Love or Money???????

@sudalunts (5526)
United States
October 30, 2008 11:27pm CST
Often times you hear people say that they would rather have love than money, because money can not buy happiness. I guess you can say that when all of your needs are taken care of. Let's get real, can love keep a roof over your head without money, can love put food on your table without money and the list goes on. It would be nice to have both, but if the lack of one strains your life, then ask yourself the question which one would I be better off without. Yes, I am in a funk tonight, it is after twelve midnight, and I really can not get to sleep, I am so stressed out. My rent is due tomorrow, and I do not have the money, my utilities are due, no money, etc, etc, etc. I would be much happier, if I was secured, knowing that I have food to eat and a place to live, like most people would I am sure, so my question is, do you really think you can be happy without the things you NEED, (I am not talking about things that you want) knowing that it takes money to provide those things? Of course, after a while you will probably adjust, but would you really be happy?
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@tushark1 (117)
• India
31 Oct 08
Anyone can be happy if he has a lot of money. but still another side of that you have some one's love that will take you to the life. I think Love and money shouls be on that same weight. But now a days we should give first chance to money and then love...if you have money love will automatically come to you.
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• Philippines
31 Oct 08
Would you mind to share what kind of love is that, which comes from money?
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@Porcospino (19755)
• Denmark
1 Nov 08
I think that a constant lack of money will lead to many worries and make your life less happy. If you don't have enough money to cover your most basic needs, you'll have to concentrate on surviving instead of enjoying your life. I have tried it. I had a boyfriend (=I had love) but I had no job and it was a constant struggle to find money for rent and food. It was hard, and I wasn't as happy as I would have been if I had had more money. Still when I look back on that period in my life, it is the love that I remember and not the lack of money. We were struggling to make some money and I had many worries but at least we were together and we were able to encourage and support eachother. I guess my conclusion is, money is important, but it not the most important thing.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Thank you for your response, finally someone got the point I was trying to make. Glad everything worked out for you. Take care
@cuterose (1698)
• India
31 Oct 08
It all depends upon one's mind. But for me, I would always go for love rather than money. I agree money is most important for leading a life. But without love its a wate to live a life. With money you can lead a very comfortable life, a luxurious life, but not an happy or peaceful life. You say you have to pay your bills and dont have money. I can understand your problems and the difficulties to have nothing in your pockets. It may give you the most difficulties. But just imagine for a second about the person who truly loves you. Who accepts you even if you dont have money. Love can soothe you. Love can heal your wounded heart. Love can make you forget all your worries. Even if your is such a critical position, You can cope up if there is someone sitting beside you who gives all her love and comfort with a warm hug. All this would happen only if you have a true lover. Just imagine yourself as a multimillionaire but with not a true lover. You can enjoy all comforts and luxury. your body only will enjoy all this. Not your sole. Your heart will remain lonely and unhappily. In short, With money you can lead a comfortable and luxurious life. With love you can live happily.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I hear what you are saying, but my point is, if someone loves you, they should be concerned about your welfare. Money is needed to sustain you, I am not talking about being wealthy. I am talking about day to day living. I worked every day until I was laid off, and my husband was at home, I accepted this because of love. Sorry, my point was missed.
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@zoneday (142)
• Malaysia
31 Oct 08
Got love, but no money, you think you can love with peace of mind. No way, you cant live without food. However, rich without true love is meaningless too, so we need to find the mid point and this is a lot depends on your value perception....
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
31 Oct 08
The value perpective is to survive, not to become rich. I am not materialistic, what I am saying is that love is not keeping a roof over my head, but money will.
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• United States
31 Oct 08
In this stage of my life, I would rather have money than love.
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@oderog (732)
• Kenya
31 Oct 08
For the love arguement to I think is consolation of not having that money, money itself is one thing but does alot of things, it measure of value, medium of exchange without money you cannot buy anything even love cannot buy, It is only fair for people to say that what comes out as act of having money is what should be condemed, but also you get you are dying because you do not have money, here are you going to condem money or you are going to call for love. I believe money will add a thousand happiness that love cannot add when your stomach is empty. To me money to create good bonding between people rather hate among people, if everybody had enough money then some small problems in this world have gone and we could be managing.
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@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Honestly if I was told I could have a million dollars if I never spoke to my love again I would turn it down. Yes, money is importnant and no love can't put a roof over you head. But giving up your love for money will leave a void in your heart no amount of money or "security" could ever fill and that is not a pain that I would want to endure for ever for monetary happiness. I would rather struggle and "barely make it by" and have so much love than the other way around because for me there is more happiness in love.
