Do your PARENTS know who you REALLY are?

Philippines
October 23, 2008 9:17am CST
Im just wondering..To be honest my mom always tell me that she knows me very much,, well the truth is she don't,, i won't lie .. she really doesn't know me well not that much i supposed..heheh .. for example my personality.. in the house im a very silent type of person and immature in nature.. but when im out of the house.. Im different ... im very outgoing... and very mature enough to think of certain things..hehehe.. anyway...i just like to know if my theory is correct or not.. DO our parents really know who we are?
5 people like this
44 responses
@daceyp (327)
23 Oct 08
u mayb a different person at home than when u r out but ur mum knows every side to u and ud b surprised at the thought that she knows alot more about who u r and wot u do than u thought.its scary i no but its true.my mum is always talking 2 me about things that i thought she didnt no about
• United States
23 Oct 08
That may be true for some, but there are parents who truly honestly don't know their kid. I know by experience when mine or a friends parent has said things about us that are not true at all but something they came up with out of false judgments.
@daceyp (327)
23 Oct 08
people will alweays make things up about people and thats where misstrust comes in between parnets and there kids.
@subha12 (18454)
• India
24 Oct 08
i thibk yes they know well about me. there are very little secrets in my life. so its not difficult to know me.
@lisa45 (87)
24 Oct 08
our subha you seem like a really onest person but come on there must be things they dont no about you
• United States
23 Oct 08
I am the same way, my mother thinks that she knows me so well, but no way. I am a totally different person. I begin to bring out my personality with her though and she is starting to see the true me. She became shocked to know the type of person that I am and I have to say see mom, you think you know me, but no you don't.
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
and sometimes i even got to the point that i am feeling that i am very bad.. for all the years that she able to care for me. that i have to her..
@mtdewgurl74 (18121)
• United States
15 Nov 08
No down deep I don't think my parents or husband really know me they really don't dig deep enough to really find out. I guess we all do that have different personality skins we put on for different family members and people.
@zhaychel (610)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Nov 08
Yes they do. They know my likes and dislikes. They know that I'm moody. They know my bad traits and good traits as well. They know how to make things smooth for me. They know what I'm feeling, hurt, happy or disappointed. They know things that would make me very happy. ^^,
@nini89 (670)
• India
4 Nov 08
Hi patriarch! It is good that you are bold and mature when you are out, so that any mishappening happens you can handle yourself. Or if you travel long distance you can have with out any one support. But of my age my mom knew me very well how much smart i was. She never used to leave me alone any long distance with anyone. Some relative or my dad used to come with me. If i want to go for an interview to a new place some one used to escortme so that I never miss the way to home. But now I am grown up and my daughter is 19 I should be very careful about her she travel alone anywhere. There I dont know how she will be out from house she better handle the situation and proceed further. I dont want her to be like me that without knowing the outside world. Happy posting and have a nice day.
• India
1 Nov 08
Nope nope. I dont think so the same too. I also think that my parents really dont know me at all. Well My mom says thats she knows me very well . My dad tells that he knows me very well. They dont know what i want, they dont know what i am thinking , they dont know what i want. they dont udnerstand me. try to communicate with me. Well i know they love me and all. But when i think of it. its kidna of funny. when i ask them ok if you say you know me then please tell me what i am thinking of and they come up with the worlds most craziest ideas in the world. haha. Well thats how it works for them and me . Well the bottom line is that we all love each other . happy mylotting :)
• Indonesia
28 Oct 08
i think my parents would never know who im... because im very silent and closed if i am in home.. i chose to share my problem to my best friend,, not to my parents,, my brother,, my sister,, my girlfriend.. i always try to make a big smile in front of them.. i only want other people always happy..
• Malaysia
28 Oct 08
I think my parents do not know the real me. This is because I know there has been communication breakdown between me and my parents since I was small. I am never comfortable to share my difficulties with them. I can only them about my achievements and happy moments. But never can I share my difficulties and my failures with them because they will never understand. I always dream of them to understand me, but I think the chances are very slim. Now that the thing has been going on for so long, I feel it is better not to think about it anymore. What I am doing now is just distance myself as far as I can, I mean emotionally distant. I still go there frequently to see my parents but I never share my feelings with them anymore.
@vanities (11343)
• Davao, Philippines
28 Oct 08
im a parent now and i could say that i know my children well since when they were small..although there are some personal things that i dont know of since they have also the right of their own privacy if they chooses not to tell us...basically or f=generally i know their different personalities and likes(can be detect when they were still kids)
@iyah10 (4116)
• Kuwait
26 Oct 08
Most of my big decision in life my Mother knows me better but not most of the time of course especially when I am going out with friends....
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
26 Oct 08
most times its easier for our parents to know us because they are the ones who brought us up but in these days when children can easily come up with vices without anyone knowing its really a tough one for them to really know us as much as they should especially with parents having to work extra hours to get money to take care of the kids ,but really an observant parent will know some things about their children but they cant know evrything
@kezza246 (83)
25 Oct 08
I think it is good for your parents to not know exactly who you are. My parents don't know what me and my friends get up to. :) hehehe
@rusty2rusty (6767)
• Defiance, Ohio
25 Oct 08
No, my parents don't really know me. They never have. my father has never really tried to know me. He just forms his opinion and that is it. My mother, well I love her dearly but there are times when she doesn't know best.
• India
25 Oct 08
Ya my parents know my all habits and my all good and baad works. I am very frank with my parents.i share my all problems and my thoughs with my parents.they also share their thoughts with me.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
24 Oct 08
no, mine never did. i am 65 years old & both my parents have passed away in the last few months but they never did know who i was. i think that's very sad.
@lisa45 (87)
24 Oct 08
hi of course they dont same way our friends dont either its alll about diffrent faces and personalitys for diffrent things your family being the most genuine and then you have your other sides for say work and coll and friends because think about it all the people around us act diffrentley and our of diffrent ages so they all like and value in diffrent ways u have got to have these diffrent personalits for them just like the personality were when we dont like someone we will give them a smile and then cringe after they look away(even the nicest people do this) think about itpeople we wouldnt survive in this world with these diffrent attributes.and personalitys. what do you think
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
24 Oct 08
Before when we are still young like 6 years and below a guess this statement is true for all we do is what we learn for them, but when we start our own thinking and learn from others outside to them, well it is a different story for i believe that you know yourself better than any other not even your parents. Our parent doesnt watch as 24/7 so i guess they only know atleast 25% of us, or friends is 25%, close friend 50% and our partner or boyfriends or girlfriends is mostly likely 90%, but you, youself got the 100%.
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
24 Oct 08
I never knew my father and I already lost my mother and grandma, I think they knew me enough to tell me things and share things with me, like anything else, I manage to shock them once in a while, so it is a yes, they knew me but not all the time.
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
24 Oct 08
Haha.. your question makes me ponder if I have split personality. When I'm at home, I'm louder (just slightly) and tend to be more demanding. However, when I'm with friends, I tend to be the quieter and calmer one, and I tend to give in more. Hmm.. I wouldn't say my parents do not know the real me.. rather.. I do not quite understand why I behave quite differently with different people.Both sides of me are the real me.. so ya.. I would say my parents know Half of me..