do you believe love is worth fighting for?

Philippines
October 16, 2008 10:04am CST
when do you need to fight for love and when do you need to give up? they say let it go because if you really love your partner, you should be happy where he is happy regardless if it's with you or not. and if it comes back, then it's meant to be. but if that's the case, when is the right to time to fight for love?? if you really love your partner, shouldn't you fight for your love and prove to him that you love him so much that you're willing to do anything for him? wouldn't that be more romantic? but i guess love is not just about romance...
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@rsa101 (15587)
• Quezon City, Philippines
17 Oct 08
Yeah but sometimes love would also mean you have to let go too. It's not forcing yours to them. Love could also mean you also spare something for yourself. Loving yourself is not entirely a bad thing especially when you in this kind of a situation that you are hurting yourself already just to show someone you love him.
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
but wouldn't there be times when it feels like it would hurt more not to be with the one you love? but yeah, you're right. thanks for the response.
@rsa101 (15587)
• Quezon City, Philippines
20 Oct 08
Yes it does hurt too, but would leave yourself hurt by the other party despite the effort to make you love. Loving just means being happy with something or somebody. It only means you both are happy with one another. In your case no one is you are forcing yourself thereby you are hurt because the love is not there for him to give back willingly to yours. Maybe you'll be happier letting him go then being in that state at all.
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
17 Oct 08
well that depends. if someone is messing with her, just to be a jerk i would fight for her. now if she goes out and cheat with someone else. then i no. yeah it would break my heart but if she really love me she wouldn't. i would pack my stuff and walk away
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
good point. thanks for the response.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
There's a right time for everything. You're right, love is not just about romance, it's something deeper. As I grew up, I've always wanted to feel love, and I realized now that the love I thought or wanted when I was younger isn't like the love right now. When I was younger, I always thought of the Romeo and Juliet type of love when you die for your love and give up everything for it. Instead, I saw that love is mature. It isn't how I perceived it to be, it's something deeper. Plus, there's a right time for love. Most of us mistake love for infatuation, that's why many are rushing into things, thinking that it's love and with fear that they might lose it. Love vs infatuation! How do you tell the difference between love and infatuation? It's easy for others to tell whether you are in love or just infatuated. But, it can be hard for you to tell the difference, when you're infatuated. You can't tell the diference because when you're infatuated, you're "crazy in love," you've lost your senses. You've lost your mind. Infatuation is a delightful form of madness. It's like a short term mental illness, where you lose your ability to reason. Here's how to tell the difference between love and infatuation. Love is real, and if you take good care of it, it will last a lifetime. And love can grow. Infatuation is unreal. The madness of infatuation creates many unrealities. You perceive your love object as vastly more wonderful than is real. You perceive your feeling of infatuation as though it will last forever. Once infatuation peaks, it starts disappearing until it's gone. It always goes away. After infatuation goes away, reality comes back to you. You see that your love object has faults, flaws, and the normal number of human quirks. You can't see that when you're infatuated. After infatuation disappears and reality returns, any bonds you formed with your partner during your madness will stay with you forever. It's those bonds, the memories and the feelings that make up your bundle of love that might lead to marriage and a committed relationship. So, love is real, and it lasts. Infatuation is magical, mystical, very unreal, and it always goes away. It's hard to tell the difference between love and infatuation, because they are so intertwined. I'll do my best to unscramble them for you. Love is a collection of memories of shared experiences of, about, and with your partner. The memories come with feelings attached, which come together in a giant bundle of feelings of love. Infatuation is a hormonal state that turbo-charges those shared experiences. Example: Agnes and Harold are enjoying mutual infatuation. They go to dinner. You and I might think that everything about the experience was ordinary, yet to them, everything about the experience creates a magical memory. The food was the best they ever tasted. The music was incredibly good. In fact, one song became "Our Song." They danced. It was heavenly holding each other in their arms. They'll never forget what they whispered into each other's ears. Okay, you got the idea. A shared positive experience creates memories with attached feelings. This is true of experiences Agnes and Harold shared before they came down with infatuation, and it will be true throughout their married life. The hormonal, unreal state of infatuation, turbo-charges those shared positive memories, and allows them to create huge, fantastic, powerful memories, with wonderfully strong feelings attached. Because of the infatuation, the bundle of love they will carry into their marriage will be much larger than it would have been if neither had come down with infatuation. Love vs infatuation as a question, suggests that they are opposed. They aren't. They are vastly different. One goes, the other stays. One is real, the other is unreal. But while under the influence of infatuation, normal every day experiences take on an intensity that creates very strong positive feelings that will last, even when the infatuation disappears. It isn't love vs infatuation; they work together. Infatuation super-charges everyday experiences to create the strong memories and feelings that become real love. Love vs Infatuation: If you don't know the difference between love and infatuation, you could conclude that your loving feelings went away when the infatuation disappeared. Brides have mistakenly canceled weddings, thinking their love was gone, when the infatuation left. If you think infatuation is love, you can do crazy things under it's influence. You might just be tempted to run off to a desert island with your new infatuee. For many people, strong attraction can lead almost immediately into infatuation, and then all thinking and reality testing goes out the window. All the things that were important in your life before, are no longer important. School, work, family, hobbies, plans and ambitions all seem so unimportant now that you're infatuated with your new attractive stranger. Remember! Infatuation is madness. You can't think straight. Don't do anything you'll regret when infatuation leaves you and reason returns. Wait until your feet are back on the ground, you've got your senses back and you can make reasoned, rational decisions. You've got time. If there is real love under all the hormones, your bundle will be there when your madness leaves. So there you have it, if it's love ~ you don't need all the drama. If it's infatuation, all the drama like t.v. soaps has it.
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
i agree. thank you so much for the response.