do you think you could do long distance

@jhl930 (3605)
United States
November 3, 2008 2:28am CST
i read somewhere today that most girls say that they really love their other and would do anything for them and then when ask if they thought they could do a long distance relationship they said they didn't think that they could do it but for me personally i think that if i love the girl that i am going to be able to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work and not just give up on her because of a little distance. so what about you, do you think that you could do long distance? i would like to take this time to thank everyone for taking the time out of your day to come by and read and review my discussion and hopefully answering, and trying to help me, and i hope that you all have a great day and night tonight, thanks again for taking the time to stop by.
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@jesus777 (664)
• Bermuda
3 Nov 08
its funny you should bring up this discussion i am in a long distance relationship and it is working out for me he is in nigeria i am in bermuda and we plan to get married soon he is moving to america and so will i soon i never thought i would find my soul mate but i thank god that i have and we are very happy together all i can say is love knows no boundaries so distance should not be a factor if you love someone and your heart is saying yes then you should go for it!!!!!!! happy mylotting chow for now!!!!
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@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
3 Nov 08
i know that i would never lose my girlfriend just because we couldn't be together physically, i don't know what i would do without her, thanks for taking the time to reply!
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• Philippines
3 Nov 08
We can't avoid to be far from our love ones once in a while. It's true that having a long distance relationship has some negative effects but if you're going to let it get into you, then that's where the problem will start. It's just a matter of assessing ourself on how far this love that we have have for that person can do.
@diillu (5128)
3 Nov 08
Well, it is difficult to maintain a relationship when it's a long distance. The misunderstanding and all the other things becomes easier and to resolve those misunderstanding becomes difficult. So, many people find it difficult when the relationship is long distance and I have myself seen many relationship that goes bad when it changes into long distance relationship. About me, these days I'm into long distance relationship as well and it's been quite a time but I'm taking it well.
@lrglara (1347)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
i am currently in a long distance relationship and like every other relationship, it takes hard work and with this situation, it is even harder. it also takes a lot of trust, patience, love and respect to make this kind of relationship work. i have to admit its not easy. it is really, really hard! but its all going to be worth it!
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@jhenn22 (1242)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
it really depends...not all would work....but i guess its really depends on the both parties. Communication must be present, most of the relationship failed because of communication gap. Love should be present too. That is the more important element should be present in each relationship. and the lastly respect, it should be present too...there's no love if there's no respect..
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
3 Nov 08
do you think that you could do long distance? Of course and I already do actually....My bf lives in PA and I'm in Western NY..to many that may not seem like a lot of distance but seeing how I dont drive and he doesnt have a car and can't leave the State anyway (he's on parole) believe me, it feels like galaxies away at times.... Being in a long distance relationship definately takes a little more work and a lot more trust IMO but it's definately doable for those who are strong enough (and yes you really do have to be strong on many levels in a situation like that)
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@rsa101 (17104)
• Quezon City, Philippines
3 Nov 08
Well this topic is a favorite in here. There has been several topics already about this kind of a relationship. Well to answer your post I would again say that it really depends on how strong the commitment of each one in the relationship they formed. As for me I had one before but it failed to grow because it is really hard to maintain when someone is not present or is easily accessible when you are into romantic relationship. But there are also many who are able to sustain this kind of a relationship. For me it is very ideal and difficult to maintain.
@kkanaka (887)
• Singapore
3 Nov 08
It all depends on what you want from life, if you love her so much then even the distance will feel like heaven... in fact you will not feel the distance at all... but if it goes for very long I believe if the communication has become less then there are chances that long distance relationship will have problems lasting...but as long as everything is going on fine.. its not bad I would go for it..
@mokbul (616)
• Singapore
4 Nov 08
In this age of busy life, long distance relationship is more practical. They get to know each other over nets much more than than what would have been known by meeting personally, so I believe nothing abnormal or impossible in long distant relationship.
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@Zeddzz (77)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I am in a long distance relationship that has been working now for 8 months. I've been unable to move down state to be with her, but we're making it work for now.
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@Laura84 (191)
3 Nov 08
I am in a long distance relationship at the moment and have been for nearly a year. I am in the UK and my fiancee (an American) is in Bahrain. We cope very well with it as we chat to each other in some way everyday. We also keep each other going by imagining what our life will be like when I move to the US next year to be with him.
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@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I could never have a long distant relationship. One of the ways i feel the most love is to spend time together and have physical contact like holding hands, hugging. I need to interact with my mate and long distance makes that too hard. I mean there could a time when I would need him and couldn't have him near because of the distance. My current relationship we are 45minutes away from each other and it is taking a lot of work because we don't get to see each other much because of gas and he is a busy person.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I thought I could, jhl90. But eight months later, it wasn't working for both of us. At least you try but sometimes people just have to decide when to end a relationship at the right time. It's better to say goodbye to a person when they're right there in front of you rather than break up over the phone and not get that closure you really need.
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• Philippines
3 Nov 08
for me who have been into a long distance relationship for almost 8 months now, i can say that it is working. it depends on the commitment and trust that you will give to each other. if you love the person, distance is not a barrier. like for instance you can use the power of the internet to regularly communicate. if it is a serious relationship that will lead to marriage there is nothing impossible. it is said that if you have the will you will have the ways.
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@savypat (20245)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I know a lot of marriages that cope with long distances, in fact many say it works better that way. There have always been this situation in families, even when the men went off to hunt or watch the flocks for long periods of tme, women and children were left at home.
@CSHIPMAN (22)
• United States
3 Nov 08
i do think it is possible to do a long distance relationship as long as both parties are one hundred percent devoted to the other. i think it would be very difficult but able to be accomplished.
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@Geone1 (65)
3 Nov 08
Long distance relationships Jhl930, don't out normally work out all the time because of the distance it's going to put the relationship in considerable strain to start with, I guess at the beginning it's all the buzz but when it really hits home on how far you really are from each other kicks in I doubt that it would be a relationship that would be sustainable long term. Not only that if you are in the early stages you want to build up a good ramport between each other by seeing each other at least once or twice a week for it to have a good chance of working.
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@glords (2614)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I've had a long distance relationship before. We really struggled when we were 3000 miles apart, and if it had lasted.... the distance I mean.... I'm not sure the relationship would have. We could only stay apart for about 3 months before I had to come running back. I guess I couldn't live without him. When I got back to the same state we lived about 2 hours apart. That was doable. Now we are married and are no minutes apart.
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@fgaloma (163)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
i do believe that if a person love each other, nothing will stop them from loving each other, even though they are apart, they will find a way to see each other or maybe they'll find a way to communicate. but loving someone in a long distance relationship makes it a risk, having apart makes someone misunderstand the other. but i guess destiny will tell if you're ment for each other, even though it is along distance relationship, you'll be together. :)
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@umart13 (841)
• Ireland
7 Nov 08
Hello jhl930, it's a good question! I have lived 9 years now in Germany, but I come originally from Ireland. I have managed to keep up contact with family and friends throughout this time, but I never tested a long-distance relationship with a partner. My partner has always been where I live and work. I agree that I would do everything to keep such relationship alive, if one of us had to move, but my feelings tell me that it cannot work without physical contact over a long distance... Have a nice weekend. Umart