Do you believe in ONE true love?

Philippines
November 1, 2008 12:28am CST
I have been dating guys, one from the other. I realize there is something missing, no matter what I do, I use to compare them to my ex boyfriend. A guy I've been with for years. That was over a year ago when he cheated and left me, but still, I would do anything to have him back. They say, that once in ur life, you will get to meet somebody that you will never forget and marks your life. U think so?
27 responses
• Malaysia
1 Nov 08
Is he your first love? It is true that first love can never be forgotten. First love is the greatest love from all the love relationship you get from many people afterwards. This happens because it is the first time you fall in love. Therefore the feeling is too great and cannot be compared with your second, third or fourth love. If you are lucky enough, you will marry with your first love. But you have to remember not every first love is true love. You may love him so much but he, on the other side doesn't love you as much. Even if you get him back it doesn't guarantee any happiness for you. You may suffer because he is not deeply in you. The proof you can see clearly through his cheating and leaving you. That is not love. If I were you, I will try to forget him by not comparing him with your new boyfriend. You must remember everybody has their own weaknesses so you can't use their weaknesses to compare with your ex boyfriends' strengths. This is not fair for you, don't you think so?
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• Philippines
1 Nov 08
I really agree with you on this.
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
2 Nov 08
Was Your Ex's cheating and leaving you a surprise to you when you found out about it? Did he have the consideration to sit you down and tell you He was leaving,or did he bale out on you and the years together leaving you to pick up the pieces? If You still want the Guy who,having cheated on you and left, back,You had a lot invested in that relationship..IMO,You need some closure on that before you can properly move on to someone Who'll stay with you..You're still nostalgic for the good parts of that relationship which affects your recent involvements..Good Luck for the future!
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
Hello There. Yes, it is true that once in our life we will have a person that we can never forget... that is the one that we really love. I guess for you, if you really love him still, you can either talk to him and confess how you feel or just turn your back then move on... but I suggest that you tell him that you love him before it is too late. Happy Mylotting. Cheers!
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@shefalis (81)
• India
1 Nov 08
Many people come and go in our lives. We meet a lot, some stay some leave. Some do leavean impact as well. Some we never forget coz we dont want to. We are never satisfied with what we have. We feel what we have lost was the best not realising what we might be having is the best and much better than the rest.Every human is different and every individual has a different way of doing things. We should look at what we have and what we dont have. I feel becoz the guy left you so you want to be with him. M sure you wud meet another wonderful person. Appreciate him,see his qualities, try not to compare. Maybe your ex boy friend did the same and left you. Dont repeat such mistakes. And affairs very rarely leave an impact. Look around. it would only be a matter of time when you forget all this and find it kiddish. All sort of things happen. Once you are married, you would understand the true meaning of love. It is not just an emotion. They are different shades to it. Affairs do leave a bitterness but not for long. Once you have someone special in your life. Things would move on. Dont brood over the past. Look at future and present and enjoy what you have
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• Malaysia
1 Nov 08
No. I don't believe in one true love. This is because I think that there are more than one thousand people who can spend up their life with you. It is just the matter of time. Who will you meet first? Maybe you just think that your ex-boyfriend is your true love, but since he had cheated you, there is no piont of getting him back. He may cheat you again in the future. If you still think that you love him, why don just treat him as a sweet memory in your heart? Maybe after you able to foget him, you will meet someone better. Someone that more appreciate your love.
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• United States
5 Nov 08
I think that you will meet several people you will never forget in your lifetime. That does not mean that they are your true love or that you will even love them, or they love you. As far as true love, I believe it is different for everyone. Some people may have several deep, meaningful relationships over a lifetime, and for different reasons, each one was wonderful. Some people may have that one, and it will be that one for life. People grow and change, sometimes away from their partner. Do you talk to that person anymore? Sometimes it can be just as good to have them in your life in general. Perhaps you will notice what it is that the last relationships had been lacking. People change over time, maybe you two were not right for eachother then, and you will be later on, or you will realize later that you were not such a good couple, and you will encounter others that fit better.
