Does Love Related with Pain somehow?

Philippines
October 20, 2008 9:20am CST
sometimes, being in love can cause me too much pain in my life.. it can lead me to depression. but somehow i can consider love and pain is more on co-partners... cause every time you love, pain is near by. when there is pain im sure love can also be there.. do u believe in my perception about love and pain?
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@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
yes, i can somehow relate my experience with you perception of love and pain. but here's the thing. when we fall in love, we need to prepare ourselves to get hurt along the way. let us face it, we get hurt. even though the reason is not caused by you or your partner, we may still get hurt. even though the two people involved do not wish of hurting their partner, they still might hurt their loved ones, knowingly or unknowingly. as for pain and love. i also think the same way you do. we experience pain because we care. it figures, when we dont care about something, we dont get hurt, or maybe get affected the same way others, who care about it, do. i also get depressed when i get hurt, because of love, because i care. in fact, maybe it is because of trauma with what happened to me with my first relationship, i dont want to fall in love yet again. not yet, because love caused me to much pain, and im just too scared it might happen again. but then again, i prefer to look at the brighter side. in every pain we experience, we get tougher, in a positive way. we get stronger, we get wiser when we chose to learn from it. :)
20 Oct 08
I've been out of my last relationship just over three months now. And just haven't been in a place yet to put my every last effort into finding a new love. It will come, though...
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
love related to pain? here's the love equation (love=pain)=(pain=love)10TH Power
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
so you mean it balance?? cause i did not get the equation.. hahaha love =pain. but pain =love to the 10th power.. does that mean pain is more powerful than love cause you raise love to its 10th power.
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
absolutely right u get more pain than love i guess but still it takes two to tango if you're the one getting much pain maybe she dont give enough effort to build the relationship or vice versa
@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
yes. no pain, no love, i say. okay. that's really no pain, no gain, but wth. but on a serious note, love being a deep emotional feeling cannot help but be associated with pain. but, even though love causes pain, it can also heal pain. so it works both ways
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
your absolutely correct! it heals.. but it is really connected with pain. cause pain is also a complex word. whether it is physical pain,emotional,etc..i like your answer by the way.. haha
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
Sometimes it does. Like when you love the person and you expect that the love is reciprocated the way you love his or her and if she or he did not reciprocate it that way you get disappointed and get hurt in the process.
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
love is a very complex word.. and maybe it hurts cause the person who was rejected feel that she/he was never wanted. or maybe he or she is hurt because he/she did not get what he want. it is partly love, but for me in that kind of situation i prefer the word infatuation.
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20 Oct 08
Yes, love does cause some pain, but hopefully not all the time!!! It can be a bit of a roller coaster at times. I tend to be a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to seeking love. Of course I'm not perfect either! Love can be a strange thing at times - should we just love blindly; giving our all? Or should we be more aware, moving on before we get too tightly bound together in a relationship? It is certainly the case that the longer we are in a relationship, the more painful, will be the parting. This is when we have to balance up and decide to compromise or move on...
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
when you love, you take the risk of being hurt too... so don't expect in return, love wholeheartedly to lessen the pain...