My 5yr old son needs Glasses =(

@emarie (5455)
United States
October 30, 2008 12:38am CST
I just went to the eye doctor with my son and they just said he will need glasses to wear all the time because he's having trouble see distance. He won't get them for a week and I just came out of his room calming him because he was crying in his sleep and say 'I can't see far away'. As a mother, it just breaks my heart to see that. My main concern was him taking care of the glasses since he is just 5 and in Kindergarten. I know this will help him and the doctor said that his vision my improve over the years. I am worried he may get a complex because of it. I'm scared the glasses themselves will frustrate him and I'll lose my happy-go-lucky little boy that I love so much. My husband said not to worry, but I can't help it. Does anyone have any advice or tips that will help me AND my son adjust to this? thanks in advance.
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@fwidman (11517)
• United States
30 Oct 08
He should get used to them in short order and will be okay. I've worn glasses since I was around four and I did get some teasing in school (being called four eyes) but that wasn't anything drastic. And, they will help him see much better especially when he has to look at the blackboard in front of a classroom When he does get that first pair, it might help if everyone in the family tells him how nice he looks wearing them
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@emarie (5455)
• United States
30 Oct 08
yeah, that's something i thought about as well. these kids are young and do tease and i think i my heart would drop if my son came home crying because of his glasses. i got reading glasses in elementary school, but by that time kids were less cruel. when he tried it on he did look cute and he was happy as well. he loves putting on glasses, he even kept taking my reading glasses, but its always something else when you have to wear them as well. thanks and hopefully the praise will work and no one will tease my baby.
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@SketcherD (1114)
• Canada
30 Oct 08
My husband has worn glasses since he was 7. My husband says to make sure to spend the money in a reputable store that will replace the glasses when they get broken, that is not an if, because your son will break them. Kids are Kids. Make them as cool looking as you can afford. So that he isn't picked on as much. Also make sure they are plastic lens so they are not so heavy. This is all the advice my husband could think of to help your son. I truly hope these points work for your son.
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@emarie (5455)
• United States
30 Oct 08
we already selected the frames and my son picked it himself and he said at the time he liked it. they're wire frames, the flex kind to reduce the breaking. without insurance the classes will cost over $200 but with the insurance it'll be $60. We don't have much money and they'll only replace it once a year. Thanks for the advice. I'll try to see if there is a good place that i can take my sons glasses to get fixed just in case. i'm also worried about my son adjusting to them.
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@SketcherD (1114)
• Canada
30 Oct 08
We made sure when we bought our son his glasses that they were replaceable if they broke. It was like insurance on the glasses. He broke them many many times but we always went back to the same store so they knew they would get repeat business. I hope you can get those kind of glasses maybe next time.
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• United States
30 Oct 08
The dr. said his vision will improve over the years?? I think mine honestly got worse over the years from my glasses. I never felt umcomfortable in mine, especially when I got older. But it did keep me from getting into a lot of things that I wanted to do. I wanted to do cheerleading, dance, things like that. I never really felt like glasses belonged in those things. I'm expecting my 1st, and hoping that she does not need glasses, or if she does she will want to get contacts when she becomes the right age. I don't want the glasses to hinder her from participating in things that she would like to. Contacts are not for me though. I think that your son will be ok though. It might take a minute for him to get used to wearing them, but I'm sure you'll help him with that. There are so many cute glasses out there now, I wouldn't worry about him looking bad in them, so long as he gets the right frames. But if he's into sports, it might be a little more difficult, because he probably cannot wear them when he's playing, and then he may not be able to see too well either. I would just explain to him why he is getting the glasses, and tell him how much they will help him. I know you said that he was crying because he couldn't see things that are far away, let him know that when he gets his glasses that he will be able to see more clearly. I think just knowing that glasses will help his vision will make him feel better and maybe be excited about getting them.
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@emarie (5455)
• United States
30 Oct 08
the doctor said he isn't 'that' bad so that's why it will improve his vision is worn all the time. Both my parents wear glasses and my husbands parents as well. my father wore them since high school and i've had reading glasses. but all of that was given while we were older. he's not too much into sports, but right now we can't afford to send them anyway. he likes art and dance and music. my son with the perfect vision is more the sports kid wanting to do baseball, soccer, and tai kwon do. he does look cute in his glasses when he tried them on and they're flex frames so it shouldn't break that easily.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Awwww. I hope he will be okay after he gets them. I know it sure is tough sometimes when little ones have to wear glasses.
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@luminouz (32)
• United States
11 Nov 08
Poor baby. I understand how it would break your heart to see him go thru something like this. You just have to let him know that there's nothing wrong with him. Try and encourage him to wear the glasses..... Something I would tell my son (who is 7) would be something like "It's not that you can't see far, but the glasses will help you see BETTER than everyone else" =). With my son, being into super heros and stuff, I would try and make his see the high point of the situation. I know your son will adjust, and your worries will go away. It's hard sometimes to comfort young children, especially when sometimes, children can be mean to eachother, but the best thing to do is show him and tell him that him wearing the glasses doesn't mean there's anything wrong with him, if anything, it would make him better at seeing things that are far, far away =). Good luck & take are.
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
1 Nov 08
Hello emarie, this kind of situation is not easy specially that your son cry because of his eyeglasses, what you will do is just give him a support so he will not think any bad idea about wearing eyeglasses. and let him eat more squash it will be good for his eye, before i use to wear eye glass whem im in grade 5 but my mom help me to wear that time till i become 1st high school i remove my eyeglass thanks god it seem my eyesight is better than before & mom make me squash daily for my food even my lunch box.
@susiejwp (47)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Don't be worried about your son and glasses. He'll be fine. My youngest got glasses when he was in Kindergarten too and it made so much difference in his learning. Believe it or not, he was confusing letters because things weren't sharp enough without glasses. And when it came to playing outside, he was happier there too. He could see balls when they were thrown to him more clearly and could also see gestures that before were blurred. Sure, your son will have to get used to the glasses and most likely will break them (be sure you get replacement insurance! LOL ) but he'll be fine. Gone are the days when kids were made fun of for wearing glasses and in their place are cool frames with characters kids love to sport. So, let him choose his frames or even his case and talk up how "smart" and "cool" he looks. He will take his cue from you as to whether glasses are OK or not to wear, so choose your words with care and remember, his eyesight is the important thing...nothing else matters!
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
30 Oct 08
My children have never had to wear glasses but I believe that they have a particularly flexible type that are great for kids. That may help with the breakage possibilities.