why is it so hard to make friends on my lot?

@eddie42 (270)
United States
October 22, 2008 9:03am CST
this site is growing and we all had a begining here but we have people saying if they stars is a 4 they are not answering their question well let me say something to you. you haveen,t alway carried a 10 star you to had to start somewhere how are the new people are to get encourage to even want to stay here if we the long timers don,t want to encourage them and add them as friends get off your high horse and realize, it the people who help you get where you are with all due respect.
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18 responses
@jamesgrub (673)
• United States
23 Oct 08
amen to that. i just started today and already had someone being rude to be. i dont know if its just being rude or because im a newbie. i dont care im still learning so they can just deal.
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@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
don,t worry its going to be ok we going to get through this and do what we set out to do and make a lot new friends here and welcome to my lot.i must say all is not rude here some are very nice people here don,t let one person hurt your feeling thank you for sharing
• India
23 Oct 08
ya its hard to make friends on mylot....i also have only 4 frnds...
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@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
well like me don,t give up you have to send out some request dor new friends and see what happens this is a community here so i will try if you try to be active and learn the policy here.tahnk you for sharing
@subha12 (18453)
• India
23 Oct 08
I do not know actually what made you think that mylot is not friendly. I have got many supports from many friends here. all start new and then gain experience here. i am also no different. so its not so.
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@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
well if you say so i believe you i guess i will try a bit harder here and see what happens and try to gain experience because i lack experience iam not use to putting my thoughts on the computer thank you so much
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
Hi! Guys Am a newbie here please add me as your friend.I want to make new friends here.Thanks.
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@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
thanks a lot i will add you welcome to mylot i hope you make many friends here as well.
• China
23 Oct 08
u could provide your commnicate tools to others by sending message, i think it's easy way to make friends.
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@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
i don,t want to spam anyone a lot of that is going on here however when i can i will request to add as many as i can are at least the ones who wil add a newbie to there list thank so very much.
@tickapa (331)
• Romania
22 Oct 08
It is not true, it is really easy to make friends here. I seem to help us, we are a big family. Maybe u are not encourages direct (not encourage by PM or something like that), but we all think about you and about new members. We want to help myLot and it means that we all make torn a community even more enjoyable. I think you got it wrong the way in which friends are here. It's easy! Answer discussions, start discussions, if you believe that someone has the same opinions as you or you like his answer, send a message and add it to your friends list. Good luck! Way, maybe after doing 100 posts you take you a star!
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@eddie42 (270)
• United States
22 Oct 08
well thank you i have gotten 2 stars thats great i think well i will try to be friend more i guess it take two to tangle
@winzpc (2356)
• Indonesia
22 Oct 08
I think it's not very hard for me. I have made around 1000 friend. I'm happy with it. I always add the myLotter is I see there is new avatar or new myLotters. But this two days. I'm very busy so I have a less time sign in myLot, so I just keep focus in making a post and hope that I can reach my payout in the end of this month. I sure that you will be able to find much friend in the future. Keep post happy myLotting...
• Ireland
23 Oct 08
i agree - it is not difficult to make new friends here on mylot i am only new here, i joined about a week ago and have a few friends already i think the points above are correct mylot is about member interaction and discussions this is how mylot works my advice to you is when you reply to a topic invite the creator to be your friend when you start a topic state in the description that the readers can add you as a friend i sometimes add this point to the end of my replies not this one 'cause its the topic but you know what to do don't you 80)
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
thank you for sharing i will keep these points in mind i still have a lot to learn here so forgive me for venting when it,s not necessary just feeling a bit down thats all.
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
22 Oct 08
Well.. I think it is hard to make friends in myLot, especially when you are newbie, was because people don't want someone in their friendlist send them spams. I do that too. People in myLot knows each other from the discussion. They found some people are interesting, good in giving opinion, very active, having a good knowledge, so that they started some more personal interaction with them. After all, in this site, people are not only making friends. We discussed and we earned money. That's what usually people do here.
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
22 Oct 08
i understand all that but when you are new we have to start some where,yes people don,t know us but i can we as mylotter sharpen each other if we don,t encourage each other.if they on mylot spam cannot be done anyway you can get put off the site doing that so it has to be another reason then that.
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
23 Oct 08
I know... But it is hard to filter them. You know, I used to approve all people that add me as their friend. Lately, they all sent me spams in my inbox, and that was really annoying. I know I can just delete them, but it is not that. I know that there are some people like you, but you should understand other people's position and thought. Let's be considerate each other :) Thank you, and good luck :)
• Lubbock, Texas
23 Oct 08
I'm sorry you feel it's difficult to make friends on myLot. I don't grand a friendship request to everyone. I go to their profile and look at their discussions and comments and interests. If we don't have anything in common I don't grant the friendship simply because a lot of new myLotters expect all their friends to respond to all their comments. If I'm not interested in what they're taking about I won't respond. I've found that some of them, unfortunately, get quite hostile about it and I'm not on myLot fight. I've had quite enough of dealing with petty squabbling while my 5 children were growing up. I'm here at myLot to enjoy friendly conversation. That's not to say I never grant a newbie friendship, or that you would be one of those that was hostile, that's just my reasoning behind not granting friendship to everyone that asks.
