Do you remember ever having to bring home the report card from hell?

@James72 (26832)
Australia
October 21, 2008 5:31am CST
I was pretty much the perfect student with great marks up until I started High School so there was a tremendous reversal in both my grades and the positivity behind my Teacher's associated comments once I left Primary School! My Mother has kept one such report card with two different comments from Teachers: Grade - C- "James appears to enjoy seeking attention in class by repeatedly throwing objects at other students". (Grade 9 French) Grade - C- "If there is ever any trouble in the classroom I may always be assured that James will be in ther middle of it" )Grade 9 English) My other 4 subjects were had comments not as descriptive but they weren;t much better grades wise! Both my Mother and I read these comments today and laugh ourselves silly; but at the time I was scared to death of my Parent's reaction when I brought this home and boy did I get punished! lol. From memory I was grounded for a month..... So do you remember ever having to bring home a report card from hell yourself? How did you feel about it at the time and what were the consequences?
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
21 Oct 08
I am pretty much a good kid. Good in studies and extra curricular and conduct. I can't remember having my parents called or being spoken by the teachers for my mis conduct or degradation in studies. I was not no. 1 as you know by now but fared well. My report cards were pretty decent and with star ratings in paintings, drawings, craft, sports...etc. The only time my parents were called was when I was found to be myopic on one of those health check ups. It was around then that I came to know that glasses would be my best friends forever. You have a pretty good report card there. . You must have been a sweet, naughty kid always upto bugging others. .
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
21 Oct 08
Oh I am sure you were mimpi! Butter wouldn't melt in your mouth.... Golden Child and all that..... I wish calls to my Parents were health check-up related rather than misconduct related actually but alas it was not to be. I am not sure that sweet is the right way to describe me as a High School teenager by any means. Given that one of my "targets" was an English Teacher I can assure you that she would have had multiple words to describe me and sweet would be waaaaaay down the list! lol. Thanks for responding and glasses make us look smart so wear them proudly! I am a fellow four eyes too.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
21 Oct 08
"Fellow four eyes" is what an expression! If your English teacher is around I am sure she would find you very sweet as a grown up now. KIds must do what they are supposed to, don't they? And you were an exemplary kid and me a boring kind. It's a constant learning process when with you. You say it so well!
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
21 Oct 08
I often wonder myself where some of my teachers are today because there were several that are certainly memorable! I am not sure what they would think of my progress in life actually. I do still carry some similar traits I'm afraid and can be just as disruptive as professional at times! At least it keeps my wife on her toes I guess.
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
21 Oct 08
I always brought home a very good report card till after high school. My 11th and 12th Grade report cards were pretty bad....but I was having a hard time with other things too. Of course, no one but my dad understood it at that time. I was also having a hard time with my mom then (my dad was working and living in another country) and the report card was just another issue that we had a hard time with. Now, both of us understand what happened and why my grades were low....but at the time...both of us were going through our individual tough times and just couldn't understand each other. I wasn't scared to bring the report card home because I wasn't really worried about the reaction. My parents had always been pretty cool about my grades (it didn't matter how good or bad it was....the maximum I would get was a lecture from my mother)
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
21 Oct 08
I wonlt get into it here but my home life (or lack thereof) contributed considerably to my own bad High School record too Sandhya. Especially in my final two years when I didn't live at home at all. You are fortunate that your Father was able to be so understanding though. I used to cop it really bad from my Parents when I first started bringing home these terrible report cards but they backed off a lot as the years went by; and in my last two years of schooling they never even saw them so this was a relief! Thanks for the response.
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
21 Oct 08
I think my dad was more understanding because he didn't have to live with all that my mother and I was going through at the time. He could see the situation from a distance and act accordingly and think beyond emotions and hormones and Indian situations. Anyways....the days of the report card hell is far behind us....we just need to remember them when our kids bring home their report card ....my older one just brought home a bad report card (by his standards) and I remembered my days and we had a talk (which worked and he's determined to bring home a GREAT report card next time)
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
21 Oct 08
Accepting that it is all behind us now is definitely the right way to look at things. What's done is done! It is commendable that you have been able to improve on your own experiences of the same situation in dealing with your son too.
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@rkrish (3003)
• India
21 Oct 08
Report card are like scam or scar thing for me during my school days as always i get the average marks and better to say below average to my dad expectation. But always good to my expectation as i was so lazy to study during my young ages because of the varied interest.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
21 Oct 08
I was not a studier either rkrish. Not ever! I just didn't seem to find many of the things being taught to me as inspiring in any way at all so never bothered with most of it. At least it is behind both of us now though! Thanks for the response.
