having regrets

Philippines
October 17, 2008 3:37am CST
i just answered a sweet "yes" to guy who courted me for just 2 weeks. My last boyfriend was 3 years ago. In that span of time that i was single, i never entertained suitors just because they didn't pass my standards. Yet, here comes this guy, he's good, sweet, responsible, not-so-charming, and intelligent, or should i say - wise! i had feeling with this certain guy for about months. Now that he courted me, i directly said yes. After that night, my feelings changed. And now, how i wish i listened to my head rather than my heart. It's like i wanna be single again. i had regrets.
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9 responses
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Do it slowly... things may change soon or maybe you'll realize other things than that... just live today and tomorrow's another story... if it hasn't changed... then make a better not only a good decision...
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• Philippines
17 Oct 08
It was just infatuation after all. You were amazed by the kind of person he is. Being regretful of having a relationship means you are not in love. If you can please be kind to the guy and talk to him about how you feel to give him chance to find his happiness and yours as well. Surely, he will understand if you'll do it with tact and kindness. Look at the brighter side; at least you learned something from this experience. That you can not rush into having relashionships. You have to be friends first then see if something develops from there. Good luck!
@donn_juan (326)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
i once had this suitor who courted me for 3years and i was kinda 'forced' to answer him and to be honest he was just a rebound. forced in a way that i was trapped answering him yes simply because i asked him to cry in front of me and if he did i'll answer him. and he did! so i was trapped! silly thing to ask since i was in my younger days that time. anyway, after 2weeks it seems i can't breathe anymore. i can't be with someone i dont love so i made the decision. you see there is really no easy way to break somebody's heart no matter how gentle you break the bad news. they'll always end up hurt. i think it's much better for them to hurt earlier in the relationship than to make them hope for more in the relationship which is going nowhere. good luck..;o)
17 Oct 08
I met someone about 7 years ago, he proposed after about a month and two months later we moved in together. He was the most amazing person I'd ever met, but I had doubts. Did I want to commit myself to one person for the rest of my life? I wasn't sure that I was ready for such a huge commitment. But I knew how much I loved him, and knew that I would never meet anyone like him again. The phase passed, we got married 2 years later, and 5 years on we have 2 children and our relationship has got stronger and better ever since. Nerves are normal, it's a huge decision. If you're still not sure, have a long engagement and see what happens...
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@nlcapricorn (1115)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
Hmmm..I have been able experiencing what you had feel. I remember when i was in High School. I got a crushed to a guy, his charming and intelligent. He is the crush of everybody in the campus..We are friends very close friends.. He never know that i had a crush on him. I hide everything i felt about him. Until one day i never expected what he had said to me. That he likes me more than a friend. I cant understand what i feel..Its a mix emotion that time..Happy and sad and angry..haha.I said yes..just like you did without thinking of anything. But after that in the school in the next day..I felt that I dont wanna say him. Ive been trying myself to get away with him..I realized that its better that we will stay friends than have him as my boyfriend. SO what i did is talk to him and said what i really feel when i said Yes to him..and what I feel at present. I did explain to him nicely so that he will understand. For its not good that I will always has myself looking for ways to get a way with him. SO I think what you should do is tell him the truth about what you feel now..Not that you will let him hope that you love him too because you say Yes.. Good luck!
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
wow...we have almost the same story...:) thank you for sharing it with me...but i hope i can do that...you know, it's like i decided to love him because he is not difficult to love at all...so, i'll give myself another try..
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
Ok that is great then..There is no harm in trying anyway.
@deadlier (340)
• India
17 Oct 08
now just say a sweet 'no' =)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
he is too good at me...i find it hard to say "no" since i can feel he's really into me.
@deadlier (340)
• India
17 Oct 08
lol it means u wnna fool around wid him.. =)
@underdogtoo (9600)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
You can always change your mind. You're a girl, you're allowed to change your mind. It's not like you have to do something you don't like. Cheers!!
• United States
18 Oct 08
wow bad
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
17 Oct 08
well, for me i just tell him honestly that i had changed my feelings... it is better to do it from the beginning rather than to wait and let him develop deeper feelings towards you... by that time, it might be even harder to end the relationship... good luck... take care and have a nice day...