@taripres (1499)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Of course, in sort of a way! I wouldn't say one true love; true love is true love! We can always feel someone is a true love or the one for us, but it ends up not so great, then here we go again starting from scratch! So a relationship is worth what each partner puts in it, that's what makes it a loving relationship or not! Taripre$
3 Nov 08
oh yes, u know he is your true love only and only you believe he is. then u will do everything for him, take care before hurting him, and adjust i few things and once he sees it all he will love you more and there it starts growing. but if he is cheated well he is not worth doing all this for, once a cheater alweays a cheater. So try the rest till you find the best, and never never never compare, take it from me, its the buggest mistake u r doing that stops you from meeting the right one. all the best lol Rups
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 08
yes... i believe it... before i meet my dear... i never think about it and I don't believe that i can get lost if i can't find him... i will feel scared if he is not around... before i though i was a very independent girl but now, all have change...
@savypat (20246)
• United States
2 Nov 08
I think that strong loves do mark yourlife forever, but I don't think there is a limit on how many you get. I do know it's very bad to compare one with another, none are the same so enjoy each for what they are
@DEVONECO (144)
• United States
2 Nov 08
Yes its true. You are talking about a "soulmate"! Everybody has a soulmate out there somewhere and you need to find him/her. Some look for their soul mates all their lives but never find them - and this affects their lives with someone else because they are neither content nor happy with that particular partner - and will continue to seek that soul mate. Others are lucky that they find their soul mate early in their lives and enjoy the rest of their lives to the fullest. But there are others who do find their soul mate late in their lives - and then would settle down in their lives because finally they are happy and content. However, please remember, its a "two-way street" - and if the other person you imagine to be your soulmate doesn't think of you the same way, then you are mistaken because of some other characteristics that attracted you to him/her. You will know it when you find that real soulmate - it just hits you like magic - and its a beautiful feeling which will never die. You will be rest assured that when you meet that particular soulmate, you will both be so committed to that relationship that you will not let anything get in your way and will make any sacrifice to keep it going forever - until eternity - and beyond! Don't give up your search for that real soulmate !
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
2 Nov 08
When I was younger, I believed in one true love. Now, as I've grown and changed, I believe in one true love at a time. I also think that the better that we know ourselves, the easier it is to recognize a 'true love' or soul mate when we find them. As we age, we change. Things that were once important, no longer are. Some things that we never considered in the past, are now crucial. Take the time to really get to know yourself as you are now. If your only criteria is comparing, and trying to match, men you meet with men you knew...then all you are doing is repeating or retracing your own steps. Sometimes too, the easiest way to find, is not to seek. I was single, and perfectly happy with who I was. I stumbled across my current soul mate in an online game room, half a country apart. We've been married for 5 wonderful years now. Good luck to you in your search...both for self and that special some one.
@umart13 (841)
• Ireland
2 Nov 08
Hello theangel23, what a nice question! My practical experience tells me that it is foolish to believe in ONE true love. However, I continue to look for that true love. I don't know if it's because I read too many fairy-tale books, when I was a child, or saw too many of those TV-Movies with the Princes and Princesses in those Slovakian castles, but I do have a hope that one day I will be sitting at a table having dinner it the most beautiful woman in the world and that we will be in love with each other... Oh! well back to reality! Umart
@TheCatLady (4695)
• Israel
2 Nov 08
There are many loves if you open yourself up to the possibility. The guy who left you isn't the right one. You deserve better. Everyone deserves someone who will respect and cherish them.
• India
2 Nov 08
I do believe in true love and those who get the one are the most fortunate people in the world. it doesn't matter how many dates you go for but what matters is how you find your true love and how you live upto his/her expectation
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
2 Nov 08
not sure.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
2 Nov 08
Maybe what is missing is the fact that these guys are not cheaters so that excitement is not there. I think you should re-examine what your definition of love is before you go back to this cheater and make your life miserable. The idea that there is only one romantic love available is the stuff of romance novels, not real life.
@iamfine (740)
• China
2 Nov 08
As you said, you have spend many years with your ex-bf, I think you have get used to his existance, you just don't feel comfortable without him. It is not that those guys you are hanging out right now are not as good as your exbf. but if you keep thinking about him, you may wasting your time, and not able to appreciate other nice guys. A man who cheats does not worth your time.
• United States
2 Nov 08
I believe that you could have more than one true love's. Although you can fall in love more than once, your first love would always be the one that you would always remember. Your first love is the one who changed and would impact you the most
@miketagz (7496)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
For me, it depends on girl-type that you met, the personality and appearance, if I notice that the girl would love me, then I also love her.