How far will you go for your children?

@bieke81 (1069)
Belgium
October 23, 2008 11:57pm CST
Yesterday I was looking at the first episode of the second season of Private Practise (a spin-off from Grey's Anatomy). In this episode there was a mother of a son that was very ill and needed a donor so he could get better. His mother was pregnant with her second child for this reason, but her child wouldn't be born on time so she induced labour by herself because the doctors wouldn't do it. When I was watching this, I was thinking by myself if I would go this far. And I don't think so, I mean, it's not because your first born is ill that you have to put the live of your second one in danger. They are both your children and need your protection and love and care. I don't think I could ever make that decision, but on the other hand, I've never been placed in that position either. How about you, would you do this, or would you hope that all works out for the best?
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• United States
24 Oct 08
This is a toughy. I, like you, can't fathom the idea of risking one child's life to save another. But, also like you, I have never been faced with that decision. I can completely understand the emotional bond that drove this character to do this and I have heard of parents doing this in the news in the past. I don't say that I completely disagree with it because to say that would be to deny the love parents have for their children. However, I don't know to what extreme I would go to perserve one child's life if it meant risking another. It would be undoubtedly the toughest decision of my life. That I know for sure.
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• United States
26 Oct 08
I can honestly say I would have another child in order to save one.However I agree with you about risking that childs life to save the other.It is true we can't say what we would do for sure being we are not in the situation.I mean you have to figure if you have a child ,love it and with it only for him/her to become deathly ill you would do anything to save him.Yet when the baby is still in your belly of course you love it but the strength of that love would be different.I guess we just have to be happy we are not facing that decision. I like the discussion you started here I hope a lot of people respond I would be interested in what others have to say.
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@bieke81 (1069)
• Belgium
26 Oct 08
I agree that I would have another child to save the first one if needed, that I would do, no questions asked. But putting his or her life in danger, that's something I can't imagine doing. Plus when the second child survives his early birth, it is more likely to have health issues while it grows up and than you will have two childs that are ill, wouldn't that make your burden harder to wear? Thanks for your response, I do hope there will be more people to respond here, because I like to hear more points of view. Have a nice day
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• United States
26 Oct 08
I like to hear more point of view to.Yes I think if the second child became ill as well it would be a much bigger burden to bear.I just think many women would not have bonded with the second child not in the same way they did the first.I can't say I would do the same thing,I have no idea what I would do if I were in this situationI am very happy that I am not.
• United States
3 Nov 08
there is no limit to how far i would go my kids are my life and if they need my life they can have it.
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@bieke81 (1069)
• Belgium
3 Nov 08
I agree with you on giving my own life for them. But I still wonder if I would sacrifice and risk the live of my unborn child for them. I had a strong connection with my two boys from the moment I got pregnant so a decision like that would be hard for me, I guess. Have a nice day