Why do some people just not get it?

United States
November 1, 2008 10:50pm CST
If you've been following my discussions for the past few months you will know that I have some pretty odd, annoying roommates this semester. One of my roommates just moved out simply because she could NOT take the behavior of the other roommate. My roommate and I do not take this as a lost, but rather as a blessing as we finally have a bit more peace and quiet, and we're not suffering with being cold all the time. However, we still do have a stupid roommate. After her roommate left, she came and talked to us and just couldn't understand why she moved out. For one, this girl complained all the time because her roommate snored and couldn't just get a thing of earplugs or something, but insisted on waking her up by screaming loudly or turning on her music to wake her up. This just resulted in arguments between the two. This roommate is also a druggie, likes to drink a lot, has really strange people over that we just can't trust, all of that wonderful stuff, and she has no idea why her roommate left. Today, she had friends over and they cooked a bunch of food. They left food on the kitchen table, trash on the table and piled all of the dirty dishes in the sink without running water on them and without dumping the leftover food into the trash. Naturally, everything was stuck to the plates with forks also stuck to the plates. I spent 15 minutes running water on the dishes to clean them off before sticking them into the dishwasher. We've talked to her on several occasions about this. We don't have a garbage disposal. A fairy does not enter our apartment at night to clean up their dishes and put away their food. She just doesn't do it, but we're just supposed to leave it there until she feels like getting around to cleaning it up. Why don't some people get it? Why, after several talks about whatever the issue may be, not come to the conclusion about how things really work? I mean it would seem to me that eventually it would sink in. But some people just don't? Have you ever dealt with someone like this? Did you ever finally get them to realize something or is it just a helpless cause?
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
2 Nov 08
Yikes! if you aren't worried about bugs - put the dirty dishes on her bed? How about piling them up in front of her room door? Keep a pair of dishs where she can't get them to use for yourselves.
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• United States
2 Nov 08
We actually talked about that today as a possible option. We know she doesn't lock her bedroom door so that is an option. She did clean up some things when she got back this evening, but she'd rather leave everything to sit for a few hours before she actually does anything.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
2 Nov 08
Honestly, you could be talking about me - I'm lazy - but I also am hurting a lot of the time. So I let dishs sit until I fell up to washing them. But your roommate is probably a good bit younger than I am.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
5 Nov 08
Yes I have. It is like banging your head against a wall though that is how thick headed some people can be. I would make her start to buy paper plates and plastic silverware if she can't clean up after herself. I mean you have a dish washer for heavens sake how hard can it be for your roommate to rinse a few dishes off after using them instead of waiting for the food to dry. Your Roommate knows you will do it so that is why she is never learning because she knows it will get done regardless how she leaves things. So stop banging your head and Tell her either she does it or pays you a maids wage for you doing it for her or she can use paper and paper products from then on. or maybe banging her head on the wall might knock some sense into it..lol
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
13 Nov 08
Thanks for the best response I appreciate it alot.Hope things work out.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
hi, there :-) i think the girl is just not worth it. i agree with saintanne, i think it's time to evict her. or to leave her and move out. it sounds like she does not have an excuse for her behavior. we all know that there are people who are just not used to housework or are not very neat and i have dealt with them in the past. but then they have struggled to change that because they've been told to do so and because they do not want to cause trouble wih or inconvenience to other people. Yeah, i don't think your bad roommate is worth the trouble. besides, i am sure that you have other better things to do than hope than she'll change. have a great day!
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
2 Nov 08
I think it's a helpless cause for you and your roommate, highflyingangel. I think she needs a really BIG wake-up call like being asked to leave the apartment or something like that. You have said that you've already talked to her about this many times and it doesn't seem like these conversations stick to her as the plates she and her friends left for you to clean. I think you and your roommate will always be stressed out and annoyed at most of the things she does now so maybe you could find another roommate if you need that extra rent. Good luck!
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• United States
13 Nov 08
I've had bad roommates before. I had one who had a different flavor every day-- all met online. I've had ones who brought junkies into the house. I've had ones who acted like children. Did I mention that there are only a couple people that I would ever consider being roommates with? I like having people around, but I really have no interest in ever cleaning up after another clueless slob, dealing with a tramp who is having a nic fit or waking up to find strange men sleeping scattered throughout the house. Yeah, been there. Done that. Returned the t-shirt.