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@nilugo (348)
• Singapore
31 Oct 08
I think both love and money are important but I think love of your friends and relatives are more important than money. But I know your predicament - when you dont have enough money also it feels as if everything is crashing dowwn on you. But you can always ask help from your loved ones and I am sure they will help you in whatever way hey can. People with lots of money like millionaires have loads of problems just to keep that money for themselves, always looking behind them to see if someone else will take it and ways to earn more money so they don't have enough time to relax and have fun as you and me. Hope you can solve you problems soon. Good luck.
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• Lubbock, Texas
1 Nov 08
In your situation I don't think it's a question of either or. I kind of know your situation and somebody needs to step up to the plate and earn a living. You've worked so he could stay home and run his "business" which doesn't provide a living. Now you don't have a job I don't think the words I love you are enough. There needs to be some action behind those words. If both of you were doing all you could to scrape out a living then the love between you would sustain through hard times. But in this situation it seems like there's not enough love or money. And yes you do need both. I don't know if I've worded this so it comes across like I mean it, but I'm going to hit post anyway. You're in my prayers.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Thank you, you hit the nail on the head.
@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
Hi there..:-0 Well I know that money is really importan in our daily life and love is important to for our forever life and I experience some situation like this.It just like I met my fiancee and I really love him but we are still earning for our future and then one of my cousin introduce me to this rich man and to marry him but I was thinking so much if what I will choose,money or love..It let me think so deep and put some questions in every word asking myself what I will choose.I thought that money have the same face and there is no character to it and if are really a hard working person then you can easily get it all the time and all you need is to think positive and always believe in yourself that you can earn the amount of this.I ask myself what If I marry the rich guy but I don't love him and everything will just be useless because sooner or later it will fail and end up into divorce.I was thinking that If I gave up the person that I love then I just gave up the person that I will never see again and we already know that each of us have unique characters so you cannot compare everyone.The decision I made is to stay to the person that I love and love me and we are not really having problems with money because we always think that money is just material that we need to search and use in many ways..God bless and have a nice day..:-0
@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
Another thing.With money you can buy anything and I knew some people who are rich but not happy because no one is taking care of them and that is really a hard time to experience.In our place,there are some family still gets happy even they don't have enough money as long as love is there..We are not only dealing in our love ones,we are dealing to the love of our family,friends,and people who are close to us.Without the word L.O.V.E, your friends will not gonna be there,you family will not gonna be there and then you are rich to be alone full of materials and enough money for bills but too empty inside and that is really horrible.for me both are really need to be equal because its the one who keeps your life equal too..God bless again and have a nice day..
• United States
31 Oct 08
Love is the answer hands down. If you love someone and they love you back. Happiness will always be there. money can not buy happiness, it can buy fun. Fun and happiness are totally different. Money gets you fun while love gets you happiness. The best would be to have both.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
31 Oct 08
you missed my point, I am not talking about fun, I am saying that money is needed to keep a roof over your head, and food in your stomach. I have never had love pay my rent, money does.
@jesus777 (664)
• Bermuda
31 Oct 08
farther in the name of jesus i lift up this person on your behalf right now i ask that you bless them financial lord they seem to be having a hard coping i do not know if they know as there lord and savior but i am lifting them up before you right now anyway jesus i ask that you give them your peace in the midst of there storm in the midst of what they are going through right now lord i speak peace over there lives in the name of jesus lord meet every single one of there needs in jesus mighty name i pray amen and amen lord i thank you in advance for what you are doing and what you are going to do in this persons life in jesus mighty name i pray amen and amen!!!!
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
31 Oct 08
Thank you for the nice prayer, it is greatly appreciated. God bless you
@fgaloma (163)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
i'd pick love, to be happy and i'll try to earn for the both of us, if you love each other you can do anything to survive for your future family.
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
you cant live without MONEY.. but you can LOVE with or without money.. i guess i'll go for love..
@abysed (16)
• United States
31 Oct 08
It's definitely love for me... I've been going out with my girlfriend for over 14 months now and we have our own apartment. We make hardly any money even though we're both full time. But we've learned what we really need money for and have gotten used to not purchasing things we don't need. We haven't put any money into savings yet as we're still adjusting to rent, utilities bill, electricity bill, car payments, etc.. I'm totally fine not having any real "entertainment" money as I love just being with my girlfriend.