what will you do if your roommate make too much noice till midnight????

@jingke (106)
China
October 19, 2008 9:23pm CST
I was so annoyed recently for my roommate made phonecalls every night ?As a matter o fact,it does a great harm to the next day's study and work.If the situation continued for a long time ,I am sure the other roommates will be crazy,including me.To keep a silent enveronment is essential part of living in school.I am so confused now,anyone who has some good suggestion?let's start
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
20 Oct 08
Maybe you could ask them to keep their voice down if they are going to be talking on the phone after 10 pm. Or after everyone goes to bed. They should be more considerate than that. If their voice travels in the room they are in, maybe they could go to a lobby or community room in order to keep from disturbing you and the other roommates. I myself sleep with the tv on, so it probably wouldn't bother me. But I have known people who can't sleep if there is any kind of noise at all. I guess when I was younger, I just got used to being able to sleep anytime anywhere. Maybe that is the way they are and they don't even realize that they are keeping others awake. The best thing to do is just confront the problem. Good luck to you, and have a good evening.
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@jingke (106)
• China
20 Oct 08
You are right ,everything will be ok if we take them seriously and in the exact way.Thanks
@sibysabu (101)
• India
20 Oct 08
I my roommate do this then I wil tell him Dear friend Please I have to study so you have talk ina a low vioce. dont distrub my studies. After that if he continue the same situation I complianed to the warden for making phonecalls loudly in the midnight.
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
20 Oct 08
talk with him and let him know he is keeping to much noise and hope he don,t get mad.people feel if they are paying rent they can keep as much noise as they want not realizing they have a room mate.try to contol your angry when speaking to you roomate.good luck
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@jingke (106)
• China
20 Oct 08
of course ,I am not the person who is ill tempeared.I will talk with him softly.Thanks,annjilena
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
20 Oct 08
You know what? you have to talk to your room mate. Just do it in private and ask him/her to please respect other people in your room because you need to concentrate in your studies. Am sure he/she will understand it. Just make a request, If you are living in a boarding house, try to ask the land lady or land Lord to talk to your noisy room mate. If you are living in the dormitory, you can ask the dean to talk to your room mate. That is just how to solve that problem.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
i'll talk to him/her in a nice way..i'll ask him/her to keep his/her voice low since he/she's not alone in the room.. every one of us should know how to make adjustments most especially if you're with other people.. you have to practice good manners, try to be nice with your room mate, try to be respectful and be sensitive with your surroundings.. remember you are both paying for the rent and trying to live a normal and peaceful life so learn how to respect each other's privacy..
@jingke (106)
• China
20 Oct 08
respect is the thing we must do with each other.Only by this way can we keep a harmonious situation.Thanks
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
I think you can just talk to your roommmate. I know this is easier said than done but they say you have to be assertive instead of passive-agressive. I mean you do not just take it and take it and then when you're just about ready to explode you walk up to the person and just stab the person and walk away. :) To be assertive they say, you have to follow a formula: 1. Sympathize - make the other person feel you understand why there is a need or that it is hard to keep it down at night 2. Explain - make the person understand why you need silence at night 3. Suggest - suggest ways for this person to keep quiet at night. Settle a compromise. I know, this is hard but I think it is worth a try. It just might work. If it doesn't you can always go back to the passive-agressive means, and then sit around until the opportune time to explode. I am just kidding of course! Good luck with your roommate. If this does not work, try finding another roommate. :)
@jingke (106)
• China
22 Oct 08
I am sure your response is the best one to this discussion so far.Thanks very much for analyzing the problem thoroughly and apply me so detailed suggestion.To my delighted ,the problem has been settled successfully by settling a compromise,as you have advised.
@austere (2812)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
i dont know, throw him or her a pillow perhaps!haha but seriously, i guess the best way to handle such roommate is to be honest with him or her. tell him that his being noisy is bothering you, that you can sleep or that you cant study because he is too noisy, just tell it to him in private and make sure you do it in a good approach, he should understand what you mean, because if you wont inform your officemate then he will never have an idea that his being noisy is bothering you...
