Should marriage be based on status?

India
October 22, 2008 11:52am CST
Do you think that marriages should take place between persons of equal status.This happens mostly in case of arranged marriages which are solemnized under the guidance of parents.But in love marriages sometimes the status in terms of money or position are not taken into account when the lovers are blind of pure love.But will it evoke any complex or trouble in the mind of the person enjoying a high status in a later stage?
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6 responses
• United States
22 Oct 08
A relationship will be ups and downs, no matter what your status, and you will work through everything regardless of that if you truly are in love. Love is not a thing of fairy tales and happiness all the time. It is a working struggle, and each new thing should be worked on together! So it should not matter unless you bring it up in a conversation and your beau is annoyed that you pointed out their class. And if one person is enjoying happiness with a high status later in life, there is no reason the other should not be just as happy.
• India
22 Oct 08
What you said in the last sentence is correct and is the logic, but I have seen in many families the husband or wife boasting of his or her status after years they got married
• United States
22 Oct 08
Are you talking about status as in...job...money...popularity...what?
• India
22 Oct 08
yes as in job,wealth,position in the society etc..
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
22 Oct 08
i had never liked that arranged marriage. it's crap for me. marrying someone coz of the same status and be with the person you dont even love just coz your parents want to protect the "FAMILY FORTUNE"
• India
22 Oct 08
But here that "protecting Family Fortune " has become the order of the day,what shall we do!!Thanks for the response
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
22 Oct 08
i understand what your saying. it's really up to you if you allow yourself to let your parents follow the tradition or if you wanna break the tradition. as long as it will make you happy...then do it
• India
22 Oct 08
here it takes an extra courage to swim against the current ,that's the problem,thanks shar
@dodo19 (32553)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
23 Oct 08
I don't think marriage, or any relationship for that matter, should be based on status. I think it should be based on love, on how the two individual feel about each other. If two individuals really love each other, and want to have a good relationship, then they should be together.
• India
24 Oct 08
I agree with you but it is not understood by the society,congats for crossing the 300 mark
@dodo19 (32553)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Oct 08
It is true what you say. Though I think relationships based on status or not depends a lot on the society that individuals live in. And thank you for the congrats.
@leeapollo (611)
• China
23 Oct 08
abolutely not. but marriage be based on similar status will last long. in nowadays the situations are much better although there still much troubles.
• India
23 Oct 08
you said it
@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
23 Oct 08
I don't think the status should be taken into account. My marriage was arranged and we were not from equal status. I am in a professional and he is just a mechanic but i was thankful that he was my husband. I never regret my marriage. He was really hardworking and never once we brought up our status. He really carries out his responsibilities very well. I am hoping our marriage will last till the end.
• India
23 Oct 08
You have a good heart and a broad mind.
@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
22 Oct 08
In fairy tales the man is usually of considerably higher status then that of the bride to be. A pauper marrying a lord of high status. or something of the such. Dowry from the brides to be father or from the bride herself. I suppose it just depends on what era you are talking of. Our own now or of that back in simpler times.
• India
22 Oct 08
Here,in my country a majority of marriages are taking place after duly weighing the status symbol,and what is interesting is that almost all are well educated.