Why people never tell the true in some subjects?

@teka44 (3425)
Brazil
November 1, 2008 1:25pm CST
Have you notice that people never tell the true in some subjects? When we are talking about something like unfair things or people that hurt others or something like that? People always say:"Oh I let it go. Oh I always forgive. Oh I always help the others however they had hurt me in the pass." And things like this. But what we see is very different. They never do what they say. They take revenge, they never forgive and still talking about always, and never give a help and use many excuses to don't do it. So I am thinking about it. Why they need to lie? they know that we will see the true anyway so why tell like angels if they act like devils? I wonder why. It is because everybody like to seem angels? it is hard to show the true face? what you think about it?
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@saleel (20)
• India
2 Nov 08
hello my friend i know that someone which is very close to you has done this . i have also under gone this type of stage . But due to my experience i can suggest you that the person who has hurt you will definitely need your help in near future or in his/her life time. But at that time you must help him/her by this you can show your greatness......... and even if he forgets and again tries to falter with you then you should give a very very strong reply so that he may remember you for your whole life time......... but according to mahatma gandhi always try to forgive.......
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
Hi saleel, welcome to mylot fellow. Thanks for your response.
@vjayrao06 (107)
• India
2 Nov 08
It is human nature to depict oneself as an ideal person.you rarely find somebody who accepts the dark side of his/her character.Even if he/she does,it will be rarely appreciated. He/she is treated as a fool but called 'simple'( 'saral' in Hindi), while mentally marking him/her as a simpleton.On the other hand we treat the opposite kind of person as intelligent, shrewd and whatnot.So, one prefers not to be called a simpleton. When somebody says he forgave somebody, it may be that he is not in a position to do otherwise: he is not strong enough/he has some vested interest in overlooking the injustice/unfair act etc.Forgiveness on the part of a strong person needs charater.A weak fellow may pose to forgive to hide his weakness/weaknesse. The coclusion that everybody likes to seem an angel is not entirely wrong because it is hard ---not even wise,I would add---to show one's true face. vjayrao
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
Hi vjayrao, welcome to mylot and have a happy stay here. Thanks for your response.
• India
2 Nov 08
m also in search of d answer......
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
Hi, thanks for your response.
@jewilim (495)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
I think some might be doing the same thing but its sometimes hard to tell if we really dont know the person. Some maybe just want to please other people with their answers and i guess they dont want to disappont other people. I guess if most people really want to receive more of positive feedbacks from other people then negative ones. I think it also feels nice to receive positive feedbacks than negative ones but i really try to say my point of view and avoid lying because its my view and i think there are no wrong opinions. When it comes to perspective or opinions there are really no wrong answers because it is our own perspective not other peoples. If some people might disagree it would also be nice to hear their side because at the same time we might just learn something new. I really nice to be openminded because we could really learn lots of new things and stuffs.
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
Hi jewilim. You are right all people want to receive positive feedbacks. But we will see the untruth because they act different on what they say. Thanks for your response.
• United States
1 Nov 08
I sincerely hope that my fellow man is healthy, happy and has all his/her needs met. I wouldn't wish any kind of bad thing or harm to fall on any of my fellow humans, however, this doesn't mean I think much of people either for I don't. As a whole I suppose I do love my fellow humans but as individual people many I don't like and don't care for at all. It's no wonder so many people are offstandish and keep their distance from their neighbor. Or should I say not necessarily their neighbor but people who are strangers to them they don't treat very kindly or respectfully. And they certainly don't treat people they don't know like they love them. I think you are pretty correct in what you are saying, however remember there is always the exception to the rule. And there are a few people out there who do forgive and forget as much as they possibly can. People are only good in a wide variety of levels going from lower percentages to higher percentages of good. Yes I think people like to pretend they are angels when they are not. And most people when they do something not so good they are hard put to admit it. Therefore you are correct in saying that most people probably don't put their true face on.
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
Hi thedataminer, welcome to mylot and I hope you enjoy your stay here a lot. Thanks for your nice comment.
@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
1 Nov 08
Hi teka! I think that it's easier for the person to lie rather than telling the truth! I know some people that are big liars and I also know some people that will tell the truth no matter how painful it will be. I believe that people can forgive but they wont forget. Have a nice weekend.
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
Hi CJay. Yes, some people tell the true always but it is rare. We all need to hear the true some times even so it be hard. Thanks for your comment and have a nice weekend.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
1 Nov 08
some people are jusr born liars. my half brother is like that. he'll lie when the truth would do better. it's such a sorry way to be & it makes me mad that prople like that think you are ignorant to believe them. i just don't go around folks like that, have no sue for them. have a good weekend.
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
Hi antiquelady. I agree with you my friend. I never trust people that say they only have good feelings. We all are humans and not perfects so how they want to seem like angels? I hate liers too. Thanks for your response and have a nice weekend too.
• United States
1 Nov 08
Yeah it is a lot of reputation and seeming very good. A lot of people secretly don't do what they say they have, but if they say they did, others would look down on them or shame them. I think people may "forgive" others in the sense that they will talk to them again or something, but secretly inside they still don't like them or will take opportunities when they come up to hurt them. I suppose this backstabbing won't ever stop.
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
Hi wunovakind, you are right. Thanks for your response.
@AbbeyB (670)
• Spain
2 Nov 08
Some peple dont mean to and others just can help themselves.
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
Hi AbbeyB, thanks for your response.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
2 Nov 08
teka44, "The truth is rarely pure and never simple." - Oscar Wilde There are just a lot of reasons and causes but there's just one simple fact in a nutshell - we are imperfect and there's always another side in each one of us. The dark side? I suppose so, but there again, I'd like to think that there's no fire without sparks. As much as what I'd like to believe that relationships brings about the best in each one of us "through love, we feel we are greater than we know" by Wordsworth - there's however another side where one's relationship can seem to bring out the worst in us. I just feel that there is always a cause to this behavior. It could have done consciously and/or subconsciously, but I suppose that once we open our floodgates to a relationship, we will just have to accept everything that comes with it, good and bad. From what I understand there are just many reasons why people deceive and lie. Factors like a partner's over invasive nature, the need for intimacy, partner's demands and/or expectations, partner's reaction to the truth, power differences and lack of trust. Notice that the reasons here mentioned are 2 fold and it involves both parties. I feel all these will play up over time and this is also the time when a person's true character will come about. Time will tell is something not favorable here when the other party just fall short here. However, sometimes we need to reflect on ourselves too, as the saying goes it takes 2 to clap, it also means that what we exemplify and project to our partners is also culpable for their doings or rather undoings. Cheers and take care.
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
Hi skysuccess. Thanks for your nice comment.
• Australia
2 Nov 08
Well people often want themselves to be perceived as strong, open-minded, and selfless. They may not be able to be all that but by saying those stuff they might be trying to initiate them in their heads. But unfortunately, if people think nobody's actually monitoring their actions with their words, they will go back on their words or even not really think about what they said. For my part, I wouldn't bother with the pretence with non-close friends. If forgiveness is necessary to avoid conflict, then I'll try or I'll show indifference but i wouldn't personally go help the person who's hurt me, or even say it for that matter.
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
2 Nov 08
WOOOHHOO hi antioxidant! A person that say the true!!! Congratulations my friend it is so nice to meet someone that being human seem human too. We are not perfects ones and we have human feelings too not angel's feelings LOL. I am not saying that we must tell all the true about everything but why say things like "I always forgive and help my enemies"? and awhile after they are doing wrong things and take revenge. And for what I have noticed these people never give a help to none if they don't have any advantage doing this. It is really funny. I really don't like hypocrisy. Many thanks for your comment.