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• United States
20 Oct 08
You need to tell this person to stop making calls in your area that disturbs you, perhaps get support by fellow roommates as well so you aren't all alone in the confrontation. Suggest that they should go outside to make calls, not inside to keep everyone awake when you have a schedule you have to live on. Tell them that you are considerate when it comes to their sleep so they should be more so of your sleep. You are there first and foremost to get an education, socializing and making friends is second to that, so make sure to state that it is your priority and that you would like some more peace in the dorm. I wish you the best of luck in these matters; happy mylotting and have a great day or night.
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@jingke (106)
• China
20 Oct 08
I can't agree with you more.As a matter of fact,I do get support from my other roommates.we shoul put education in the first place and make friends secondly.I also believe the problem will be solved successfully.Thanks,sugarplum9084.
• United States
20 Oct 08
This year, I have been blessed with a set of three quieter roommates. They are actually considerate to what others have going on the next day. But last year, I had some of the loudest but coolest roommates. They were amazing people and very fun to hang out with, but they didn't know when to stop hanging and usually had people over till midnight every other night. I was beginning to have problems with homework and studying to the point where I was becoming stressed. The stress was causing physical problems to my body and that was where I turned things around. I actually got a time management therapist and told my roommates that they were causing problems in my life so they were considerate enough to leave the room and go down to the lounge when time would hit around 10 or 11 or when I would ask them to take it down a notch. lol So to help you out if you have a similar problem to what I had, approach your roommates and ask them if there were any possible ways they could be considerate to your hours of study and alone time. If they can't do that, then you need to buy some pretty good earbuds... lol
@jingke (106)
• China
20 Oct 08
Thanks for sharing your experience with me.To be honest,many thoughts of yours are very reasonable.If we can not change the situation then we must chang ourselves,It's a good idea to buy good earbuds.Thanks,Greeneacres.
• China
20 Oct 08
You can request him stopping and go outside calls.you must inform landlord if he dont chang.
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• Philippines
20 Oct 08
hi jingke. i have never experienced this kind of situation. although i also went to a boarding house before. but if ever i experience this i will talk to my roommate in a nice way. i will tell him what i feel and that it disturbs me. that he can continue with his activities but try to minimize his noise. and if still it continues, i will look for another house. ;D good luck. take care
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@jingke (106)
• China
20 Oct 08
I ever thought of changing another house,but I am in college and the ruls do not allows any student to live out of school.Anyhow thanks.
@zipk11 (98)
• India
20 Oct 08
I will beat the hell out of him and then ask him if he will continue doing so....heheh
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• India
20 Oct 08
i would peacefully try to solve the matter and make him understand that he is spoiling my mood if he doesn't them i ll simply do a cut off from him
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@kenchihi (121)
• Malaysia
20 Oct 08
Well, personally I would be very very displeased as you. I too prefer a quiet environment. Of course you could advice the person to do 'his/her thing' some other more 'appropriate' time of the day. Else, there isn't much choice but to find a new roommate. I really feel your situation. All the best!
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
20 Oct 08
I need to talk to the room mate first. if she is not going to change, then I have to look for new accomodation. at time sthis is not possible too.
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• Brisbane, Australia
20 Oct 08
First, try to request them politely not to repeat it. If they repeat it then send complaint letter to your apartment or hostel wherever you staying. I fyou can not follow this advise then do one thing try to convince landlord of your room and he/ she will shout at your room mates.
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
like what the others suggested, you should talk to that person and tell to your room mate what harm is he/she doing to all of you. she/he'll never know til you talk to that person.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
i don't have a room mate but before some college students live next door who keeps the volume to the maximum level and they always get to my nerves. one time, i posted a note to keep the noise down because someone's sleeping during day time and has to work at night. but that didn't take effect. I hate them for the whole time they were around. they're gone now. i dodn't kill them, they left for whatever reasons, i don't care.
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• China
20 Oct 08
Keep asking him/her "when would you go to bed?" until he/her feel annoying.And I suggest you to have a talk with him/her.All of you can have a contract to make a harmony enveronment for study.
@lou_66 (909)
20 Oct 08
hav u tried asking this roomate politely if they cud make ther calls during the day or do it sum wer else if it must b on a nite. just explain how inconsiderate they r being. if that doesnt work, hide the fone lol
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