What about potty training?

United States
October 28, 2008 3:22pm CST
What age did you moms start potty training? My daughter is 2 and she doesn't seem to be quite ready yet. I was just wondering though, will it be obvious when she is ready or is it something I need to initiate. She likes to pretend to go potty when I am in there and she pretends to wipe but she never actually does anything. She will tell us if she is ready to be changed and tries to take her diaper off also. Those things do signal readiness but she just won't go. Also, she doesn't have the ability to tell us yet before she has to go, only after. So pointers would be great. Thanks.
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5 responses
28 Oct 08
Heyy, My son was fully potty trained just after his 2nd birthday but he was really interested in it and showed signs of being ready ie, staying dry through the night, letting me know he needed the toilet etc. I think it is more or less down to the individual child more than anything. If they feel scared they won't go. Don't push just try and encourage her by maybe putting up a reward chart near the potty and givving stickers for going? My son loved this but it may not work for your daughter. The most important thing is waiting till your daughter feels confident enough. She'll elt you know when she's ready some way or another lol.
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• United States
28 Oct 08
Thats what I'm thinking but I just don't know what she will do to let me know. Will she just take her diaper off and go in the potty alone or should I re-encourage her at a later date? I want her to be fully ready though cause I don't want to have to worry about accidents in the store if it's on a timer you know? I would rather it be when she decides she doesn't want her diapers anymore. I let her go without her diaper one time a couple weeks ago cause she was showing interest in the potty and she just stood there very nonchalantly and peed on the floor. No mention of needing to go or anything.
• Canada
28 Oct 08
i tried to potty train my son, shortly after he turned 2 years old. He clearly wasn't ready and no matter what i tried, he would not pee in the potty. i decided to wait a bit and try again once he was a bit older. he was almost 3 by the time he was potty trained. i found that putting him in real underwear with plastic pants over top helped alot. he didn't like the feeling of being wet, so as soon as he'd pee his underwear, he would take them off. He only peed in them twice and then went to the potty on his own every time after that. i found that pull-ups didn't help at all even the ones that claimed the child could feel the moisture or it would make them feel cool when they were wet.
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• United States
28 Oct 08
That's intersting. I may have to get some of those underwear and plastics. I wonder, the more strong willed your child, the more difficult the training will be? If so, I may be in trouble and she will be in diapers till kindergarten! I ordered the pull ups dvd on pt, haven't gotten a chance to watch it yet though. I read a book with my other daughter that says some cultures/ppl potty train infants. They basically hold them over the toilet until they learn to go. I like to take the more relaxed route. I figure the more stressed I am about it the more difficult it will be. We shall see. So you waited till almost three before trying again? How many night time pees did he have after trained? What about pooping, was that included in the training? Did it take more time than peeing?
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• United States
28 Oct 08
Congradulations on the twins by the way!!! Are you excited? Or a bit nervous?
• Canada
28 Oct 08
i'm not sure if strong willed children take longer to train or not, but my son is very strong willed and has ADHD. i'm not sure if that matters or not. he was between 2 1/2 years old and 3 years old when he was potty trained. that includes pooping and peeing. ..as for wetting the bed, he didn't get fully trained to quit peeing the bed until he was about 7 years old. good luck with the potty training. thanks for the congrats on the twins...we were very freaked out when we first found out, but now we're very excited and can't wait.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
29 Oct 08
My daughter made the decision. I had her on the changing table. She was yelling "no diapey, no diapey!! She kicked and got me in the mouth. Accidentally she loosened some teeth. We went to potty pants and never looked back. Took about 6-8months to get the hang of it. And my teeth tightened back up in a few days.
• United States
1 Nov 08
OMG isn't it crazy the things they do to us! I'm glad it was a relatively easy venture for you although I would say being kicked in the mouth would be crazy, I could definitly see my fiesty lil bundle of mean(lol) doing something similar. I'm glad she made her decision though, that's what I'm waiting for right now is for her to decide she is ready to do this. It is sad though, she is my youngest and we are thinking of the potty. Time really does fly, you just never really realize your babies are growing up until one day they say or do something that makes you sit back and go "wow" and it hits you. Glad your teeth tightened back up! Thanks for your response...
@mac1946 (1602)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Oct 08
princessmel has the best approach,the disposable diapers and pull-ups are the main cause of children being in diapers to 5 and 6 years old. It looks like she is interested in training as she watches you and imitates. I would suggest getting the thicker cloth training pants(not the all-in-ones)and seperate plastic panties. the naked method is great on children between 1 and 2 years of age,after that,they have usually figured out that potty training take time away from playtime,so you have to be more consistant. if you know she normally pees in 1 hour or 45 minute scheduals,try setting the kitchen timer for about that time,and tell her to run (or make a game of race with her)to the potty and sit for no more than 5 minutes,if she does not produce,but did run and sit,give her 1 m&m's for being so good,and 2 if she pees and 3 or 4 for poop. instigateing or telling you when she needs to go is the last step in the training. If you would like to ask any more questions on this,please do so,I am a co-leader on the toilet teaching board of Ivillage,so maybe able to give you some other ideas. Many Blessings.
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
well though i have no formal experience with potty training i know a lot of 2-year olds in our vicinity who are already good at it. discipline is a key. potty training is one giant step to your baby's development. once she is able to grasp the philosophy of it, she will then understand its significance. potty training is something parents should be doing for their kids. babies will never be ready. since they just adapt to everything they learn from their surroundings. plus, she is already 2 years old :) we all know every well that she can do it. just be patient mommy. she'll learn it through.