Letting go.

@Pose123 (21667)
Canada
October 21, 2008 5:18pm CST
Those of us who have experienced the loss of a loved one know just how devastating it can be. While it may feel at first that we are caught up in a never ending state of sadness and emptiness, we would be wise to remember that it is not a permanent condition but it is a very necessary one. While time is the great healer, the grieving process is essential. Sometimes people have a problem letting go because they feel that they are not being loyal to their loved one, but we must realize that letting go is not the same as forgetting and we will always have our memories. Grieving is a process and we may move through different cycles but in the end there has to be surrender, then the healing will come. While some may find this bordering the morbid, I believe there are those who need to hear this.
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@Shar11 (419)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Thank you for that.. I totally agree and know someone who needs to hear just these words.. My mother in law lost her husband 5 years ago and is still mourning so deeply that she experiences no joy in her life anymore.. We have tried everything to help her let go..to encourage her even to maybe see a therapist to talk things out with.. My fear is she is actually slowly killing herself with her pain. Her husband was a wonderful man that none of us could ever forget. I try to remind her that he would want her to let go..to carry on and enjoy thier children and grandchilden..that in many ways she will always carry his presense on for those that were too young to know him.. Some people just really get stuck..the process stalls...
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
Hi Shar, Thank you for your comments. I feel sorry for your mother in law, but I have seen others do the same to themselves. She needs to let her husband go, and then she will have only good memories. I hope that someone can help her. Blessings.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
21 Oct 08
Well I for one certainly needed to hear it. I have loss so many in my life and somehow for me, it seems to get a little harder each time. But one thing that I am sure of, the pain lessons as time goes on and I am able to love and cherish anew. Right now, I am anticipating having to leave dear friend's behind soon. I know that it will be hard, but Jesus will see me through. Thank you so much for sharing this. God bless you.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
Hi Rozie, Thank you for responding and for your comments. I'm sorry that you have loss so many loved ones, it is very difficult, but you are right about time, it is the great healer. Blessings.
@myhllim (272)
• Malaysia
22 Oct 08
Hi, thanks for your posting. It is a good sharing. I hope those who are in sadness now have a chance to read this posting, and ready to let go to move on again.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
Hi myhllim, Thank you for you comments. Blessings.
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
anything must be let go. nothing is permanent in this world. all will go eventually. as for me, i am preparing myself for it. people go, and somehow, someday i will be left.. i guess i am prepared.. hopefully
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
Hi jingbautista, Thank you for your thoughts. Blessings.
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
22 Oct 08
Yes Pose I went through all this when I lost my father,12 years ago......He was 58 when he was diagonised with a dreadful disease,to which he succombed 5 years later....Till then my world had revovled round my dad,and actually those five years were a period of conditioning to me...where in I accepted and trained myself internally to live in a world without him,because the doctors had forcast the inevitable for him. It was hard at first,my whole world seemed to be crumbling,and it was not easy to hang on and to put up a brave front,prayers were my only solace.But towards his last days,yes I actually let myself go,and prayed for his end,for it was a torture to see him suffering.It was less painful to keep him in my memories than to see his pitiable condition.....And I was glad when his end actually came because it would put an end to all his suffering. So when his end finally came,I just did not cry,I was infact happy for him....
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
Hi Rose, Thank you for adding your thoughts here. I know it had to be difficult for you but You handled it well. Blessings
@celticeagle (117727)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Oct 08
Grief is morbid and sad and horrible. And yes, people do need to hear it. You go through stages. Each one is needed and normal. Grief counselling is something that can be utilized too. I think when we are in the throws of sorry we may not know what the norm is and it may be good to get a professional's input.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
Hi celticeagle, Thanks for your thoughts on this, I agree. Blessings.
• Malaysia
22 Oct 08
Losing someone close is hard to accept and forget. Crying and moaning will not ease the pain or emptiness inside. Life must go on, easy said than done.. I know it's hard to do. Think of the good memories that have been shared together. I still do that and it does helps..
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
22 Oct 08
Hi lavender, Thank you for your thoughts. Blessings.