Do U Like Friendship To Be Turned Into Relationship????

India
October 30, 2008 8:44am CST
hi my friends, here is a small question and perhaps most debatable question which i dony understand please help me any 1 !! How can a guy/girl imagine a friend as their life partner?? And if they do so then what is the difference between love and friendship?? According to me i dont support relationship from friendship because friendis just a friend, if u have some feelings towards her/him from begining better dont use the term friend and spoil its meaning. What do u say about this am i rite in my feeling??? Do u feel same????
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16 responses
• United States
30 Oct 08
I think that friends have there own relationship anyway. If you're friends with someone, there must be something you love about a person. I mean, this is a person that you trust all your secrets to, the first person you call with good news, the person that is there to help you through bad news. They know you about as well as you know yourself. I don't use the word FRIEND lightly. I love each and every one of my friends for different reasons and the relationships are different. NOW, if you're talking about an intimate, dating relationship-- I don't think there's anything wrong with dating a friend as long as you're prepared for things to change if it doesn't work out, or even if it does work. My boyfriend and I started off as friends. We knew each other for 7 months before we decided to date and we've been together for almost 4 years.
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
31 Oct 08
A really good friend would be on the same page as you, right? the friendship would withstand the possible failure of a relationship...right? At least that is how it was for me and my friend and we are so close...we keep coming back together and it is never a threat to our relationship if one of us decides to date someone else. We still remain great friends. Ya, I'd be disappointed if he hooked up with someone and decided she was the love of his life but I'd never want him to not be my friend because of it. It'd be kind of bittersweet....I want him to be happy but I hope it is with me and I really never ever want him to NOT be a part of my life. The honesty and trust we share is just amazing. whether we end up together romantically or not...matters not. He will ALWAYS be a very good friend.
@wafujay (115)
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
isnt it friendship already a RELATIONSHIP?
• India
30 Oct 08
ha ha..!!!! This seems that u dont know the value of frendship buddy
@marababe (2513)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
I'm not so sure what to answer but personally, I don't like friendship being turned into a romantic relationship. I haven't experienced it and I don't think I would be able to see myself with a very close friend of mine who basically knows everything about my previous relationships and my deepest darkest secrets. But maybe that's why my previous relationships also didn't work, because we've only known each other a couple of months and we weren't exactly friends during those times. I'm torn! LOL. Okay, I've made up my mind.I'm good being friends witch each other first before going into a romantic relationship but not long time friends being in one. That's just for me. Most of my close friends are guys and I've never had any feelings towards them except for one and it didn't turn out good.
@dong1970 (1573)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
Hi there. Actually it is my story my friend.My Wife is a very good friend of mine.We've been friends for a year and i start courting here.Now we are happily married for thirteen years and bless with two wonderful kids.
@iyah10 (4116)
• Kuwait
31 Oct 08
I guess it would always depends to the person on what kind of personality that they have because for me if the woman is my friend it would never happened to be my lover for i am like this but if the woman is my lover and while discovering every day of life it is develop into my friend.....
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
for me, if one feels something about his friend, he should tell him at once, coz i think its very hard to suppress one's feelings and it would hurt so much if your friend has someone he cares about.
@san1231 (24)
• India
31 Oct 08
Good friend may become a life partner. Relationship & Frined is interrelated. How? For friend is one of the relationship kust like mother, father, brother or sister. When we satrted understanding and loving them automatically it turns why don't he/she become my life partner? question arises. nothing wrong in feelings. But good understanding and love is basic foundation for Marraige. This marriage will also get success. I've no experience in this matter. But it is a truth.
• India
31 Oct 08
yes.. this is an wonderful thing i say.. because if friendships turn into relations, i hope 90% there is no chance for problem coming too. because we knew about their characters well. if any of my girlfriends wish, i feel the same.. but i am already cheated once!
• Singapore
31 Oct 08
Yes , i feel the same as you. I think that if a person wants to be in a relationship with another person , he/she should make his/her stand clearly. If you start being friends with him/her , it seems to people that the person is a hypocrite ?
@subha12 (18453)
• India
31 Oct 08
not always. but i think the starting point of a perfect relationship is friendship. so if i want a relationship, it should start from friendship. But i should have the feelings for other person a swell.
@manixxx (116)
• Japan
31 Oct 08
hmmmmmm, i think yes and also, you have a point there, too. i have experienced also that kind of scenario. and you have the same reason with the girl i courted before. i guess, girls just don't want to mix friendship and love in their relationship with one person, am i right? but for me, friendship must comes first before love. in what way do you think much better to know a person more, isn't it through friendship first? some couples spent little time in getting to know the person more and jumps immediately into "in a relationship" status. that's why, when they break up, there's heartaches, quarrels, misunderstandings, and failed hopes and dreams with each other. i have watched a movie, about two friends ended up with each other. they were advised by an old woman, that friendship must comes first before love, because when both of you grow old, there's a chance that your love with each other fades away, the passion, the affection, and even might the feelings. but the common ground, when all else fails, you will be back from where you started...friendship. and that's important, i guess, so that there's no need separation and divorce, which ruins the life between the both of you and your children's as well.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I have to disagree with you. I have this guy who started out as just my friend. We were friends for a long time before the friendship turned into a relationship. It was through the getting to know and trust each other, shared experiences from other relationships that we got so close. It has been years and not only is he a very,very good friend....I trust him 100# and love him dearly with all of my heart. There was a time that I never thought of him in this way...we both had our own relationships. It just grew over time. Why would you not want your lover to be your very best friend? it is the best. I think more people should focus on the friendship factor first. Even if this man & I never became lovers and even if it ended tomorrow, I know we'd still be friends and it would not be an ugly split. In fact, we both have ventured to others and always come back to each other and always remained friends no matter what. If you can't be best of friends, how the heck could you possibly be lovers. Love is just a deeper form of friendship.
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
hmm. hey aditya. for me, it is better to start from friendship then turn into relationship. because if the two of you were friends, you'll know more with each other. like now, in the experience of my friend, her boyfriend was her best friend since they were high school. and i think they have a nice relationship and i think they know more about theirs elves. but it will depends on the situation.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
hello aditya540, In my own opinion, it's just okey to turn frienship into relationship. At least you both know each other already in many ways like his/her character, dislikes, likes and a lot more. No need to get to know more each other any longer. And besides you can be both sweethearts and bestfriends at the same time. Indeed you still have some adjustments to make but only minimal already.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
30 Oct 08
yes i like it that way because friendship is the great things to know each other well then relationship!perfect .
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
30 Oct 08
I Think relationships that stem from a friendship are ones that there was an attraction to begin with and it just grew as the friendship got stronger and closer. I like relationships that are friendships as well because you already have a sense of comfortablity because you know they accept you for who you are and you don't have to be something you aren't.