If you get married twice to the same person...

@saundyl (9783)
Canada
October 21, 2008 10:11am CST
I have a friend who married her husband once in Canada and once in Mexico. Now they are getting a divorce for a variety of reasons (mainly because he doesn't want to live together). Since the decision to divorce she has been sooo much happier. My question is...Seeing as they married in both Canada and Mexico does that mean they have to get a divorce in each country? or would filing the papers once be enough? I'm not gonna ask her because I'd hate to upset her.
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
21 Oct 08
I think it's likely that even if they had their ceremony in Mexico they would have a Canadian (if that's where they claim residence) marriage liscence. I'm pretty sure, though not 100%, that you need to have a liscence from where you live regardless of where you tie the knot. So I would guess that they only need a Canadian divorce. Look it up on the government of Canada website (I'm guessing that they are living in Canada).
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
21 Oct 08
Actually...She lives in canada...wanted to immgrate there and he refused...because he'd move here but he refused to do the paperwork. So they both claim residence in different places.
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• United States
21 Oct 08
oh jeeze i have no clue!! surely who ever they are going through or went through would be able to tell them.. why did they get married at both? did they have like a ceramony for one place for like her side of the family and then the other for other people or something? kind of bizarre to have done it twice.. i know i had two weddings but they were in the same state and since we were already married there was no reason to officially file again.. hmm interesting!!
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
21 Oct 08
Yeah one for her family and one for his family. Hes from mexico and shes from canada. If it was me id have just renewed vows for the second one not filed it again unless they didnt recognize the wedding here as legal there.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
22 Oct 08
to tell you honestly, i don't know because i never experienced this before... it will be very interesting to find out from other mylotters... i only get married once, that is in australia... i didn't have a marriage ceremony nor registry in my home country... so i really don't know... hopefully other members will be able to help you... take care and have a nice day...
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
I've never been married but I'm curious to find out how its all going to work out for my friend in the end.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Hi saundly, This is really a tricky situation. I don't think that the wedding in Mexico is going to count. I'm not sure. But the one in Canada is the question. That would be the one where the would need the divorce from. And the fact that the both are claiming different residence may even make it easier if he isn't living here and they are not living together then he if he is here could be deported and the marriage could be annulled and she would not even need to divorce. I worked for a matrimonial attorney and this case is very tricky. She really might be able to get the marriage annulled. That means like it never happened, no divorce. That can be done if they are not living together. I don't know the laws in Canada, but that is the laws in the USA. They may be different in Canada and they probally are. If she lived in the USA she wouldn't even have to go through a divorce.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
Thats really interesting. I hope its not too tricky when its all said and done for her. He's not living here...he's visited for a few months at a time but never actually lived here as a resident. Awesome advice. Thanks!
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• Philippines
22 Oct 08
I think they are still oblige to file divorce in both countries that they been married to, Canada and Mexico. Since they have to settle the legalities and have the marriage cleared on both offices. I hope I am correct. Hehehe... Regards!
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
23 Oct 08
I hope for their sake it doesnt end up being years of paperwork.
• China
22 Oct 08
Marry to the same person twice doesn't happen in my community.Marriag and divorce always has a reason,they do not love each other,or have other reasons to decide to have such decision. But for me,I only want to have a wife in my whole life.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
23 Oct 08
I was meaning two weddings for the same couple without a divorce between. They got married here with her friends and family then there with his friends and family. I'd rather have one husband my whole life...not big on the idea of divorce.
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@fritz27 (1136)
• United States
22 Oct 08
I have friends that had married each other quite a few times.... idiots! They got married young, divorced, got back together. Then, when they realized how expensive catholic school was, divorced to get the better tuition..This they did a couple times. They finally divorced and married other people.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
Being married affected their tuition? Id get confused with them getting married and divorced and married again
@fritz27 (1136)
• United States
23 Oct 08
single parents got a tuition break and when you are sending 3 boys to a private school, every dime helps.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
23 Oct 08
Ahhh that makes sense.
