Everything is fair in love ...?

@joy4you (641)
India
October 16, 2008 12:03am CST
Do you believe that everything is fair in love? Does it justify going against your parents or leaving your family to be with your loved one in case your family does not approve of your relationship. If you loved someone you could not be with would you decide never to love anyone else ever again even if someone came into your life who loves you? Would you be rude or mean to people just to show your loved one how much you love him/her. Does it justify having an affair or perhaps betraying your partner. There are many situations/actions which one would normally not consider as the right thing to do but sometimes we justify them in the name of love, does that make it right? Is love reason enough to do anything you want whatever the case may be? Would you sacrifice everything for your love or would you sacrifice your love for what is right?
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@jhenn22 (1243)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
Sometimes love is fair, sometimes it isn't. When loving someone there are always risks. There are different faces of love; a love by two uncommitted person and they are free to love; a love which is one is free and another one is committed; one that is both of you are committed to someone else;and one is a forbidden love which is your parents do not agree with your love. Everything here on earth is not fair whether it is love or not.
@joy4you (641)
• India
17 Oct 08
I agree life is not fair, but when you have had a bad experience how you react is important. An open mind, good morals and a clear conscience help in such situations I believe.
@deserve40 (1607)
• India
16 Oct 08
No I don't think that it is justifiable to leave your parents just for the fact that you love someone and your parents do not approve that relationship. At the same time it is not fair to betray your lover too. He or she will feel cheated if you leave him or her without proper communicating the reason why you have to leave him or her. I therefore feel that before moving ahead in any such relationship, a person should try to take into the confidance one's own parents or if it is not possible, then atleast he or she can take inot the confidance the partner whom he or she loves and make it clear that you need to take the consent of your parents before converting the relationship into marriage.
@joy4you (641)
• India
17 Oct 08
Yes, honesty and trust are important here, your parents have loved you your entire life, for whatever reason if they do not approve of your relationship then you should discussing it with them and also take your partner into confidence. If it still doesn't work out then it is better you move on and if done in the right way you might still be able to love again someone else and even remain friends with the one it did not work out with.
• Pakistan
16 Oct 08
hi buddy i think love is the feelling of heart and with the heart no one can cheat while you saying that everything is fair in love , i personally not agree with You cos love is the name of trust and truth and reality and f one 1 is missing i think it is not love just the waste of time Prince Sad
@joy4you (641)
• India
17 Oct 08
Thanks for the response, tell me what you think of this? If you love someone and your parents force you to marry someone else and this new person loves you very much but you still love the person you could not be with, what would you do? Would you ignore your spouse's feelings because you love someone else (be unfair to your spouse) or would you accept it as fate and move on and try to live/love with your spouse even if you might not love him/her(would it be unfair to your previous love?).
@camomom (7537)
• United States
17 Oct 08
I would sacrifice most things for the one I love but, not all. My family comes first but I also would not give up on love to satisfy them. If they love me they have to let me live my life. I married someone because he loved me and I thought if I didn't marry him I'd never be married. I fell in love with my current fiance and left my husband. I don't regret it, I'm happier then I've ever been. My family wasn't happy about it because they love my x-husband but, they still love me and they like my fiance. My family is happy that I am happy.