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@alokn99 (5718)
• India
21 Oct 08
Thankfully i did not have any comments like those James. For I would have locked up in my room for whole day, taken to the teacher and made to apologise for my actions. In my early years to be very frank i was a pretty mediocre student and dreaded bringing that report card home everytime. It was the dressing down, the lecture on my future, the reduction in my play time and cancellation of toys and games promised to me. But that was for a few years and i think all that i recieved started paying off its dividends and thereafter just waited to come home and show off.
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
21 Oct 08
Locked up in your room for a day sounds like bliss alok. But the lectures were the worst I think. lol. I used to get grounded for weeks at a time. No TV, no friends and just straight home from school every day and stay at home all weekend until the grounding finished! You were able to start slowly and then gain some positive momentum and make up for the earlier years. I unfortunately did the complete opposite! Kinda like sprinting the first three quarters of a marathon and then crawling for the rest of it is probably a good way to describe my own circumstances at the time. Thanks for responding.
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• Philippines
21 Oct 08
Hello James! There you go again. You never fail to make me laugh. I was an honor student as well in gradeschool. Well, at least for a school year. I live with an evil aunt so you see she is from hell as well. Then on my 3rd year in highschool I had a failing grade for chemistry and had to take summer classes to proceed to my senior year. I had to bring home my report card from hell to the house of hell and show it to the devil herself. LOL. (She's nice now) It's nice that you and your mom get to laugh about it. But you made me laugh as well.LOL Cheers, Sheena
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
21 Oct 08
Hi sheena. I am happy you got a smile out of this! This evil aunt angle sounds like something from a Disney Movie! Maybe if you hadn't of failed Chemistry you could have come up with a magic potion that turned her nice back then rather than having to wait until now? lol. Thanks for responding.
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Yes, at times, I have.. But, most of my report cards were really good. I had many B's.. And a few A's too. If, I brought home a D, I will just have to work more harder to bring it up. I don't really remember my grandmother scolding me on bringing home a bad grade on my report card. That was a big relief!
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
21 Oct 08
Mine were almost perfect through the first 7 years of school so it was a bit of a shock for my Parents to suddenyl see this massive downturn in the later years. I just lost all interest really and my grades showed it. After the first few times of bringing home these bad report cards they backed off big time in the future but it was pyschological torture for me in the beginning! Thanks for the response, cream97.
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• United States
21 Oct 08
Oh dear! The worst report card I can remember was when I was in fifth grade. I had all A's, except for math, it was a B. I was devastated! I just knew I was going to get a lecture from my dad, a spanking for doing poorly, and sent to bed without dinner. My brother and sister and I were walking home when I saw the B on the report card. I sat down on the curb and cried. I sent the other two ahead. I was really afraid to go home. I did finally muster up the courage to face my parents. I don't really remember what was said about the B, but it really wasn't bad. I didn't get a lecture, a spanking or get sent to bed without dinner. Now, I know there are people reading this, thinking this is silly, but, for ME that was the report card from hell, and the only one that I was ever that devastated over. My dad expected me to be perfect, and dammit, a B was not perfect! It did not matter what the teachers' comments were, it was the grade that mattered.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
21 Oct 08
I have to admit here that if I had of managed a whole line of B's in my later years of schooling I probably would have been thrown a friggin' parade! So yes, I am sure there are some people that would consider this silly. But I do know many people that were also extremely serious about their marks and studies that would have been as equally disappointed so you are definitely not alone in having been this way. It probably runied your chances of ever becoming "Miss Texas" though but what's done is done Bo so try not to dwell on it too much. Thanks for the response.
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• United States
21 Oct 08
Miss Texas! PFFFFFTTTTTTT!!!!
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
Yeah..... Good point Bo. Start with the local fair's first I reckon.
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@subha12 (18462)
• India
22 Oct 08
No, it has never been the case for me. I had always been the topper throughout. so it was always good result. Plus i used to get happy when i stood First in exams
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
Subha the achiever! Good for you. I used to hold this standing myself in my earlier school years but wnet backwards big time in the final ones! Thanks for the response.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
Well,I had the same experienced like you but it is not a report card, it is our mid-term exam in high school..It is a science subject.. Our teacher was really mad in our class because more than half of the class failed in the exam and I am one of the student who failed.. What he did was he asked as you let our parents signed our test paper so that our parents will know what is our score in the mid-term exam.. I was really scared to show the test paper to my father because I know that he will really get mad.. Well, actually I didn't show it to my father.. What I did I let our nanny to signed it for me.. But I told her not to tell to my parents.. Happy to say that she didn't tell my father about my score.. I make sure that on the next exam my score was already high so that I can improve my grades for finals..