@GardenGerty (157023)
• United States
21 Oct 08
This is a stumper for me Saundyl. I have a friend who married three times, and I hope they never get divorced. I think it may matter whether they were church or civil weddings in Mexico. I think you may want to ask her, as she may not have thought of it, and she wants to be very sure she is on good legal footing for the future. As your friend, I would be more upset if it was a problem, and then realized that my friend thought of this glitch.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
21 Oct 08
I'll be sure to ask her when she's back at work. I would be upset too thinking of it that way. I'll ask in a week or so after its not so fresh. Why'd your friend get married three times? Thank you for the advice.
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• United States
21 Oct 08
Wow, thats a really good question. I don't know the answer to your question. But i'm very interested in finding out. My I ask how long have they been together to have gotten married twice to get a divorce. Normally you get married a second time because your happy and want to renew you vows but yet there getting a divorce kind weird. Happy Mylotting.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
21 Oct 08
Five years ago They got married once here in Canada...with her family present then 2 months later got married again with his family present in Mexico. Pretty much he refused to have her immigrate there but wont do the paperwork to immigrate here...and he refused a job offer with a work visa here and in short (i know theres alot more to this than just that) shes tired of waiting for him to be ready.
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• United States
23 Oct 08
Well I would be tired of waiting. If shes gave him 5 years he's not gonna do anything about other wise he would of by now. I feel bad for her but it wasn't meant to be. And she'll find someone that truely loves her and respects and will do anything for like they should.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
23 Oct 08
I agree and hope she finds someone how loves and deserves her as well. I'd be tired of waiting too!
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
21 Oct 08
They can get a divorce here like everyone else who got married here, the goverment recognizes other marriages from other countries.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
21 Oct 08
Good to know. I was just curious this morning about it.
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• Philippines
22 Oct 08
Oh gosh so terrible that it has to end that way. they must had been very inlove with each other then , why ? then that they have to separate it better be a serious reason anyways, yeah how would they go about that procedure i dont know about it also and i am eager to know how to treat the divorce papers in each country
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
It is sad. I didnt know them when they got married so i'm not sure how they originally felt. I've known them for about a year and neithr hve seemed happy.
• China
22 Oct 08
maybe it is normal overseas, in china, married twice is very infrequent. if a woman or man married twice, people will think she/he is not a good person.no one want to talk with you. so marriage is very important thing for everyone. in western,divorce and marriage is a normal business.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
It as to the same person and no divorce between...One ceremony was for her family and the other was with his family as it was more affordable to do it that way than have one side have to travel thousands of miles for the one. I dont see anything wrong with that. Divorce...i hear people say its common but honestly i know more people who are married and STAYED married than i do couples who have divorced...i can count those one one hand.
• India
22 Oct 08
marring one person and loving him or her is the reasonable one. And it is advisable
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• United States
23 Oct 08
It is funny you mention this, because I (a Canadian) just got engaged and am living with my Mexican fiancé in Mexico and we are thinking of getting married here first and then going to Canada and getting married again so that my family and friends from there. Is there any problem with this? Someone told my mom this was illegal, but I don't see how? How could we just renew our vows in Canada? Is that done at City Hall or with a small ceremony?
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
23 Oct 08
I think youd just talk to your pastor/reverend or whatnot about renewing the vows and they'd be able to tell you. I dont think its illegal.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
22 Oct 08
[i]Hi saundyl, I guess they will only process it once and they will just submit a document to the other Country to cancel their marriage! LIke if they will process the divorce in Mexico then once approve,, she will send documents to the specific office in Canada![/i]
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
Seems like a lota paper work to go through.
• Pakistan
22 Oct 08
really interesting to see these kind of condition but in our country Pakistan there is hardly a case like that. but although it is possible and may be occur in many places. Prince Sad
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
I think its a rare case anywhere.