Did You Find Your Soul-Mate? How Do You Know?

United States
October 17, 2008 1:33am CST
I am just so sick AND tired of just settling for what I have. I always end up with men who I can't connect with. It's like the passion and sparks are NEVER there..,but don't get me wrong, a few men I've been with were really kind and caring, but we just didn't click like soul-mates should. They were really good looking but that mental breeze just wasn't clicking. I only had one man that I was actually in love with, but he passed away. I really believe that he was my soul-mate. Do you know where your soul-mate is? How ya know?
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
17 Oct 08
Well, I have this one friend that is the best. I used to think that he was. But you know what he still is. But when you still don't here the words you want to even though you know that he does love you. Sometimes you want to hear it. But he had been hurt well, that was fine for the frist 7 years well, not anymore. I still Love him and I alway's will. Oh my Gosh I do love him. Crap. Well, here I go one more year. And that is fine I just could never live with him. He is great 90% of the time. Your friend onlydia
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@srikool (936)
• India
17 Oct 08
ya i found out mine..if we see our soulmate auotmaticaly your soul will go towards give or her..that is true love..in that same way i too find out him..have a nice day with us in mylot
• United States
17 Oct 08
I am very lucky to be married to my best friend, but my wife really is not my "soulmate". I have met four women, each was a soulmate. So, to answer a question from another response above: yes, you do have more than one soulmate. Each time I met a soulmate, the connection was immediate. We just knew. But every time, either her or I was in a committed relationship. So, I looked deeply into their eyes, kissed their hand, and said, "Next time around, in the next life time."
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@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
17 Oct 08
SO far I haven't met my soul-Mate. But I'll find him someday,that I am not very sure about because it is very difficult and only a fortunate few meet and then live with their soulmates.
@tryxiness (4549)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
I have not met my soulmate (yet), I have good male friends whom I can converse with till wee hours of the morning and yet I don't feel like he is the one. So maybe, my soulmate is still searching for me hehe!
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@dragon54u (31185)
• United States
26 Oct 08
I don't think I ever met my soul-mate, if there is such a thing. I always fell for the wrong men and always got my heart broken. I was married for 19 years, I was madly in love with him when we got married but he chipped away at that till there was nothing left. I'd do anything for him, I still like him for sentimental reasons but there's no romantic love left. You be patient. You're young, you have lots of time. You already have a gorgeous little girl so you don't have to worry about marrying too old to have kids. You may not meet your true love till you're old and gray, or maybe never at all in this life, but don't ever settle for anything less than you feel that you need and want. We have one life, and we have a responsibility not to fritter it away settling for less than we deserve.
@tintusam (1169)
• India
18 Oct 08
Love, I think its one of the wonderful emotions humans can have. It makes you do crazy things, you feel the ups and downs, but when you really have faith in your love, those ups and downs are the best part of the ride, cuz in the end, knowing that your love will last, you will feel a sensation that youve conquered everything that love threw your way...I hope I find my love, I think I have, but im not sure, its all destiny
• United States
17 Oct 08
I found my soulmate and a soulmate is someone who looks after you and always doesnt disagree with you.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
17 Oct 08
Hi miracle, Well for one thing, yes I do believe in soul-mates. I believe that I have had two. My present husband and my second. I have been married 3 times and even though My first and I divorced I think it is possible that we too were soul-mates, just too young to know and grow with it. With each husband I had wonderful families-in-law. I was very close to all of them. Maybe that is part of the secret. If you can connect with not only the man, but also his family then the road to a good relationship is that much more possible. Girl, I think you need to listen a little harder and more carefully to your heart. You have the ability to recognize the kind of man that would treat you like you deserve, which is the way you want to be treated. Anything less is unacceptable. If you don't feel something special, then it may be that you are not being given that special attention. When meeting anyone, always watch and listen. Look into their eyes and you will see what you need to see. People are almost always open books. You just have to train yourself to read not just look. You are young so try and be patient with yourself. Hugs leenie
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
17 Oct 08
Unfortunately I haven't found my soul mate yet, but I believe someday I will, but its kind of difficult to find someone you can trust these days theres so many dangers to look out for when it comes to dating, and I dont hang out in bars or night clubs because I just dont think its that easy to find someone who's sincere in a night club or bar because most people in those places are not looking for a soul mate if you know what I mean lol.
@Savvynlady (3686)
• United States
17 Oct 08
You pose a very interesting question. I was married for twelve years to my ex, and I know we were not soulmates. When I divorced, I told myself, NO MEN. For years, I stayed away. Oh there were those I liked, but not enough to leave my comfort zone. There was one I really liked, but it didn't work out and he was killed. I met another man at work I really felt would be good for me, but he didn't want another relationship after he just got out of one plus he wanted to go to school, and I respected that. Then I ended up meeting a man I would see around church, who loves politics like me,and with this being an election year,well, you can imagine the conversations we have. He has a heart to love and be loved, he treats me well and we have shared values. His birthday is a few days before mine. So coincidental. If I say that there was a soulmate, it would probably be him or the last guy I like because they are good easygoing brothers who want something out of life.
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
17 Oct 08
yes I did I was very lucky I met my soulmate in middle school an married him when we were 24 an 17 years later we are still happy so yes I got my soulmate just hold on you will find mister right I think there is someone out there for everyone
@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Oct 08
I don't know it seems to me most of the time one person loves more than the other. I don't think soul-mates come along very often and if that's what you are waiting for it may never happen. Think of what you want out of life, make a list then start to visualize that person, or what you will feel with that person. A wonderful lasting relationship can be made with someone who treats you well and can provide the relationship with love and kindness. A little money halps also.
• United States
17 Oct 08
I would like to know the answer to that too miraclefreebies. I thought I found my soulmate because everything I asked for in a man from God was given to me and I believe that because I received everything I asked for, I was made to feel that I found my soulmate. I mean, I truly believe he is my first love but I don't know if he is my soul mate. I may be breaking up with him soon so I will let you know.