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
Oh my own exam results made my report card look like words from Heaven! You would think that having more than half a class fail an exam is more of a reflection on the Teacher than anybody else. At least you had a Nanny to save your behind in this instance though. I used to sometimes sign my Father's name on my own cards etc so I didn't have to show my Parents anything, but this was risky! Thankfully I never got caught out doing this as I would have been in serious trouble. Thanks for the response kissie.
@nice030481 (1108)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
well, i only got a problem on school when i was in college when i fail 3 subject, not at a time, it is in different sem. on the first time, im scared to give it to my mother, coz i dont know what will they do if they see me failed. maybe they stop me to study which is i dont want to happen. but im thankful that they understand me. and still support me. i really dont want to stop until i graduate.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
I used to get scared myself at first nice030481 and my failed subjects were more like 5 of them rather than 3! lol. It is good that you had the support and understanding of your Parents though and I wish you luck with your studies if tbey are still ongoing. Thanks for responding.
• India
22 Oct 08
i remember i came first in class from tho bottom and hid my report card for a week. finally i had no option but to show it to my dad. It was a reprimand deferred for a week. I can't forget that. There after of course I improved.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
I used to try to buy time when it came to showing my report card too mercuryman. lol. But these attempts to delay the inevitable always ended up biting me in the end! At least you improved after your own situation. Thanks for responding.
• Singapore
22 Oct 08
I remembered there was once when I was in the first year of junior college. It was the mid-year exams and I had terrible grades. My parents had to be called up by our fussy principal to the school for that. I was so sad to tell my mum and I cried in front of her before I even break the news. She was sondering what terrible mishap has happened. She was relieved that it was my grades I was worried about and laughed. I was scared sh!t and she laughed. My principal explained to my dad that my grades were not acceptable and I needed to catch up. My dad explained to her that I had been away for 2 weeks due to chicken pox, but was not acceptable. I was not in the office when that took place but my dad told me later that I had a lousy principal who is not understanding. Later I caught up and did quite well afterall.
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
Thank goodness your Mother wasn't anywhere near as conerned as you were back then Sydney! It reduces the stress SO much to know that your Parents are WITH you and not against you in times like this. It is great that you managed to turn things around in the end too. I had some pretty bad Teacher's and Principal's myself at times and it doesn't help matters at all. Thanks for the response.
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
i don't think so... my report card has always been average... i am not a brilliant student but i am not a bad student as well... i am average and my parents had always been happy with my study... they hardly complain about it... in fact, among all my siblings, i am the best in terms of studying... take care and have a nice day...
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
At least being average allows us to fly under the radar a little bit! lol. The problem for me was that I was bringing home below average marks because I just didn't care. I did excel in the occasional subject though and this just added to everyone's frustration! Thanks for the response lingli.
@Qaeyious (2362)
• United States
22 Oct 08
I was average until Junior High. From then on my approximate A B C average was 3-2-1. Being taught algebra FINALLY was probably a big factor since it explained all the things in Math they were trying to teach me. Then I went to college. That my parents paid for. THAT was the report card from hell. After the first year, I tried another couple of quarters. But it is so obvious to me. And my parents. Pre-college schools do NOTHING to prepare students for college. Sure they teach subjects, but trying to go to school, and hold a job, arrange times for study and homework and reports around job schedules - there was nothing about that in any of my high school classes. And I couldn't figure it out on my own until I went back when I was in my thirties, being fed up with my security guard job and taxi driver. (Not that there's anything wrong with that, please understand, but those particular fields of employment are obviously not my optimal potential.) (that still sounded wrong, didn't it - I will keep my mouth shut (or rather, I will stop typing now))
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
This was one of my biggest issues in High School Qaeyious. I was so bored and frustrated with all my classes because I just didn;t feel that any of it was really that relevant to me or to any aspects of surviving in the real world. Of course I can now look back and see that this was the foundation of learning to think and understand; but I do still wish there had of been more "life savvy" lesson choices available. We do seem to end up finding our way eventually but it would have been nice to have been more prepared! Thanks for responding.
