Are you a good listener?

Listen  - Listening to others
@smilyn (2964)
United States
October 17, 2008 4:34am CST
Listening to others when they speak is a good habit. Everyone should have this habit atleast to some extent..I like to listen when others speak..But there are people who just shake their heads and act as though they listen but their mind will be pre-occupied with some other thoughts..How about you? Are you a good listener?
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@laxram (181)
• India
17 Oct 08
I'm a very good listener.i like hearing to people than talking. Listening keenly makes the talker encouraged in some way.
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@jhenn22 (1243)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
im not uplifting myself, but most of my friends told me, one thing that they like me because i am a good listener to them. I do listen to them with sincerity and nevr pretend that i truly listen. Through listening you will learn lot of things and listening to someone shows "respect".
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
19 Oct 08
Yes, only when we are interested in the person and the things he talks, we would be listening...So listening to a person shows that we respect him and his talks..
@cjgrooms (4457)
• United States
17 Oct 08
I enjoy listening to people because if you don't listen then you can't understand what they are trying to tell you. I especially enjoy listening to people tell about when they were younger and how things have changed. Back several years ago one of the residents where i worked (she was 93y/o) would tell me stories about when she was a little girl and they went to town in a wagon and had to camp out overnight on the way home -the trip was about 20miles one way-as a matter of fact we were in St. Marys Ga. which was the town they going to for supplies and they made the trip every two weeks. There was no such thing as a paved road.
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
19 Oct 08
That is true..Listening to the old stories and childhood experiences of others is really an interesting one ..
@ruby222 (4848)
17 Oct 08
If someone has a problem then I am a very good listener,the art of listening is a very practised one .If you are very much into your own ego then listening skills will be very hard for you to develop,these skills can be learnt,there are special techniques,how to show the person that you are listening too that you are fully aware of what they are saying ,without being judgemental or uncaring.I have been on quite a few courses on listening skills,and they have been very interesting courses too,we have done a lot of role play ,it was fun whilst we learnt.
@smilyn (2964)
• United States
19 Oct 08
you are right.listening to others is really a great skill..
@ajit25 (1010)
• India
17 Oct 08
Hi smilyn its depends upon my interest when i found someone talking about think thats worth listening then i listen to him quietly and try to digest the essence but those i think don't worth to me i just site and act as i am listening but my mind was preoccupied with some other thoughts.
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@yashsmc (32)
• China
17 Oct 08
yes i m......... being a doctor...i need to be good listner ...as first and foremost as a doc u have to do is take a history of r patient...and only a good listner can do that smartly...to get the perfect diagnosis of ur patients illness.... 90% of ur ob is done when u listen without any interruption.... this not only fits to my job but everything else needs good listening capability as it increases ur concentration abilities.... regards yash
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
hi yash, it seem that you are still new in this site, I encourage you to use the correct spelling for some cant read your post. I know that text shotrcut is in nowadays but still there are some member here make mylot as training ground in writing english. I have read a responder here that she always have dictionary with her to look over some word for she cant understand it and she need to analyze everything what is the discussion is all about.
@dragon54u (31298)
• United States
26 Oct 08
I have become a decent listener through a lot of effort and realizing how self-absorbed I can be. It's a lot better for me to listen than to talk, I learn a lot and the people I'm talking with feel great when I really listen to them.
@dpk262006 (53920)
• Delhi, India
18 Oct 08
I think I am a a good listener. My friends, my dear and near ones and others share their problems with me and I give them an oppotunity to vent out, if I listen to them attentively. I concentrae all my energies, while listening to someone's problem or version and keep asking some relevant questions in between, so as to assure him that I am very much attentive to him. If I give them some advice, they consider it very patiently and try to act upon it. Sometimes, it feels bad, when someone tells you his problem and start giving the solutions himself, then I wonder, I was really a fool, who spared my valuable time to listen to him.
@iskayz (5424)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
Hi there! I am a good listener during conversations. But I do make comments within the conversation. I try to show my interest to the person I am talking to and with the topic so as not to make the conversation boring. I also make eye contact to show that my thoughts are at the current situation. Listening is indeed a good habit. I like to talk to people who knows how to listen. Ciao!
@mayrah (1037)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
Hello smilyn, I can't say that I am a good listener at all times, because sometime my mind was preoccupied by so many things. But always try to focus my mind whenever somebody is talking to me specially if that's an important matter. I just used to hate it when I was absent minded and can't comprehend on present situation. But most of the time I am a good listener and I internalized in my mind what other people was telling me.
• Canada
18 Oct 08
Listening to others before replying is good habit, in this way you will be knowing what the person wants to convey and what you have to reply.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
18 Oct 08
I think i am a good listener. My friends would want to talk to me about their secrets and i know that they are not bored in talking to me because most of our conversation i just listen and ask questions about what she is talking about. My husband loves talking to me too, especially on the phone because our time wouldn't be waste because i listen carefull to what he said and somehow asked question related to what he said.
• United States
17 Oct 08
I try my best to be a good listener...and if there is something distracting me I at least try to pick up keywords and the emotions of the person that I am listening to. I think that being a good listener also means being a good friend/daughter/girlfriend/mother/ect. and that if you listen to others, they will listen to you.
@Crocket (315)
• Canada
17 Oct 08
I find that I seem to always interupt the person that is talking with a question or a comment. Thank-you for reminding me of this as I had forgotten just how rude I must actually seem. To be a person that can listen is a very honorable job done well. You are right when you say that most people cannot listen well as they are too pre-ocuppied with other thoughts at the same time as the conversation taking place. I will work on this so that I too can become a better listener. Crocket.
@dlnieto (60)
• United States
17 Oct 08
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@emarie (5455)
• United States
17 Oct 08
for the most part i think i'm a good listener, especially if people have problems i know i listen to them. sometimes i would phase my husband out a little sometimes or just stare and nod especially when i have no clue what he's talking about (computers, video games, and cars i phase out). i can sometimes do something and listen and i've starting to do that recently but for the most part i do catch what their saying.
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
17 Oct 08
That is one of my strong talents, I am a very good listener probably makes up for the fact that I am not a good talker, I tend to be shy around people, but I do listen and it's amazing what you can learn just by listening instead of talking. A lot of my friends appreciate me because I am a good listener and they know anything they tell me goes no further. Listening skills is a great talent and quality to have and you can be surprised at how many people are not able to listen!
@amlegend (945)
• Pakistan
17 Oct 08
i can say with confidence that i am and i need not to be told again and mostly during the lectures i get it on the first time and no questions of asking "will you repeat it" and other than that i believe that people that talk less are mostly good listeners and to be a good one you need to be there and then to get a good idea of that thing.
@rkrish (3003)
• India
17 Oct 08
Hi there, i have a big bad habit not listenning to others which being told by many of close relations and friends, I am trying to listen to others as we need to live with them, so i trying to become a good lsitener
@subha12 (18462)
• India
17 Oct 08
I am a good listener. i guess it is part of effective communication. it is something that is acquired skill. i try to listen carefully.