Do you think its possible to be happy in love and still wonder whats out there?

Canada
November 1, 2008 10:33pm CST
I absolutely love my boyfriend but once in a while I go through a phase feeling like Im missing out on the signle life. Everytime I talk about it with a friend they always think that I must not really be that into him if I would think that way, but I do love him entirely, just everyone once in a while, maybe once ever few months i just get a weird feeling like im missing out on alot of experiences. But I get really offended when Im told I must not love him that much if ive ever had thoughts like that. What about you? Has this ever happened to you? Do you think its possible to be happy in love but still wonder what your missing out on? Or do you think because your in love you shouldd never have thoughts like this if your completely happy?
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6 responses
@GoMy_Lot (65)
2 Nov 08
yes very true according to me, sometimes i want to silence of sounds,silence of people,it helps me to enjoy my own space,i know its kinda weird,but it depends on your personality,if you say this to your bf,he will probably get it wrong,so becareful
• United States
2 Nov 08
So true. A lot of people flip out about the whole "I need space" phrase. I say if you have explained it to them and they still can't accept it, then they are not someone you want to stay with. Thats like a sign of some kind of future control freak.
@Pigglies (9340)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I think people will always wonder what else is out there. People who say they don't are just hiding it. People go for the best that they can get, not necessarily the best out there. As long as you're not constantly thinking about what else you could have had, I think you've got a good chance of being happy. Every so often, I kind of wonder about what my next relationship might be like. But still that doesn't stop me from loving my girlfriend just as much. And I don't go out looking or anything like that (or even go out with someone if they ask). I don't believe in cheating and I don't feel the need to cheat. If I never stop loving my girlfriend and nothing ever splits us apart, then my wonderings will amount to nothing. I just wonder every once in awhile though, and just leave it at that.
@Gesusdid (1683)
• United States
2 Nov 08
i like this topic , sometimes i thnk that too , but thats a real question that you your self can only answer do really love that person ? is this the one? you know , thats why i like to always look outside my neighborhood or state or baiscally have a world perspective on dating ..and i look at my current GF like , shes everything that i want ...so yeah i say for your sake look around instead of around the corner
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
I think your luckier then your friends. Why? Cause you have someone to love you and you love also. Think it on the positive way around. Noe because you have someone you can't enjoy life anymore. Why not count your blessings! I myself is committed, yes once in a while I get bored also. But relationship works when the two of you also makes your own life also. Achieving still your goals,and doing things that you want too, the only thing that is difference is you can't go on dating anymore hahaha. Life is so simple. Their is no such thing as a perfect relationship. It's how you handle it, and face it. Maybe your just affected with what your friends are telling you. That is why you feel that way. Life is a matter of choices, and you know what will make you happy. Are you happy with your relationship? Good night!
@cindy2003 (196)
• Australia
2 Nov 08
It does sound as though you are in love with him entirely, but you always need a break from the people you love etc.
@cupkitties (6702)
• United States
2 Nov 08
I don't know. When I was truly in love I never once reflected on my "good ol single days". I was nothing but happy with him all the time and would never had wanted to change that for anything. Maybe you guys just need some time and space from each other. Do you get any time to yourselfs? Taking a small break may help some.