need to sacrifice first since I know that this is the best thing for us.. He need to finished his thesis first for him to get his diploma while me I'm already working and trying to help my parents.. Of course, even though he already finished his thesis, we are not going to get married.. He still need to find job so that he will be able to save money for our future.. We really think and plan our future very well so that we will not find so much difficulties and of course we are preparing to be ready so that no matter what problems we may encounter we are ready to face it without asking help from our parents... I know that sometimes we need to ask help from our family especially to our parents but we want to face on our own so that we will learn to stand on our own..
@subha12 (18453)
• India
15 Oct 08
I think no. i enjoy my freedom. also i have been cheated badly by my so calle dbest friend. so it is something that i fear in any relation.
@sajanjiv (11)
• India
15 Oct 08
ya..i agree...even i am not ready..i have a life to make out of my existence...i have dreams and i have to live them..if i get into a relationship now...i will have to think for two people...and that s gonna be tough...