What is more important to you, family or happinest??

@kissie34 (2296)
Philippines
October 16, 2008 9:41pm CST
What if your family invested a big money for a business and they need your help to take in charge of everything but if you accept it then you need to give up your job which makes you happy, would you accept and help your family or don't help them and continue your job since this what makes you happy?? I ask this question because my friend has this kind of situation and she asking me if what she will do.. As for me, I can't decide for her since it is hard to not help your family, right?? This is one of the difficult decision that she's in right now.. Of course, she wants to help her family but if she accept it she's not sure if she will be happy with her work since according to her she need to move in her provinces and left her boyfriend and friends.. So, obviously there are so many things need to sacrifice... But if ever she will choose to stay and not to quite from her job there is a possibility that her family will get mad and feel bad and she don't want to happen that.. So, guys out there if you are in her situation, what will you do?? Are you going to help your family even though you don't know that you will be happy with your decision or choose to stay and not give up all the things that makes you happy even though your family will feel bad and get mad at you?? What is more important to you, your family or your own happiness?? Please, share your opinions and views in my discussion.. I will be very happy to read all of your ideas and I'm going to share it with my friends.. You might gonna help her in her problem.. Happy posting.. Have a great day!
5 responses
@littleowl (7157)
17 Oct 08
Hi kissie I feel for your friend it is a very hard situation for her...working with family can cause a rift between you all and in the end rows etc to me I would want to stay where I was happiest...my family had a business and two shops my sister 's husband went into partnership with my stepfather...my mother kept the books..everything went haywire amongst them, each was accusing the other for something, there were always arguments, even my sister who went to work with them walked out cos things got so bad eventually the business closed up and my sister and her husband lost out a lot from it...so my advice is that your friend should stay put and though her family may get mad at first they will calm down after a while there will always be another time if she wants to help them and I am sure they will accept that then...yet the choice is still hers but that is my advice having known what it can be like first-hand...hugs littleowl
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@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
Thanks for that advice.. Yes, I agree with you that working together with your family is really difficult especially if they have very high expectations from you.. They always watched all the movement and decision you made in the business.. Just like with my brother,his computer cafe is going to be bankrupt soon.. But still he was trying to make it so that it will not be forced to close.. However,my father want to close it already so that he can pay all of his debts.. As of now, my brother have many problems and I don't know how to help him to solve all of his problem.. I'm trying to help him but I just can't figure out any solution on how to earn a lot of money.. My friend also thinking the same way.. But she really love her family and she don't want that her family will get mad at her for being selfish.. I just hope that she can make her best decision that she will never neglected it forever.. Thanks again for the advice.. I will let her read all of your advice.. Thanks again..
@littleowl (7157)
1 Nov 08
Hi kissie I do hope my response helps your friend..am always happy to help blessings littleowl
@pryce_mbg (716)
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
the most important to me above all is my family. with my family, i can find happiness and will have great joy with them. You can find your true happiness with your family because they are the ones whom you can rely on and can count on in times when you need their guidance and care. you can be loved truly and deeply with your family and you are very much accepted with great love.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
I agree with you.. Family is the most precious gift that we have in our life.. Since the day we are born, our family are always there for us no matter what had happened.. But sometimes not all the decisions of our parents or our family can makes us happy.. Sometimes no matter how we love our family and how much they mean to us still we need to leave them and follow what we think that is right for us because not all the time our family made the right choice for us.. They are just human who made mistakes and same with us.. As of my friends, I think she will choose her family but then when we noticed that the business they had made is already fine then she will follow the things that can makes her more happy and that is to follow her dreams.. Anyway, thanks for responding.. Happy posting!
17 Oct 08
i can say that my family is more important for me than my own happiness because i wouldn't be happy if my family isn't. there are always times when life challengees us and in your friend's case, i think she needs to think about what her priority really is. i know this will not be an easy decision for her but i hope she can be happy with whatever she chooses to do :)
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@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Yes, I agree with you.. She is really in a big decision making in her life.. She really need to think very hard which she priority more.. I understand if ever she choose her family because most of us of course will really choose our family since they are very important in our lives and most all we can't deny the fact that "blood is really thicker than water".. Well, the reason why she is having hard time to decide is because of her boyfriend.. If she choose her family then she need to go back in their provinces and live not only her job but also her boyfriend.. She is really in love with her boyfriend.. Her parents don't like the guy, so basically she can't bring her boyfriend in her province.. It is really difficult situation and I don't want to have this kind of challenge in my life.. Anyway, thanks for sharing.. Have a great day!
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
if you're talking about my own happiness, i would definitely prioritize my family. i value my family a lot and i don't think i should be selfish. i can be happy without letting down my family so i think if i was in your friend's situation, i would probably retire and help my family run the business.=D
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Well, me too.. I will also choose my family since my family is very important to me.. But in her case she's having difficulty to choose her family because it only means that she needs to give up not only her job but also her boyfriend.. Her parents don't like this guy so she can't bring her boyfriend in her provinces.. She's scared that if she went home in their provinces she might not be able to live it there already.. She might be staying there for the rest of her life..She really love her boyfriend..She's thinking why her parents wants her to run their business is because to let them separate.. I really don't know why her parents don't like her boyfriend.. I hope she will be able to make a good decision.. Anyway, thanks for sharing..
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Well it`s a case-to-case basis... but then it`s still her who should really decide for herself and for her own happiness. But then again, for it`s my family who is more important simply because my family is my happiness!
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@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Yes, it's still in her hand to decide for herself.. Of course, she wants to choose her family since are family is the most important treasure we can have but she just can't decide not just because of her job but also because of her boyfriend..Her parents don't like her boyfriend, so she can't bring her boyfriend in the province.. Actually, she's thinking that the reason why her parents choose her to take in charge in their business is because they want them to be separate.. Well, I really don't know why her parents don't like her boyfriend.. I hope she will be able to make the best decision that she will never neglected it.. Thanks for sharing..