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
i understand and thank you for being so honest about how you feel there is a lot of scamming going here looking for people to make them money i can see why you interest is making friends that good.thank you so much for being honest.
@kekexinfeng (1303)
• China
23 Oct 08
you feel hard to make friends because you often don't response quality post,and your star is only 2,that is mean you are not pass mylot,but you can often work hard and keep active in mylot,and also upload pictures and post good posts,then your star will increase. you can add whoever as your friends,people are very helpfull in mylot,they will add you too.
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
well i feel my question are quality question and iam trying as best ican here i know it a lot i have to learn but iam willing to learn and do what i have to do to get where iam going and make friends doing it thank you for sharing.
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
Am a newbie here.Guys add me i want to have friends here.Thanks
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
you are right to have friends here they will help you to get to your goal i can,t see not having a frind list here it,s nice to have some place you can go and post how you really feel and no one will judge you here thank you for replying keep up the good work and keep on mylotting and welcome to my lot.
@nitesh512 (153)
• Nepal
23 Oct 08
well may be because mylot is a place to make money rather than friends. If you want to make friends then people go to myspace or something like that. People are more intrested in earning money.
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
why we can,t have both here make friends and make money some people have different goals here on my lot some people don,t care about the money they perfer to make friends here rather worrying about the money.
@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
23 Oct 08
As in real life, friends take time to cultivate. If you shifted into a new neighborhood, you wouldn't expect that everyone will know you from day one or even the first week, right? But over time, if you show yourself to be open, trustworthy, friendly and sociable, more people will want to interact with you and become your friends (and neighbors in this case). It is the same here in myLot. I think people don't mind being someone's friend if he/she is very cordial and friendly, and interacts positively with others. If a person starts out here wanting everyone to become his/her instant friend, he/she may feel some resentment. Just be yourself, enjoy participating here and friends will show up at the door over time. Not everyone looks at star ratings. I certainly don't, and anyone can be my friend irrespective of his/her star rating. I think that's the same with many members here.
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
well i will try to be more patient in making friends her if you think about it friends are not easily made even in person it takes time thank for information it really do help a lot.
• India
23 Oct 08
is it? i cant believe this.. because i just joined recently here & i reached nearly 100 friends. i have some sentimental relations too here.. many of my friends have the habit of replying. so my friends circle is well developing here. i got many married womens in my friends circle (actually i came to know later that they are married n having childrens). anyway, i respect everyone here in mylot and i am considering everyone as family members itself. i think you are thinking to send friends request. dont feel shy at all my dear friend.. if your mind says this person can be your friend, then just give him a request. he will approve you in 30 mins to less than 2 days or a week. depended upon how he uses internet. Happy lotting!
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
this information is good and i will continue to add people on my lot and do all i can to try to be a good mylotter here and learn the rules as well.thank you so much for sharing your informaion.
• Malaysia
23 Oct 08
It depends also on lady luck... Why bother how many friends you have on your list? To me everyone on this website are my friends already even though they not listed under me.. Enjoy lotting babe..
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
well it matter if they are on my lists have nothing to do with lady luck.you have to understand if they are your friend and on your list they will look out for you a long the way.this way is better it pays to bother.
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
For me, when I like the discussion I answer it with all the knowledge and experiences I had. If they will invite me as a friend, everytime I open mylot, I always prioritize my friends' discussions. If there are those who will not make friends with others, there are many who are friendly enough to help you increase your star.
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
thats great i too answer question that interest me,some don,t really make a whole lot sense but sometime when i read it i understand it a little better.
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
hi eddie, im just new here in mylot and its nice to know that you want to help and encourage newbies like me. hope there are still more a lot of people here who're like you.
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
you are quite welcome i just want to be a good mylotter and encourage the new as well as the older ones we all can learn from on another never to old are young to learn.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
22 Oct 08
It does tend to be hard when you first start out...ppl are leery of trolls on here. The best advice I can give is build up your post number (the number in brackets by your id) and when it gets to about 100 then invite ppl to be your friend. That way they have somewhat of an idea about who you are, what your like and if you and them are good friendship material. [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
25 Oct 08
thank you for your encouraging thought i really appreaciate it i guess i was getting a little depressed when you try hard and nothing really changes then you start feeling down thanks a lot.