Don't Judge a Book by its Cover

Philippines
October 28, 2008 10:45am CST
A saying that is frequently broken by many of us and I have been a victim of it. Since I was a child I don't play dolls, I don't put ribbons on my hair. I don't wear dress, make-up and strappy sandals--except on special and important ocassions. I am rugged. I love jeans, rubber shoes and loose shirts. By this style and get up they call me 'Tomboy' or lesbian. Unfair isn't it? Just because I choose clothes that makes me comfortable they will brand me as such. I can take these criticisms if it came from strangers. But its kind of hurting if it comes from the very lips of your family and relatives. For how many years we are together still they don't know me. But I can forgive them. They are my family and there should be harmony within it. I will not make a big deal about it because in my heart I know I am straight. And my Eternal Father knows what is inside me. Happy myLotting.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
28 Oct 08
My very best friend that I had when I was a girl, was just like you. She was the most fun friend. She could climb trees, arm-wrestle boys (and she usually won), play baseball, etc. She was quite different from myself and yet we were a compliment to one another. She helped me to be more adventurous and to stand up for myself. She learned a little bit of girly things from me. She is a wife and mother now and this is just who she is. God made us all differently. Wouldn't it be boring if we were all alike?!
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
hi. Nice to read a comment from you again. Yeah, it would be boring if we are all alike. And it will not portray how our God is a great artist, sculptor or simply MAKER. He made us all differently unique and I am proud that He made me fearfully and wonderfully in His image no matter what others might say. Thanks for responding.
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@rainmark (4306)
28 Oct 08
Some people are really like that, they love criticizing others and judge you on what they seen outside of you. They judge you through your actions but they didn't try to know you better, the deepest part of your personality. And that's unfair, but you know, you don't need to please them, the important is what's in your heart. Oneday they will feel tired of criticizing you, just show to them that they are wrong on their perception towards you. Just live the life that you are happy and comfortable and stress-free. Don't mind them. happy posting.
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
hi. You cannot please everybody so why try to please them at all. As long as I am not interfering with their personal lives and not hurting anyone I should live my life to the fullest be myself. If I cannot learn to appreciate who I am then much more that others will not appreciate me. thanks for responding.
• Netherlands
28 Oct 08
I can recognize lots of your sayings, I think we all hate it to be judged allready before we could even say your name. As crazy as I am anyways, I'm stucked with this pre-judging all the time, but I think I stopped bothering it nowadays, cause I know who I am, and my friends know it to. I think we all have pre-judges about everyone, its just in our blood that we do, but the people which calling you names for it, are the irritating ones, just cause there more 'normal'. I think those who complain about you, the way your are, the way you look. If my family would give any complains about me, I say most of the time that its just the way I am, and they should not have any problems with it, or I say: "Yes I am whatever he/she is saying, if thats makes you feel better, most of the time they will realise that is was pretty useless from them to complain about you, cause they dont become better from it. I think I might have confused myself with this text, and sorry for my bad spellings.
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
hi. Yeah you are right. Criticisms, specially those that are not true will not make me and as well as them better. They are just ignorant that look only on what their eyes can see. Nothing more. That makes them 'skin-deep' or narrow people. Thanks for responding.
@impexp (246)
• China
28 Oct 08
It is unnecessary to satisfy everyone.Since you know what makes you comfortable, then do it and be yourself.