Why do some people talk so much?

India
October 28, 2008 10:03pm CST
I have a friend who can talk endlessly. it is not that he talks nonsense, but he can talk and talk and talk non stop. He seems to be very fond fo his own voice. He hardly gives anyone a chance to talk. You would be lucky if you can get a word in sideways. Problem is when he comes home, he does not even take the hints tht yo want him to leave. He jsut ignores all teh warning signs like yawning etc. he goes home only when he is ready for it and not because it is late and he has over stepped your hospitality. What do you do with such friends? he is a good guy and very helpful otherwise, but his talking habit is a big pain.
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31 responses
• Malaysia
30 Oct 08
Well, sometime is good to have someone that like to talk. At least he tell the thing that he want to say and not keep it in heart. For some people they tend to keep things in heart. So that if that people hates you, and he keep it in heart, this can be worse. Besides that, some of my friends can talk till they are thirsty, then they drink water and then continue talking again.
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@snpyvin (1518)
• Malaysia
30 Oct 08
Sometimes people talk alot by nautraly as they are born with thats. Its ok for me for a friend to talk alot as long he is not annoying. But looks like you friend are annoying maybe i will slap him to wake him up. If its a habits i think its hard to change too. From the situation you mention i just think that maybe he needs attention. So he talk alot to attract people??
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@summerli (110)
• China
29 Oct 08
easily ,when he talks with no stop,you can talk more ,haha .it is fun,. in fact, you just listen to him,and do what you need to do.
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@cupkitties (7579)
• United States
29 Oct 08
I dated someone who was just like that. He would never let you get a word in. When you did get a chance to speak, he was very rude and snapped "Ok ok hurry up". Sometimes he reminded me of the cartoon rooster who never stops talking and then says"I say. Whats wrong? Cat got your tongue?"
@pau_79 (793)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
haha -some people are naturally talkative -im mre of a listener maybe we need balance I remember an old friend in high school really talkative they are also fun to hang around with -makes me smile now remembering her. Maybe its just a way they were brought up - i love this topic -seems like we all have our own share of friends who loves to talk the talk
@anjanabs (127)
• India
12 Nov 08
i have a friend ,she is talking endlessly.some times i feel very boring also.but i never show my boring infront of her.because she is a goor person.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
1 Nov 08
This is a person who have so many things in his head but didn't have the opportunity to say it out in the public often. So, when he gets the opportunity, he will just pour out everything endlessly. I do have friends like that. What I did was I didn't let her control the conversation alone. Sometimes, I would just tell her that it was a nice conversation but I have something to do and that she can come again later.
@munhozmib (3853)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
29 Oct 08
Hello, mercuryman3a. It really sucks sometimes, when people only talk and talk and talk and they do not leave any space for you to say anything. You feel kind of bad, because you don't want to listen only. You want to get involved aswell. A conversation should have two people talking, two people sharing ideas about something, not only one saying and the other listening. That's a sermon, isn't it? A lecture or something like that, in which only one say and all the others have to keep quiet and listen. Well, you should tell him that it is not pretty right. You should let him know that things are not happy when he acts like that. Just do it in a way that he will not be badly hurt. If you go straight against him, he will take it as a high offense and nobody knows how will he react. Now, tell him in a way that he may get upset, but not angry. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
• United States
29 Oct 08
the people that talk to much to think that the people there talking to want to hear it i have a friend just like that she will talk and talk about any and everything at all it gets boring but sometimes its best not to hurt there feelings and just say you have to use the bathroom and get a break for the time being or for 20 mins or so
@babystar1 (4235)
• United States
29 Oct 08
I have a lady that works with me, and she does the same thing I am so sick of listening to her. Every day and every day she talks about her husband her mom and dad,her sisters, in fact she talks about everyone. She probably talks about me to. I have to take my 15 minutes break with her and I cant stand it. One time I went to a different part of the building and she called me on my cell and wanted to no where I was. I cant even get a word in, and if I do she dont listen to me anyway. I dont no why some people have to be that way. I no her whole life history allready and her whole family.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
29 Oct 08
Sometimes what I have done with someone like that is just interupt them and say "I have to go now I hope you have a good night it was nice chatting with you." and then simply leave. For you I guess if you started turning off lights an tv's he would strongly get the hint if not just tell him to lock up before he leaves and then go to bed...lol.
