why men cheat on women?

United States
October 25, 2008 8:57am CST
how many of you have had a man cheat on you? well, my husband did and i didn't find out until a detective told me. now, i have dreams almost every night of him telling me of this other women. i'm not sure if i haven't made peace with it because we never got to discuss it or because he is still denying it. why do men cheat on women? i would love your input.
3 responses
@gemini_rose (16193)
25 Oct 08
My hubby cheated on me nearly two years ago and I was the last out of his family and other people to know about it. It went on for nearly a year and was the worst time of my life, it made me quite ill and I suffered with lots of nightmares as a result, I still have them now, not as often but they are still there. I am still with my hubby and I have more or less come to terms with it, I just have stages where it comes back to haunt me and I feel pain again. I cannot give you the answer as to why it happens, it is just something that does and we have to deal with it in whatever way we can and either stay and deal with it or move on. I chose to stay and we did an awful lot of talking, I got to know every grotty detail but at least then I kind of gained some understanding.
• United States
30 Oct 08
My husband also touched all three of my children they are in foster care and he is awaiting trial. i had no clue. My life has been a nightmare.
@gemini_rose (16193)
30 Oct 08
I am really sorry, that kind of puts a whole different perspective on things for all of you.
• Australia
25 Oct 08
Hm.. i have no idea. Haven't experienced being cheated before but several months ago i met a married guy who wants more of a relationship with me than what i would like. It seemed he needed comfort and somebody to tell his problems to about his dissatisfaction with his marriage. It's sort of an attraction thing for him to feel something new with someone (that someone being me at the time) and he was feeling down about his marriage and the desperation to find someone new and someone who understands him. I think his real concern was about the lack of understanding and communication from his wife. So i encouraged him to have a talk with his wife since the only way to clear things up is to target the heart of the problem and get an understanding of what's going on with each other. Things still didn't work out well in the end but at least they're trying to work out their problems. So this is what I've learned from him and maybe it might help you somehow.
• United States
30 Oct 08
we talked everyday, he also touched all three of our children and they are foster care and he is awaiting trial. I had no clue. I feel like a fool.
• Philippines
25 Oct 08
I am thankful that I have not experience this type of problem and I hope that I won't experience this until the end
• United States
30 Oct 08
Thank you and he still denies when the detective at the police station identified the woman on his computer. Long story