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@SaintAnne (5454)
• United States
22 Oct 08
I was pretty much the perfect student with great marks up until I started High School... Was that you saying that? Or me? I was the valedictorian when I graduated from grade school so I always was showing off my card to my dad and made a copy for my mom (and then I get gifts). Not to brag, I had too many medals that I did try a few of them if they would work as slingshots (sadly no, they just stay up there, caught in a tree branch). But I migrated to the US a month before the semester ended for Freshman Year. I was always first in class that when I found out I was third, I freaked out and disappointed myself so much. But I came back and finished the rest of high school in the Philippines and my grades were still high but not the highest. I was so so so disappointed in myself again when I first got my Sophomore report card that I was afraid my dad would be so so so disappointed in me. So I took the card to his office and you know what he said to me, "I love you no matter what. It is not your grades that make us love you." After that, I didn't worry about high grades anymore. They just come naturally to me. We also had a Habit and Behavior part of the report card. I always got As and Bs on that one. I don't think I ever got an award for being the most prim and proper person in the class. I don't think I even was on the short list. Ahahah.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
We wouldn't expect anything less from you SaintAnne! You are very fortunate to have such a loving and proud Father. SO many kids try so hard to reach certain expectations that are next to impossible to meet and it can be really disheartening. I can fully appreciate how the good grades came easily after the stress of having to achieve disappeared too. Thanks for the response.
@coffeeshot (3786)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
Haha I like those comments. Your mother would have been angrya t the time, but it's pretty funny now, even she has to admit it! No, I was always a perfect student and there's one comment in particular from my grade 4 teacher that read "Carly is an absolute pleasure to teach." Things went pear shaped though in year 10 where I think I got a C- in science and maths and in year 11 I got Ds for both science and maths. That's when I lost interest in school, lost all my respect for some of my teachers and dropped out. Might I add that I completed my senior certificate afterwards at TAFE (a learning institution for adults, kind of like a mini college) where they treat their students like humans, and I passed with flying colours and got on very well with my teachers.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
My Mother was more frustrated than angry I think coffeeshot! I went from this smart kid to a nightmare! lol. I once received many positive comments but these faded very fast unfortunately. I just completely lost interest as I got older and couldn't have cared less. But it seems you too came good in the end with your senior certificate so alls well that ends well! I know TAFE too by the way. (I'm an Aussie) Thanks for responding.
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Oh man i was considered a bad student which is highly ironic. I got horrible grades in high school and it was funny because my dad was the high school janitor and would sneek and see all of my grades all of the time. It was horrible. The even funnier thing is that i graduated went to a tech school and got an associates degree, and now i'm going back to school again to get my bachelor's degree. My dad's gonna laugh when i barely graduated once but am about to graduate a third time.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
Well you certainly came good in the end dookie! It can't have been easy having your Dad around all the time at school. If my Parents had of been a fly on the wall during some of my own school incidents I would have been grounded for ten years! Thanks for the response.
@carolscash (9503)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Most of the time no. However, I remember getting a D one time on my report card and just knew that I would be in trouble. I was so scared to take it home and show my mom even though she knew that I was having trouble with that lesson. I did finally admit that I just could not understand Geometry and she was a little easier on me but I was still in trouble for that grade.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
I donlt think that the alphabet was long enough for some of the grades I brought home for some subjects! I just didn't care for most of them so never tried at all. At least you were able to have your Mother be understanding when you admitted that you were having trouble with a subject. All we can ask is that our Parents and Teachers are patient when we struggle with some things. Thanks for responding.
@kerriannc (4282)
• Jamaica
21 Oct 08
Funny to say James mine was the opposite of yours. My grade 9 report was the best report at the secondary level. I even pass Mathematics that I hated couldn't believe it when I saw it. To tell you the truth after starting secondary school I saw the mistakes I made truly my primary days so I wanted to make my parents proud so I drop all my friends and take my lesson seriously. Grade 9 was the year where you have to choose your career choice so maybe this is the reason it was the best. You have to work hard to get your first choice and I knew that Mathematics and English was what I need to receive mine. It is good though when you and your parents can look back at your school days and laugh after both the mistakes you as the child made and they as the parents. All the best.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
I agree that it is a relief to be able to look back on these years with your Parents and laugh about it. It may have been a bit traumatic for everyone concerned at the time but most of us seem to turn out OK in the end! Thanks for the response kerriann.
@ssj3goku (113)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Haha I remember that. I was a pretty good student in high school and middle school but before that was terrible. Fourth grade was my worst year. I brought home no A's and a mixture of B's and C's once. My mom was very angry with me and I was like "I'm going to pass, it's ok" that didn't help though. It just made her more angry. I think she actually gave up on me during the forth grade so I decided to fix it in the fifth grade. I started bringing home straight A's in the fifth grade and then she held me up to that standard until now.
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
Well you came good in the end ssj! That's the main thing. I did the opposite unfortunately. I strated good then turned bad! lol. Thanks for responding.