• India
29 Oct 08
I don't think, its bad to have such person.One must always have such kind of person around.Many times people feel down when things don't work like it seems.Just by talking to some person, u may feel better.Its even better if people use humor when they talk much..Even if u staying far away places just by talking to that person who talk much might,feel u happy..
@dodo19 (35654)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Oct 08
One of my fiance's friends, whom I really don't like, is the same way as you friend, mercury. One time, we eating dinner at the cafeteria, since we lived in residence. And she was literally talking my head off! I'm not exaggerating. I was lucky that my fiance was there and saved me from losing my mind completely. I think some people just have a habit of talking a lot. Just like others don't talk a lot. I guess it's just in people's natures to either talk a lot or to talk very little.
• India
29 Oct 08
yeah its quiet uneasy only.
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
Well it only proves that your friend has an attitude problem. He is actually very self centered. In psychology, a bit of rejection would make him change. Peopole like them shoulkd feel rejected sometimes so they would have time to question themselves why people are avoiding them and if they talk sometimes you have to just ignore them. Talking too much is way too unacceptable even if he talks with sense. They are psychic vampires. they will drain you for talking endlessly.
@manixxx (116)
• Japan
29 Oct 08
Hmmmmmmm, in my own opinion, some people talk too much because they need attention from someone or they really have a lot in mind and needs to talk it out, or show it off, through talking. this is an opinionated person, just as like we are doing right here at myLot. maybe, some of us here, are also talkative, but in a sense that, we use the internet and myLot to express our own views and at the same time earn money, right? maybe, that person you are referring to lacks attention during his childhood days, that no one ever listens to him, or give much attention to him. that's why, he is acting like that right now, or maybe, he is a genius person or an opinionated one, well, you can't stop him from doing that, but maybe, you can tell him to slow down a little bit.
@grace24 (1050)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
oh..yeah i have a friend that is like that....she always wants to talk, she talks about everything, anything and sometimes nonsense things. But for me she is happy to talk with but sometimes we are get irritated by her and we tell her to shut up if we are not in the right mood to talk. She is like that since she was a little child, maybe it is her hobby to talk. We told her to control her attitude of that because sometimes she talks nonstop. But for me, its her attitude that i like to her cause she can make people smile. I know there is a disorder when some people talks to much. Maybe the case of your friend is a disorder that he gets when he is just a little child..Tell him to control himself when he talks and give other chance to anyone to say what is on their mind. I think he will understand you if you explain it well to him.
@laydee (12812)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
Yes, I also have a friend like that, I guess they just love talking, that's all, and they're quite insensitive about other people's thoughts on the matter. We've all given them the time of day to talk to us endlessly, that's why they assume it's okay for them to do that to us. What I usually do is that I cut the conversation short. I'd tell her that I have an appointment soon, or have to do something else and end the statement with "Will talk to you next time, ok?" So as not to offend them. I guess that's it then. You have to let them know out front that you don't have much time and you need to do something else. Obviously they don't know that they've intervening or disturbing you since you're close and you've been acting all this time that it's okay. So, try that. Maybe he'll get it sooner.
@lazeebee (5467)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 08
I have very low tolerance level of such people; so to avoid unhappy happenings, I would avoid them at all costs. There was such a person among my friends - she can talk, talk and talk; and never stops to listen. When she has a problem, she will just babble on; she even ask what she should do - even if you manage to give an opinion, she will continue as if you haven't talk at all. It's very exhausting to keep up with a person like this! I've given up on her, and have not seen her for ages!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
29 Oct 08
it is by their habit. or their brain is working that way.few of my friends are like that also. it feels irritating for me
• China
29 Oct 08
It is his habit,I think. If one day ,he say nothing to you , I promit you'll not used to it. haha!