If you find there is an other one in your relationship, what will you do?

@dandan07 (1908)
China
October 30, 2008 10:58pm CST
My roommate finds that her boyfriend now has dated with another girl. She was quite sad and angry. I think love is one to one case, but there are many people play 3p games. i do not know why, and I can not believe that one person can fall in love with two in the same time. If you meet the problem, what will you do? If you really love a person. while she/he is married, will you be the other one in their relationship?
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6 responses
• Malaysia
1 Nov 08
i would take her boyfriend if i really liked him and if he showed enough interest in me, although my conscience and principal would definitely stop me from stealing someone boyfriend.
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@dandan07 (1908)
• China
1 Nov 08
From your word, what I can say is that love is the biggest power in the world, sometimes can cause people to do something unbelievable. I hope you never meet that situation, and find a good boyfriend.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
31 Oct 08
i will definitely feel cheated and bad. it is there in many realtionship. uin this way many relationships are also ruined.
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@dandan07 (1908)
• China
1 Nov 08
You are right! Honest is badly needed in every relationship. Have a nice day.
• India
31 Oct 08
If I meet someone who is married, i do not think it stops me from falling in love with that person. It is that person I would be falling in love not the marrital status of that person. love is blind and it can make you fall in love with anyone. so many people loved Princess Diana, despite the fact that she was married to Prince Charles. She was so beautiful that people could not help but fall in love with her. It is a different matter if the married person woudl receprocate yor love. if the married person is not happy in her marriage then she may receprocate or even if she is happily married but finds yuou attractive in some way she coudel reciprocate. Love does nto happen all of a sudden always.it coudl be a gradual process. it may start as a friendship and may turn into love later.
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@dandan07 (1908)
• China
1 Nov 08
If you know that person have his/her own family, your love may become a hurt to his/her family members. Do you think it is still right? If one says that he/she is not happy in his/her marriage, then have relationship with other person, I think he/she may be the source of unhappyness in his/her family. Love is blind, so maybe you can not control you feelings and fall in love with someone, but one day in the future, when your partner did the same thing to you, what will you feel and what will you do? Can you still say the word in an easy way?
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
There are quite a number of cases where people engage in a 3rd party relationship. That is really sad and some of them even really takes pleasure out of it. If that ever happens to me, I would probably ask why my partner had to involve another person. She must have a good reason why and my trust would be easily broken by that and I would definitely forgive her but I can't take her back anymore. But then, who knows? A situation may arise when a relationship will occur between 2 persons who are already involved by themselves. It would really depend on the individual how he/she would handle it. Take care.
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@dandan07 (1908)
• China
31 Oct 08
Though there are many three part relationship in the world, now more people accept that, and take it as common case, I still can not bear it by heart. I cannot believe that in such a relationship, people can get great feeling or true love. When you fall in love with a person, while you do not know she/he has partners. There is nothing wrong with you. But if you know that, while still be the other one in the relationship, that can not be accepted. But now many girls, really knows the fact, while still become the other one. I do not know why. I think maybe to them something other than love is much more important than love in their lives.
@adihindu (1922)
• India
31 Oct 08
I am not facing this problem. But it really very sad. I think it is better leave him. I don't know why some people do this type of things. I know it is not such a normal thing to leave him. But it is better to her life. Don't believe persons who are cheat you. If he realized his mistake he will be return in future. Don't waste time to think about him. Every one has problems not like this but some problems. Don't think heavily. Don't bather about him you have good life in future.
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@dandan07 (1908)
• China
31 Oct 08
No one is perfect in the world. But cheating is not a good manner to any one. I do not believe the one who cheat me, but to my friend, it is still a hard choice. With a person for a period, makes her has feeling on him, so his action hurt her feelings, but she still wants to do something for their relationship. Maybe there is still some chance for him to know his fault and go back to keep their relationship in a normal way. But love is blind, he may not realize his mistake in the right time. But at last, it is his lose, not her.
@snowy22315 (52655)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Some situations just develop. There is not really an intent behind it. Some people are just players and try to get away with things and other people just want something different. I guess that I would never say never to anything.
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@dandan07 (1908)
• China
31 Oct 08
Thank you for your post. Everything may happens in our life, sometimes I have to accept the fact, but I really do not like this. I can not hope everyone can accept my feelings, but I still wish before acting thinking twice about who will be hurt by it.